Unravelings

[artbylittlebug]

[happyheidi]

｡ﾟﾟ･｡･ﾟﾟ｡ ﾟ. May will bring blessings.

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[lemontongues]

shoutout to slow growers, late bloomers, people whose plans got derailed by circumstances beyond their control or their own choices, people who never had a plan to begin with, people who have had to start over when theyre too old to feel like theyre supposed to be where they are, people who cant pretend theyre built for the environment theyre in, and everyone who's not living the life they thought they would. im proud of you for making it this far and i hope you keep going until youre happy ♡

[virtualgoths]

I wonder what it feels like to know what the fuck is going on

[plutorichh-deactivated20260716]

[tearlessrain]

what companies who sell you anti aging stuff don't want you to know is that if you're chill about aging, your perception of attractiveness changes as you get older. there is no "wall" where you suddenly become ugly and unfuckable because in my experience what actually happens is you get into your thirties and suddenly realize that people in their thirties are hot as fuck and the "flaws" that the beauty industry wants you to panic about are a feature not a bug, and based on the std statistics in nursing homes I don't really expect that trajectory to change.

[longlostdiaries]

I don't know who needs to hear this but:

-"it only hurts a little" is still pain

-"I can ignore it" is still pain

-"I can cope with/manage it" is still pain

-"it's bearable" is still pain

-"I can push through it" is still pain

-"it doesn't hurt that much" is still pain

-"it doesn't stop me from doing x" is still pain

You don't need to be in agonizing pain to be in pain.

[perfectfeelings]

[world-of-agony]

[catchymemes]

[furiousgoldfish]

I am growing intensely hateful of people who yell at victims to leave or ask them why do they stay in abuse. And act like victims are fucking stupid or incapable of making their own life decisions when they stay in abusive situations. I am sick of self-indulged idiots who think this couldn’t happen to them or they wouldn’t allow it to happen to them, and act like victims have somehow brought this onto themselves. If you think this then keep your stupid fucking mouth shut because nobody needs to hear your take on this, nobody needs to hear your stupid condescending and offensive opinion, and nobody needs to know how fucking stupid, uncaring, irresponsible and damaging you are on this subject.

Do you think anyone needs to be told in condescending and ignorant way what to do with their own life? Do you think abuse victims, who are already treated as if they’re stupid and responsible for whatever abuse they’re suffering, need to be treated by you like they’re stupid and responsible for abuse they’re suffering? Do you think abusers don’t fucking make sure victims haven’t got any easy exists? Do you think, if this happened to you, you’d be able to just, go take a chance to die of starvation or disease or cold on the street the second you see a red flag in a person you previously loved, or considered your family member?

Abuse victims already have enough devastation trying to accept that their realities are lies, that all they fought for, all they loved and sacrificed for is in fact, twisted and evil and would turn to hurt them and break their heart and their bodies. They’re already devastated for being in a horrible situation where they’re isolated from support and acceptance, and aware that shame and stigma is going to be placed on their shoulders the second they acknowledge they’ve been victims of abuse! They don’t need anyone at their necks shaming them for not being a fucking abuse-evasive superbeing who doesn’t get threatened by homelessness and lack of survival resources, every single person depends on having a shelter and food and warmth! You’re not doing anything useful at all telling victims to give up all that for the sake of escaping abuse, you’re not offering them shelter, food, protection and warmth, you’re offering them extension of abuse and knowledge that even once they escape, they’ll be escaping into world where they’re being held responsible for being abused, just like they are right now. You’re showing just how much you don’t give a shit about weather they die alone from lack of resources, when you tell them to leave when they have nowhere to go.

Abuse victims are not responsible for resolving the problem of abuse, we are, entire society is responsible for making sure this world is safe to live in. You don’t get to push it all on abuse victims, they’re already the ones who paid the highest price for keeping this sick society afloat. This society is not worth what abuse victims have went thru, and trying to blame it on them just makes it more clear what an abusive culture we are. If you’re not brave enough to fight against abusers, you have no right to say one word to victims.

[fibrofoghours]

A good way to describe how I'm feeling most moments of my life:

I feel like I'm being poisoned from the inside out.

[rxfraud-deactivated20211015]

doctors will actively discourage their patients from doing independent research about their own health, mock patients who google medical information, withhold treatment from those who do advocate for themselves, shut down any dissent by invoking their credentials, willfully ignore the experiences of patients or reports from patient advocates, act like any medical information that's not paywalled is bunk, and then turn around and claim that the general public being "scientifically illiterate" is what grounds the legitimacy and necessity of medical 'expertise' lmao

[owlet]

i think it’s important to acknowledge that there is a contingent of doctors who have been... uh... coasting ever since med school ended. here’s a quick crash course in telling them apart

competent doctor: recognizes that your symptoms sound familiar but also realizes that the illness is outside the scope of their expertise, so they give you a referral

incompetent doctor: doesn’t recognize your symptoms, chalks it all up to a mental health and/or weight problem and refuses any follow-up care

competent doctor: stays up to date on the latest research in their field, is interested in sharing newly-discovered information with you

incompetent doctor: maintains the absolute minimum amount of knowledge to not have their license revoked

competent doctor: approaches their patients with good faith

incompetent doctor: assumes all patients are deceptive and have ulterior motives

competent doctor: recognizes crying and other overt pain symptoms as unacceptable and tries to resolve your pain any way they’re able

incompetent doctor: ignores pain and either refuses to attempt to treat yours or willingly worsens it during a treatment by ignoring your reactions

competent doctor: realizes they don’t have all the answers, isn’t intimidated by the thought that you attend other doctors

incompetent doctor: views their patients as income-generators and feels personally insulted when you attempt to leave their practice

competent doctor: recognizes all their patients are people; will be transparent about your treatment and speak to you with advanced and specific terminology if you demonstrate that you understand

incompetent doctor: views patients as a sub-class of people, justifies lying to patients as “for their own good”

[nutfisk]

when it rains

[catmat]

I often struggle with finding the good in being disabled and chronically ill. But one of the best things that has come out of this is a better understanding of humanity:

I better understand the need for equity, equality, fairness, and accessibility in society.

I am more aware of problematic health care, insurance, and governmental regulations for disadvantaged groups.

I understand the feelings that come with being isolated, discriminated against, excluded, and ridiculed.

I understand the pain, loss, helplessness, courage, and, determination that comes with physical and mental illnesses.

I understand humanity a lot better than before.

With so much being taken away from me, I've gained in compassion for the complexities of people's struggles.

Thank you all for raising awareness about the injustices we face and for being so supportive of each other. You are the good that makes this journey easier ❤.

[positiveseed]

@positiveseed