Advice for Multiples

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An advice blog for both those suffering from Dissociative Identity Disorder and those who experience plurality/multiplicity outside of the dissociative spectrum. Ask anything.

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My therapist talks to me about my different "parts" or "pieces" and has mentioned DID to my parents. I inquired once as to whether she had a diagnosis or a name for these pieces and she said that she didn't want to create a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's always been important for me to name things concretely. How can I go about asking her to name something for me if she refused to do it once already?

Explain your need for it

Is it common to have a nagging feeling that something really bad happened to you as a child, but not remember anything terrible?

Yes, relatively

Is it possible to be a psychosis-based system? Like, having voices that behave and interact with you in a very similar way a headmate would?

Yes.

Hiya! I am an alter and my host is in therapy. Do you think I should go too? I do have a lot of problems but I don't know if shrinks help alters...

Sure. Depends on the shrink. Depends on the alter.

I have a question... what are your opinions on singlets using plural pronouns? I would like to use them for myself, but I dont believe Im part of a system? I feel as though I share my brain/body with multiple other somethings but as far as I know there is no definitive entity there that could constitute me being a part of a system, though plural feels better to me? Thanks!

I don't care. Someone else might.

Is it possible for alters to remember trauma that didn't physically happen to the body? Our caretaker, It, remembers things happening at a psychiatric hospital that I, the hose, don't. They feel like they happened when he is cofronting, but i can't remember them happening and sometimes they feel like i'm making them up (sometimes i feel like i'm making all of this up) Is that possible? If it is, how to I explain that what happened isn't real and we don't need to fear hospitals any more? Help?

Yes. alters have memories separate from the host's and may remember experiences in the body's life or their own that other alters or the host don't remember.

#peppermintscented-queer

hello, is this blog still active? you haven't posted in a few weeks

No.

is it possible, when mixed with schizophrenia, for the host to hallucinate the other members of the system in their surrounding environment and interact with them?

Yes.

Hi, I'm new to the whole formal idea of... well, any of this, but the six of us have been sharing a body for about ten years now. Is it possible to not have a host? Because he used to be here a long time ago, but it's like he just faded away. No one has seen any evidence that he exists for like five years. One guy said that he died. Is that something that can happen?

Yes. Many systems have a missing host, core, and /or original.

Is it normal to not know who's fronting/feel like nobody is fronting? We get a lot of brain fog and only occasionally know who is acting, don't have much access to thoughts...

Yes. Depends on the system.

Can an alter have DID? or a dissociative form of bipolar?

Probably.

Does someone have to be DID to be a multiple? Or could it be more of a spiritual thing rather then a physiological thing?

I don't know if spiritual plurality is a thing. Sounds off to me.

We've maintained a steady long-distance relationship with a wonderful woman for several years now, unfortunately only managing to actually see each other about twice a year. Now she's talking about moving so we can be closer together, and there's a huge problem: She vehemently believes multiplicity doesn't exist, and this didn't come out until a year into our relationship. Now we're too afraid to come out to her, and terrified that if we move closer together we can't hide it. What do I do?

Be honest before she moves closer.

sorry but omg does anyone else ever have a problem dressing your meatspace with headmates who fight over what to wear? two of my headmates are really into fashion but they have almost opposite tastes (for example, one likes pastels and lots of color, the other prefers monochrome), and we can never decide on how to dress ourselves besides just having outfits of both styles and switching between

We usually take it to a vote or let people fight over it I guess.

When frontfucked, we start outside and walk into our headspace (projecting ourselves into some unnamed outsider who is actually imagined and not an alter), then check for who's in their rooms asleep (eliminating ideas for who's fronting), and work our way up top to the fronting room to see who's in.

I'm sure this was relevant to a discussion had on the blog.

Is it possible for the host/original to die/leave the system and still have the system and body continue living?

Yes. Relatively common.

So... You don't have to have DID or dissociate to have headmates?

Technically, no.

Plurality and DID aren't the same thing; it's like rectangles and squares. All DID systems are plurality systems (if they're not getting fussy about labels), not all plurality systems are DID systems.

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