i think part of women's inability to accept that johnny depp is an abusive man because they like him and grew up watching his movies is related to the overall resistance to acknowledging the reality of male violence and patriarchy. around 20% of women have been raped, 40% have experienced some sort of sexual assault, 80% have been sexually harassed, teenage girls are at the highest risk, 20% of women and 5-10% of men were sexually abused before they turned 18. 99% of perpetrators are men. so what does that say about the men in our lives? it's a terrifying reality to face. and we can't even get men to stop saying bitch. men are violent and entitled, ordinary men who we like, men we share our homes with, fathers and brothers and husbands. really facing up to this is fucking soul crushing.
So a man that isnât OK with Amber shitting on his bed is abusive. Great logic.













