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hargroveswift-deactivated202102

as you can tell i am VERY upset with him right now

I see a lot of people who tell young people–especially young people who are heading into college–that they should “do what they love.” And they’re right. You should do what you love.

But there’s a world of difference between doing what you love for you, and doing what you love for a paycheck.

I went to undergrad for graphic design and 3-D design–art and more art, I usually say–and I loved it. You know what I didn’t love? Trying to collect my fees from clients. Trying to meet unrealistic, over-simplified or over-specific briefs from people who didn’t know what they were talking about. Coming home, having worked creatively all day, with no creative juice left for the things I wanted to do.

You know what I would tell you instead? Do something that you can be interested in, with people you like.

You don’t have to love it. Loving your work can be a lot, and it often means you have to live in your job 24/7. Some people can do that. Not everyone can, or should. But if you can find work that’s interesting enough that it doesn’t feel tedious, and people you can enjoy spending your 9-5 with, and you can make money, that’s great! It means you can do the things you love for you.

I’m in law school now. It’s interesting work, and difficult, and I like doing it. I like how complicated it gets, and I like the stories it tells. But I don’t come home and read law journals for fun. I come home, and I sculpt, and I draw, and I paint, and I read. I do these things for me.

And I love it.

shimmeringecho

Gods I wish I’d had this ten years ago when everyone was pushing for me to do art for a living. Probably wouldn’t have burned out as hard as I did

sabertoothwalrus

Once when I was high school a teacher from another school came into our class and talked about stuff like this. He said instead of trying to get a job you love, find a lifestyle you love.

He said he had no aspirations to be a teacher. His passion is surfing. But the reason he loves teaching is because he can go surfing every weekend, because there’s no school. And he’s free during the summer and holidays to spend time with his family.

art-res

Good food for thought. This is why I don’t study art in college even though I LOVE it. I also don’t want someone grading me for my direct expression, but it’s more bc I want to have a job that gives me the option to do art as a hobby with financial security. Obviously this isn’t to say being a pro artist is bad or anything, but think long and hard about ALL of your options.

lightspun

Seriously this! I chased theatre because it made me happy, it was the only outlet I had at the time. I really wish that some one would have REALLY sat down and saw thru my stubbornness and prejudice to help me grow as a person and see that I could absolutely find a more lucrative and stable career that I don’t hate. But I had to find that out on my own.

thestrawberrynight

today's mood: making art here, surrounded by plants and flowers, where I can concentrate on my feelings, keep calm, get inspiration and charges my works with positive energy

rosswoodpark

‪GOD I found another article about why ADHD kids say “I don’t know” so much. my entire childhood was getting yelled at for doing some ADHD shit and me not being able to offer an explanation when asked why I did something. ‬

abcsofadhd

Adding to this, its cause of our executive dysfunction and emotional dysregulation (naturally there’s more things at play than just these two but I’m naming main aspects).

We tend to have alexithymia, meaning we have difficulty identifying and describing own feelings.

You can’t say how you feel if you legit don’t know.

Self monitoring is an executive function; our self awareness about how we are doing presently .. which is hampered in ADHDers.

You can’t say what you think if you legit don’t know.

gayvian

oh my god

impishglee

growing up is just gradually learning progressively crazier shit abt your family that they didn’t tell you when u were a kid

tallat-of-thralls

If you look back 3 generations you will find criminals, mobsters, and war fugitives.

2 generations, special forces, war heroes, conmen, and people of the cloth.

1 generation, kingpins, mobsters, yuppies, pastors and nuns, and warlocks.

My generation is boring af. Computer programmers, a possible serial killer, a dentist, hermits, and drug addicts.

ronan-adam

i really did start watching 911 thinking it had canon gays huh

Just an update I still fucking love Buzzfeed Unsolved!

qvotable

The world only exists in your eyes. You can make it as big or as small as you want.

F. Scott Fitzgerald // The Crack-Up (via qvotable)

poemswords

the-book-diaries

You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope…I have loved none but you.

Jane Austen, Persuasion (via the-book-diaries)

bring-me-bellarke

I’m re-watching the 100 cause I love the pain and holy shit. I just realized the first people Bellamy and Clarke ever killed was for each other. Clarke kills Atom to spare Bellamy the pain, and Bellamy kills Dax to save Clarke. Oh jeez.

nottherightseason

No one:

Literally not a soul:

Me literally any chance I get:

flutterofabutterfly

Newsflash: If you’re hating on Dacre Montgomery because of a CHARACTER that he played in a TV SHOW than you’re a dumbass who needs to learn how to separate fact from fiction. Don’t hate the poor boy for doing his job. He does nothing but mind his own goddamn business. Hating on an actor because of a character they play isn’t a personality trait. I swear some of you have way too much time on your hands.