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[afriendislistening]

Hi so…I'm kinda not sure what to do right now. There's this girl I like and I see her once a week through a musical theatre group we're both in together. All of our friends say that she's really flirty when we talk and she knows I like her, but she likes another guy so I don't really know how to approach it. Any suggestions?

Emily: Hey! Well if she already knows that you like her what have you  got to lose? It's not like you can give your likeniss of her away (does that make sense?). So I guess just keep doing what you're doing, if shes supposedly flirting back you're doing something right. If you want to get closer and kind of put yourself in her view more, just ask her and a group of other people to the movies. Just so she kinda sees you not just as that one person she sees once a week cause you guys have similar hobbies. Although if she likes this guy and kinda wont stop thinking about them then you can pull out all the allure you want (go Miranda refrence), but you might not change her mind. But persist and at least you will get an amazing new friend from it!

Hope that help and good luck! xx

[afriendislistening]

I don't know if you guys still do this but I have a question. I like this boy and we seem to be growing closer but there was a party last night and one of my best friends started making moves and flirting, even though she knew about me, she is so much more confident and prettier then I am. I think he may becoming interested in her and I need some advice.. Thanks.

Katie: Holla we're totally picking this back up again If your best friend did all that while knowing how you felt about this guy, then maybe she isn't such a great friend. But you can't put yourself down like that - don't think that way. She's not any more confident or pretty than you could be or are. Guys aren't as shallow as we assume they are... just because a confident girl hits on them, doesn't mean they'll fall all over her. Just keep talking to this guy and getting closer as friends. As cheesy as it sounds, if it's meant to be, it will be. You could even try talking to your friend about it if you're feeling brave, and maybe ask her what her intentions are for him, and if they're not serious, ask her to back off? If she genuinely likes him, then that's a whole different issue. Let us know what happens! 

[afriendislistening]

hi guys why arent you online so often i miss talking to you x

aw thanks, we're back now bitches

[afriendislistening]

hi so yeah basically i dont see the point in me being here anymore like there is literally no point to me

Katie: I'm sorry that you feel this way, but i promise you that you are important. You matter. I'm sure that there are so many people that care about you, even if you feel like there isn't at the moment. If anything, stay alive for the trivial things, like Sunday mornings, winter nights, thunder storms, kittens, music - anything that works.  Stay alive so that you can eventually meet your favourite band or artist. Sorry i took so long to reply, i hope you're ok sweetie xx

[afriendislistening]

Hi guys. I just found your blog and wow, you guys are really good people! Thank you for being here for all those who need help. I wanted to ask for your help too. I've recently been giving up on life, I'm behind in my schoolwork, I hate everything I do/make, and I can just never seem to do anything the way I want it or make things turn out right. I recently broke up with my girlfriend (we're still friends) and I just feel like my life is worthless and I shouldn't be alive. What should I do?

Katie: Your life is not worthless and I'm so sorry that you feel like it is at the moment. Just please promise to not resort to hurting yourself. Think of your future, imagine the future that you want; with someone you love, in a job you enjoy, being happy. Even though you may feel like nothing you do is right, it's not real. Youre unhappy so the way you process this stuff is warped. You're still loved and valued by many, even your ex-girlfriend, and you have the potential to do whatever you want. So stay strong and keep your chin up because this'll all pass if you give it time, i promise. x

[afriendislistening]

I just moved across the world and am on my own now and I just feel so alone and kinda depressed. I used to be so happy but I think being so far from my friends and starting over is taking a toll on me. I dunno what to do uhuhu ; A ;

Katie: Sorry that you had to go through that, moving would be hard on anyone. As much as leaving your old friends sucks, think of it this way; you can completely reinvent yourself. These new people know nothing about you, they dont know any of the silly or embarrassing stuff you've done in the past, you can be the person you want to be. Hopefully you meet some new people soon and you'll fit right in xx

[afriendislistening]

hi. so ive a boyfriend and we've been dating for so long and we always tell each other like, being super honest. and then my boyfriend goes to college out of town and i can barely see him, it's like we can only see each other once a month and then one night he just told me that he met a girl and he likes this girl but he wont leave me and he said that he loves me. what should i do? i still really love him but idk, he said that he likes another girl omgomg help -e

Katie: Sweetie, this whole situation sucks. it really does. I think that you need to protect your own heart, and the only way you can do that is to let him go for a while. It'll hurt, but it would hurt much more knowing that your boyfriend has feelings for another girl. If he's the real deal then Im positive that he'll come back to you.

Cudos to him for being honest about it, you've found yourself a quality guy. x

[afriendislistening]

And i dont know him that well so what do i talk to him about

Katie: whoops just saw this. take about literally ANYTHING. maybe suggest playing something stupid like 20 questions to lighten the mood and get to know one each other. talk about music, you can bring it up by mentioning the music that's playing in the club. Like, if it's not the sort of music you listen to, say something like "this music's not really my thing, do you like it?" (wow that's lame but you get the idea)

hope this helped in the slightest x

[afriendislistening]

I met a guy at a club last week really briefly and he got my number and i didnt think he would remember me but hes been texting me all week and im seeing him again at the same club, im super nervous. Any advice on what i should/shouldnt do?

Katie:  Hey! The main thing is just PLEASE stay safe. He might be the nicest guy ever but before you do anything like go home with him etc, make sure you can trust him. Just be yourself, relax and try and be the same person he met the first time (which was hopefully you being yourself!) Just take it slow until you're sure he's legit. xx

[afriendislistening]

There's this guy who I know likes me but is too shy to ask me out, and when asked if I like him back and if I would agree to date him I just say yes. But I don't really think I do, I'm not sure, I haven't quite made up my mind about it yet. Is it bad that I'm kinda leading him on? I haven't had a boyfriend so the whole thing is new to me, but that's sort of the main reason as to why I'm so indecisive, I'm 15, so the fact that I've been forever single is a bit sad. Any advice?

Katie:  well firstly, is is SO not sad that you've never dated before. in fact it's awesome. 

There's nothing wrong with making sure you like the guy before dating him, because it would be far worse if you said yes when you didn't really like him, right? Just relax and take your time with him, there's no rush. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything you're uncomfortable with.

Maybe be honest with him and just let him know that you need some time to work out how you feel, and that you'll make the first move when you know you're ready. good luck, let us know how it turns out! xx

[afriendislistening]

I'll keep those in mind and I'll do them to become happier! :) Thank you so much for helping me! ^_^ ;w; *hugs* <3 <3 - The confused fan

Katie: yay! glad we could help c: *hugs back* x

[afriendislistening]

Hi! :) I've stumbled upon your blog and I admired both of you for being understanding and supportive to people! <3 Thank you so much for helping a lot of people to be brave and that they're not alone in their situations! <3 Umm, the thing that I want to be helped from is: I feel very happy yet sad at the same time in being a fan of celebrities. I love them but because of that love, my realist side always knock some sense to me that they're unreachable and I'm just merely a fan. What should I do?

Katie: why thank you! And I understand how you feel. What you could try doing is distancing yourself just a little bit from the media that makes you feel so connected to them, like their twitter accounts or something. If you stop basing your life around these celebrities so much, you'll find better, more interesting things or people in real life that you have access to, and won't make you feel bad. Remind yourself that these celebrities are just people too, who have their own lives and probably don't base their entire existence around their fans. 

Hope this helped, :)xx

[afriendislistening]

Hey girls, I really like this guy, he is the greatest, I think he may like me back. But I am a really shy person and I know that if I asked him about it I would probably die. I think I'll just keep spending time with him till I am for sure, but what do you guys think?

Katie: Hey love, i'm pretty sure every girl has been in your position at least once! My advice is go for it. I know it's not that hard, but i once kept quiet about liking my friend for 2 years because i was scared of rejection, he finally got the balls to ask me out and tbh i regret waiting so long. All that time wishing and hoping could have been spent together. Chances are your guy is probably just shy, and confidence in a girl is really attractive (apparently c:) on the other hand...the best fool-proof way i know of is over text. Play twenty questions or something like that, and hopefully if he asks something like "do you like anyone?" simply say "yeah, you" if he starts to say that he doesnt feel the same way, just correct yourself to "yeah, you?*" HOW TRICKY IS THATAnyway i hope this helped in the slightest (: xx 

[sleeplessmosh]

GUYS GUYS GUYS if you’re super cool you should watch my cover of two of Bring Me The Horizon’s songs, Can You Feel My Heart and Sleepwalking c:

[afriendislistening]

everyone should watch my cover bc i practised really hard ok c:

[afriendislistening]

Hey you guys are amazing, it's really nice that you try to help everyone

Katie: Thanks, really c: People have sort of stopped messaging us though, which is okay cause hopefully it means they're okay you feel me? haha x

[afriendislistening]

does anyone need any advice? about anything at all. shoot me a message :) ~ Katie

[afriendislistening]

I have really bad anxiety. I cry all the time and only leave the house for school.

Katie: all i can say is... i feel ya. i know how much anxiety sucks. i have found some stuff that helps when having a panic attack or anything like that. firstly, stop what you're doing and close your eyes. Take 5 deep breaths, slowly. If there's something in particular you're anxious about, imagine it all going smoothly. It'll calm you down when you acknowledge that everything can work out. Some people say think of the worst that could happen, but don't do this. I've tried it and it just makes it worse (for me, anyway). So yeah, imagine it going well.I can't think of anything else at the moment but i'm sorry that you have to go through this, no one deserves it. Also, crying doesn't make you weak or anything like that so don't feel bad for crying a lot. Once you start learning how to come down from a panic attack you'll naturally feel more comfortable leaving the house so don't worry about that yet. Good luck in recovery lovely, message me anytime here or here. :) xx