It’s been a very long time since I visited this blog.
As I’ve found quite a few asks sitting in the ask box, I felt like I need to write a post, hopefully reconnecting with everyone who still pays a visit to this precious blog of mine.
I am sure it’s quite obvious I haven’t updated anything at all the past couple of years. It feels a little back-stabbing writing this as I know many are waiting for fic updates 🫠 I am terribly sorry for leaving everyone hanging like that. I am even more sorry to say again, that I haven’t had time to work on anything, nor do I think I can ever manage again. 💔
I always thought I wouldn’t be one of those but here I am. 😔 if you’d like to read more, please open the whole post. If not, I totally understand why you would be upset, sorry again.
My life has changed a lot after I found a job that has very messy schedules. I don’t (and can’t have) any routines and when I don’t work I am recovering from work 🥹. My life changed completely.
And there is something I’d like to share with you 😊
I met someone very special. I know it sounds a tad crazy, maybe even cliché, but this man is everything green flag that I have ever incorporated into my stories (whether shared here or just sitting in my drafts on my laptop). Sometimes it gets almost creepy and I get scared he read my stories. Because how can someone tick off so many things? Say the exact things? He doesn’t do social media, so I know none of my muses are true, which makes the whole thing even crazier.
And the best part, he feels completely the same as me. I feel incredibly lucky and blessed, because for many years I was quite sure I wouldn’t find anyone with whom I can feel as comfortable, as cared for and as safe as I feel with him. Looks and personality are both just perfect for me.
And I think for years that I was writing, I was imagining how I’d like to be treated in a relationship, to have a mature partner who makes me feel giddy and at the same time is intellectually challenging (in a good way!) too. With him, everything just clicked. Turns out, this feeling actually exists, it’s not a complete romance book hoax hehe.
I am not even sure why I am writing this here, but since my stories are all romantic and very relationship focused, I wanted to share this with you. I am good, I’m trying to be an independent woman, completely accountable for her life, spendings, life-style. And now someone who is in love (thought it’s impossible).
If you read all the way here, I am wishing and hoping that you are healthy and well too.
I’ve had a lot of asks over the months through which I haven’t opened tumblr, I only did it a couple of days ago for the first time in forever 🥺😭 but the latest pending ask just made me realize that this blog wasn’t just a little past time hobby… I really did put a lot of work into the stories and the fact that some people actually read and think a little deeper than what I offer with sentences and a k-pop figure… and that some people really care that much about me and this blog .. I’m 💔💗💓💝 I will get to u anon 🩷🥺
I just felt like I had to tell you this after I saw your post but I'm out here literally re reading captain bucheon whenever I feel down it's like my comfort fic you know but i didn't want to comment or ask about it in case it would pressure you or if you'd be uncomfortable
Thank you so much. And huge apologies for a late reply :/ thank you for being so thoughtful.
Your words are a huge compliment, I’m shocked to think someone would read my work, let alone re-read. You gave me your precious free-time. Thank you ❤️
I'm waiting for CB!! Its one of my favs. I'm sorry you're not getting feedback, I've read both BYB and CB and commented before and I don't really reread things but I'll read and comment on next updates!! I'm sure others are waiting too!!
My reply to this ask is so overdue, I feel incredibly sorry for coming back so, so late 😩
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. I’ve been going through a very difficult year of graduating in Korea (it was hard af), I was left burnt out to the bits. That’s the truth. After writing/editing/rewriting 100+ pages of thesis, I still can’t sit in front of my laptop for long time and an empty word doc is like a ghost coming for me from the past. But I want to continue CB, I do. I had huge plans for it :S
It’s just that I can’t promise anything now, since I’m still collecting myself, and now my new job is starting .. I’m trying to re-discover my joy for hobbies..
check carrds, byf, dni, abouts, etc., just like you would on twitter and respect them
LF moots most likely isn't going to work unless you find other twt users who migrated - tumblr functions on a following content creator basis, and you won't easily build a following
on cc's, do not repost or take creations, no matter what they are - reblog them (button between like and the commenting one, looks like a retweet) and preferably leave tags
send asks and interact with people! you can make moots with non-twt users, but a lot of us are pickier
please don't clog tags
please don't get angry if you don't find success moving here and can't get a following / make moots just from having mutual interests, or if people are against the idea of you migrating from twitter / dislike that.
please please please don't bring the streaming culture or anything of that sort
listen to veteran (kpop) tumblr users please. we want to protect our (hell)site and culture
do not spam like
please have a url and pfp so we know you're real. anyone that looks like a bot tends to get blocked
honestly if ur a new user from twitter. u don’t HAVE to have a whole blog set up immediately for people to not block you. like just change ur icon to a cartoon character or something and make a post that says like. “hey i’m new i’m just lurking here for a bit to get my bearings before i start posting/reblogging” and ur fine just like, make it clear you’re not a bot yk
though i do reccomend starting to reblog things eventually, it’s a good way to keep all the stuff you like saved in one place so you can look back on it later, especially if you tag stuff. while the search function isn’t perfect, tagging stuff you post/reblog makes it easier to find. a bit more organised than the bookmark feature on twitter at least :p
actually i'm reblogging this again with commentary, fuck it.
There's people in the notes talking about "not basing your worth off numbers", and like. that isn't what this post is about. It's not a threat, either, it's a comment on how this site works, at a mechanical level.
Likes are worthless. Let me say that again.
Likes. Are. Worthless.
They don't do anything. They're a bookmark. They were never part of how tumblr works - in the early days we didn't even have a like button, and the site still more or less acts as though we don't. They're personal bookmarks and the only people who "get" anything from them are you (you bookmark the post) and the OP (maybe a very slight serotonin boost), but they don't keep the post in circulation, they don't keep it alive.
Without reblogs, a post will be dead in the water within an hour. No matter how good it is, no matter how many hours of painstaking love and attention its creator put into it, it will be dead within an hour and never seen again. It gets pushed down the dashboard and nobody aside from the followers who were online when it was posted will see it.
And there's a huge difference in engagement on posts that get even one lucky reblog from someone with wider reach - that one reblog shows your post to five, ten, fifteen other people, and if one of those people also reblogs it, and so on and so forth, that's how posts stay alive and in circulation.
It's like a contagion, but we're sharing creativity instead of disease.
And that matters. That "lifespan" of the post matters, artists and writers give up on this site and go to sites where posts have longer lifespans because it sucks to spend hours of your life, maybe even days, to get two notes and some fucking pocket lint for your efforts.
We create for ourselves, but we share because we want people to see it, because that engagement offers positive feedback and encouragement to continue.
But more than that, if every post (whether art, fic, gifset, whatever) is dying within an hour or a day of being posted, that means it's not making it onto your dashboard. And if it's not on your dashboard, you won't see it. This kills the site, after a while. You stop seeing the posts, because nobody is putting them on your dashboard, because this site doesn't have an algorithm like twitter and insta's and it shouldn't, it's the last bastion of chronological timelines.
Forgive my giant fucking rant I am so tired right now and full of the plague but like stop acting like artists and writers are just being whiny little babies, or "threatening" to withhold our fucking work (you're not entitled to it! it's ours! if we get nothing out of sharing it we're well within our rights to keep it private!) when we say this site will dry up without reblogs. We're just stating facts.
also I’ve seen some people in the tags say ‘oh there have always been more likes on posts’ no there haven’t ????
these are posts from 2013, look at the ratio
not to sound like a nursing home resident but back then people know that the point of this site was to reblog things and share them, not to bury them away among your other 23k liked posts
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