(This is not a direct response to this user, it’s not directly aimed at a person, but at the general feud and hate being spread around the fandom)
When the truth comes out, it should be dealt by the parts involved and if it comes to it, it should be dealt in court, where real justice happens. We are not judges, we are not in a position to judge, we are only the public. Once everything is dealt with everyone can have an opinion, but that’s all: an opinion. We can’t keep cancelling, trying to destroy people’s lives. And I mean it, no matter who abused who, or if they both abused each other, if there are lies, if everything was dysfunctional. Just because they are more seen by the public doesn’t mean the public knows them and it doesn’t put the public in a position to accuse or defend anyone. That is up to the ones who really lived through it, witnessed it and to real PR people, real judges, real lawyers.
Let’s just stay out of this, guys. It is so shitty to be in an abusive relationship and to have stans literally spreading more disinformation, hate and exploring the drama for entertainment is just so absurd. Do you guys even remember where the word stan came from? It’s from a song, by Eminem with Dido, that tells a story about an obsessive fan that kills himself and his pregnant wife over the fact that Eminem is not involved in the relationship Stan created in his head with the singer.
You guys don’t know them. They are not your friends. You have zero relationship with them. You’ve never been really close to them to the point that you actually know and have proof of what happen. Fans have a one sided relationship and that’s all. The ones who are actually present in their lives are the one who might know more, and it varies from person to person, as not every friend is close enough to know everything.
When this is figured out, you can have an opinion. But you still won’t be able to judge if someone is an actual abuser without proof. That is called slander. Sending hate is cyber-bullying. Just wait until there is proof. Facts. Remembering that he-said, she-said is hardly considered evidence anymore. When there is evidence and when there is proof and things are dealt where they must be dealt with (and it is not by the public or in the public view), then maybe the truth comes out and we can affirm.
After the whole Amber Heard vs Johnny Depp, the James Charles being accused of being a predator, I just don’t believe in nothing when it comes to cancel culture. The only thing needing cancelling is the fact that we try to delete a person from public life and society like they are objects. Their drama and their lives are not up to our consumerism. Only the entertainment service they provide and are paid for should be consumed, if we want to. Because when it comes to the end of it, we only know them by the entertainment business and we are not part of their personal lives.
Stop romanticizing the word stan. It literally comes from a song about obsessive fans that are capable of anything for their idols, including crimes, like stalking, sending hate, public shaming, cyber-bullying, hacking, slander, humiliation. It’s not cute to be obsessed like that.
It’s time we learn from cancel culture and grow out of it and out of stanning. It is sick. And I mean it in a societal level and as an psychological illness too.
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