my Te keeps taking on way more responsibilities than I have time for and I can't seem to find time to finish them. Like, I feel weirdly calm when accepting new tasks and projects because I feel like I'm going to complete so much but then procrastination kicks in and I can't. do. anything. please help I'm literally so behind and really need to get my shit together.
Why are you telling me this? You know your problem. I bet you know how to fix it, too.
I think you like the idea of accomplishing so much, but you don’t want to actually do the work. Which is honestly normal behavior, to be honest. I do it all the time.
You know the difference, though?
I always pull my shit together. Do you want to know why? Because the way I see it, I don’t have a choice. I can sit here and procrastinate forever (don’t get me wrong, I definitely procrastinate, just not as often as others do), OR I could get off my ass and make my life worth living.
I’m not trying to be harsh here– this is a lie, I’m definitely being rude to give you a dose of reality –but there are thousands, maybe even millions of people who want the same things that you do in life. There are probably a few like you who take too many projects on in the hopes of being the best they can be and then they crash and burn because they didn’t put enough effort into it. But there are more that are going out there and spending every precious minute they get working towards their goal.
And you might elbow out a couple of those people. But if it comes down to someone who’s worked hard every chance they got vs. you, I can guarantee they’ll pick the other person. Because all that hard work gave them knowledge. Actual experience. Credibility. They know what they’re talking about.
I’m telling you this because it happened to me a while back. Me and this one girl, let’s call her Carly, were always competing over the same opportunities because we wanted the same career. But while I had the social skills and a knack for charming the pants off of old white men, she had actual knowledge and experience. I realized early on that the difference would show at some point down the line, so I pushed myself harder to learn more, research and study more. And this year when it came down to it, guess who came out on top?
But she’s just one girl I know. There are thousands of other people like her out there.
You have to realize just how many people you’re up against for what you want. You need to be motivated enough to not just think but be able to to beat out all the others. And you need to develop the discipline to do that. I’ve made a lot of posts about both discipline and motivation, so you can go read those if you’d like. Or I can summarize them both in one simple sentence: You’re never going to get what you want, if you don’t force yourself to work harder than all the other people who are chasing the same dream.