His Butler, Merrymaking

I made a blog for me to put my face on because it seemed logical at the time. So selfie blog? Selfie blog. Occasionally tagged nsfw. More often than I'd like, there's more than just selfies. She/Hers

[ot3]

it’s been long enough i’m making an executive decision that we all need to go reread the tgi fridays infinite mozzarella sticks article

[ot3]

still just as good as i remember it

[maidenofmadness]

Punk Princess wants validation 💙☠💋

[fashion-runways]

CHROMAT Spring/Summer RTW 2022 if you want to support this blog consider donating to: ko-fi.com/fashionrunways

[hopemushrooms]

Chromat Debuts Swimwear For Girls Who Don’t Tuck At Jacob Riis, NYC’s Queerest Beach

“Chromat has been massively inclusive for over a decade now, and once again, has found a way to include another community in fashion.”

This article about how the collection came to be and about the unannounced runway on the beach is really good!

“There isn’t a collection that aestheticises the beauty of trans girls and trans femmes not tucking,” Tourmaline told Refinery29 ahead of the New York Fashion Week show. “And there isn’t a collection that does that with package support for trans men who want to pack.” In creating this collection with McCharen-Tran for Chromat, the duo is bringing fashion to a whole new place. 

About the runway:

In the democratic spirit of Jacob Riis, the collection was presented in a pop-up format that allowed beachgoers — Chromat’s actual customers — to be the audience, as opposed to New York Fashion Week’s standard crowd. 

[spoogliedoo]

this tweet fucking rules – it’s utterly incomprehensible on so many levels. 

plant-based beer? is there meat-based beer? what the fuck is meat-based beer, chuck? 

why is he thanking joe biden? is the senate majority leader not typically allowed to watch the oscars? 

why is chuck sitting so close to the tv? and in what is that, a dining chair? who watches television like this? 

[tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva]

this tweet is environmentally sustainable because someone clearly turned off the lights when screenshotting it

[marksloan]

Movie References in SHAUN OF THE DEAD (2004) - Part One 1. An American Werewolf in London (1981) dir. John Landis 2. Reservoir Dogs (1993) dir. Quentin Tarantino 3. Dawn of the Dead (1978) dir. George A. Romero 4. Night of the Living Dead (1968) dir. George A. Romero 5. Day of the Dead (1985) dir. George A. Romero

[dustrial-inc]

• 100% supersoft polyester microfiber • Nose wire that helps adjust the mask • Elastic bands with PVC earloop size regulators • Pocket for a filter or napkin • Washable and reusable

Dustrial.net

[corvidwytch]

Salt your roots...

Photo by @weebo_swag (Instagram)

[fenharellan13]

Look at this absolutely fabulous picture that @angelicdazephotography took of my Emily Kaldwin! 🤩 . . #dishonored #dishonored2 #emilykaldwin #emilykaldwincosplay #dishonoredcosplay #arkanestudios #videogamecosplay #videogame @bethesda @dishonored #assassin #thief #crossbow #railbow #empress #markoftheoutsider #gamergirl #cosplay #mycosplay #regal #royal #cosplayer #victorian #edwardian #fantasy (at Katsucon) https://www.instagram.com/p/B9zM1xolPj9/?igshid=6ol2t16lt3d3

[battybizarre]

[spookyloop]

the embroidery on my jacket is coming along nicely ♾✖️♾✖️♾

[spookyloop]

I often get messages asking how to dress goth on a budget or people saying they wish they had the money to dress like me, and let me tell you I honestly don’t spend a lot of money on clothes. But I do follow a few basic rules when I do: 1. I buy things that are versatile and can be worn in multiple situations and are easy to match with other clothes and accessories in my wardrobe 2. I don’t shy away from a little DIY to make something fit or look a little better if the original cheap product isn’t perfect 3. I don’t do impulse purchases and I research what I’m buying. Can I get it for a better price somewhere else? Does the quality match the price? Do I need it *now* or can I wait until there is a sale? Is it similar to something I already have? Can I see myself wearing this often enough to justify the purchase?

Take for example these pictures. The denim jacket was £13 and it took a lot of searching to find one that was the style I wanted and in my budget (except that I painted the silver buttons matte black). The belt was £3 because I chose a seller who had longer delivery times than the others. The fishnets were two for £1.5 because the brand is cheap but the quality is the same as one pair you pay £8.99 for at another fast fashion store. The top is actually a part of a bikini set but it has a smart design and I specifically bought it because it doesn’t look like one, meaning I can wear it for swimming and in hot weather in general. The shorts were £15 because I waited until they were 30% on sale (and worth paying for because I knew that replicating the pattern myself would have been more expensive.) The most expensive part of this outfit is the coffin necklace, which cost £30 and I only got it because it was one of a kind at an antique store and is made of real silver which is worth paying for. The skull ring was £7 and from a place I knew I wouldn’t be returning to any time soon. The embroidery thread was around £2 (plus the labour but I did this myself and there are also patches in the back that I made myself). Excluding the jewellery and the thread, this outfit is about £45 and all of its components can be worn separately in different outfits. I also support second-hand shopping, but nothing in this outfit happens to be purchased that way.

I work in retail and we’re expected to wear our brand’s clothing on the shop floor, but I’ve even paired the tights, the shorts and the belt with my work t-shirts, and I often wear just the belt with a dress from our brand to make the outfit feel like me. A few weeks ago I wanted to buy a pair of barbed wire hoop earrings but all the ones I could find were out of my budget or not the style I was looking for. So I went to a local fast fashion store and bought silver hoops and then visited a craft store and bought craft wire. An hour and some sore fingertips later, I had earrings just to my taste and for less than £5. And I recently bought myself a long winter coat but I’m adding snap buttons to the bottom and on the lining so that I can make it shorter if I want to. So instead of investing in a long coat and a short one, I’ll have a 2-in-1 jacket for the price of the buttons (of course modifications like this don’t work with every type of jacket).

Good outfits aren’t about having a lot of money and buying expensive things. Smart accessorising and outfit building matched with patience and research and a little DIY can make all the difference. I know Tumblr, YouTube and Instagram can make it seem like alternative fashion is all about expensive brands but that’s *really* far from the truth. There’s nothing wrong with being a goth on a budget.

[minas-writing]

This has become my “post cool things I make” blog

Anyway, have the D&D classes as Demonia-brand shoes. I thought long and hard about this

[spookyloop]

🖤 29 years of doom and gloom 🖤

[35mmdigitalfilm]

“Niomi, why do you have 87,425,206 radios on your hip?!?!”

[35mmdigitalfilm]

So DragonCon came and went. It felt good to be a badass for a week.

[endless-pterodactyl-screeching]

I already posted these on Insta, but damn if I don't looks great in these 💜💜💜

[destroyscythe-heck]

The whole effect

They/them

[35mmdigitalfilm]

Wish I could have attended the parade and festival and maybe saw this in realspace!

[loxbian-deactivated20200516]

I had something reframed really simply and eloquently while I was on vacation, talking with other butch trans d*kes. It’s that, like, passing doesn’t mean anything because we have always been treated like women. It didn’t start when/if we began transitioning. It has been this way whether we were conscious of it or not. So passing is an attempt to make ourselves more palatable to cis people. And this I knew, and is why I made a very conscious decision to be butch.

But where I had trouble in my own understanding is why and how we were treated like women before coming out/transitioning. And I realized it was because I couldn’t articulate the mechanics of this with specificity. I always said, “at some point in our lives, we began internalizing messages about ourselves that are the experiences of womanhood.” But that’s really not enough nor totally accurate, which becomes especially troublesome when I’m trying to explain it to people who aren’t trans women.

But really, there’s a gendered socialization of children in patriarchy. This is meant to rear them into one of three categories: men, women, and failed women. You can probably guess where trans women fall in this. My unpopular take is that there are no such things as male/female socialization. There is one patriarchal socialization that we all internalize. So our incompetence at boyhood growing up is absolutely noticed by others: parents, elders, teachers, children, teens. And so we’re punished severely for it. So we begin to understand that the messages that make sense to us intellectually and emotionally are those meant for “real women.” But we are not that. We are failed women—wrong women.

Then that’s when we know our own fear—in understanding that we are women, but cannot do it adequately to avoid violence done against us, both on a state level and intrapersonal level. It means nobody believes us no matter what we say about our lives and our experiences. So we often attempt to transition and try to be as gender conforming as possible. We want to be palatable to have our lives taken seriously. But they still aren’t. The goalposts are always moving. There is no winning.

And that’s what womanhood is. It’s the inescapable violence of patriarchy. We are subjected to it as women, because that is how the world treats us. I’m hoping that this makes sense.