Diary Entry
Today, I had quite a long conversation with my colleague whom I consider close, and I really like her. We’re good friends, and we can respect each other.
She is planning her marriage and feels quite uncertain because her boyfriend doesn’t seem to have good emotional intelligence and doesn’t really take her side that well. She is also confused about what love really is at this point. However, they share the same vision and mission in life. Her sister told her, “It’s better to marry a poor man who respects women than a rich man who doesn’t. Money can be earned together.”
We couldn’t fully agree with that statement, until she asked me a question that I once asked her: “What do you prefer? A man with the same vision and mission, or a man you truly love?” I still couldn’t answer that question.
Because for me, my concern isn’t just about that. My concern is whether I should choose a man with strong religious values or not. The problem is, a man who seems religious doesn’t always have good manners or attitude.
My number one criteria is that he must be soft-spoken. If he speaks rudely or isn’t a good communicator, he will never be on my list. Then I asked her, “What are you looking for in a man? Emotional support or financial support?” She said financial support. It’s unique, but understandable—we are all human with different ways of thinking.
For me, I prefer emotional support. That’s number one. Undebatable.