You know what? Forget the discourse. This is no longer my hill to die on.
You wanna ship canonically aspec characters because “aro/ace people can still date/have sex”? Okay, then. LET’S DO IT. I wanna see an aromantic character with an alloromantic love interest. I wanna see that confession of undying love and the moment when the aro character says they will never feel the same way—not romantically.
I wanna see the asexual character with their allosexual partner. I wanna see that moment when the ace characters tries sex with their partner for the first time because they want to make them happy only to realize that they are 100% sex repulsed.
I wanna see the two demiromantics who don’t even know if what they feel is romantic attraction, but they adore each other and just want to make healthy snacks together and destroy each other at Mario Kart.
I wanna see the two aces who love sensual affection and are figuring out what they define as sexual or not.
I wanna see the romance + sex neutral aroace who happily and consensually does whatever makes their partner happy…but their partner still struggles with feeling undesired.
Oh, babe. You thought shipping an aspec character would be just like shipping an allo character?
are you guys aware of the @acespnminibang or was that before your time? those fics do indeed deal with all sorts of what you list here.
maybe running a few aspec-rep events will draw in more of what you like? i know with the minibang it drew in respectful allo writers keen to write aspec relationships, not just frustrated aroaces. sometimes making an event of it is the best way to get people to join in.
not suggesting OP specifically be the one to run an event or anything, but i'm sure someone could
anyway here's some fics
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
I can't run the ace minibang right now, but if anyone is interested in taking over for me (temporarily or permanently), hit me up over at @eddiemunsonsmiddlefingers.
I will consider anyone who can show me they:
Are over 18 years old (I'll take your word for this; I require it because explicit fics and art ARE allowed in this bang).
Are part of or are a strong ally to the aro/ace community in particular and the LGBTQIAA+ community in general.
Do not engage in "anti" behavior- e.g. no ship shaming, no kink shaming, no puritanical gatekeeping, no right wing political bullshit.
Having experience running a bang is a huge plus, but I'm willing to walk the right person through what needs to be done if they haven't been on that side of the game table before.
(This offer stands as long as this post is up, I am on Tumblr, and the bang isn't running.)
~ Sunny
