"She who walks the floors of Hell finds the key to the gates of her own Heaven, buried there like a seed." - Segovia Amil
♡♱ VENUS IN THE 8TH HOUSE OBSERVATIONS
*those with venus-pluto aspects, scorpio venus, and venus ruled 8th house as well (libra/ taurus) could also relate to these observations*
🥀With this placement, your relationships THRIVE with privacy. Any type of emotional intimacy, self care, connection will be much more intense and impactful, but will bloom and be very fertile. It’ll thrive in its secrecy. If you have this placement, have you ever gushed to your friends ALL the details about your relationship with your lover or your interest in your crush, only to receive an overwhelming amount of (negative) feedback or for the relationship to start having problems soon after? yeah, thats because you should keep important details to yourself. people will make you feel like they are entitled to all of it. next time you are interested someone, take it slow and keep some things to yourself (a little mystery never hurt anyone) and watch how less stressful and exciting the relationship feels!
🥀 With this placement, it is possible that others, particularly those of the opposite gender, may resent offering you praises out of jealously or animosity. On days when you feel and look very beautiful, you may get few compliments (but on the bright side that's how you know the people that do compliment you are not hating). Also, the Venus in 8th house person might even feel more attractive knowing people are envious or hating on them. Those passive aggressive or backhanded comments don’t tend to really hurt them so deeply, more like annoy or frustrate them.
🥀 its true that those with venus in the 8th house are transformed (8th house) by their relationships (venus). BUT, we can often forget just how triggered other people become by their presence.  I have a friend who is Pluto dominant and also has venus in the 8h and she will come across ppl who have the most unhinged or inappropriate reactions to her presence.  Especially men in relationships, she has found that they treat her badly or are rude to her. almost like they are mad at her for being attractive (secretly mad at themselves for finding her attractive).
🥀we also know that the 8th house also shows us whats taboo, hidden, disturbing and shameful. so those with venus in the 8th house could encounter people that hide their attraction to them with disgust. with comments like “theyre so ugly to me” or pointing out something really specific about their body, usually critque in a very sexual and objectified way.
🥀my sister has an 8h venus and sometimes she goes into work looking very pretty, hair done and makeup. and this lady at her job looks at her in DISGUST when she sees her 😭 its soo fucking bizarre. and she confessed she use to think it was all in her head but one time she took me to a staff party and i was like why is that lady literally snarling at you and she was like wtf so you see it too LMFAOOOO (but AGAIN thats the shit with this energy, people having EXTREME reactions).
🥀sometimes she has unhinged hater ass reactions from random women. one time we accompanied my mom to get her passport pic taken and we were standing in line with her and this lady was staring at my sister and then pointed and said LOUD ASF “she cant take her picture with all makeup on,” and we were like i- and my mom was like shes not here for the pic i am 😒 my sister didnt even have makeup on pls😭 her hating ass!!! shes gotten comments like that from Both women her age and also older than her
🥀**tw*** I have had multiple friends with 8h venus and scorpio venus even find family members to make creepy comments or say things that make them uncomfortable about their bodies :( comments like, “if only you weren’t my…” i am OBVIOUSLY not stating that is a guaranteed experience for these people but 8th is the TABOO. that part of it can be horrible.
🥀 ^ my advice to that is to NEVER  normalize blatant, disrespect, even if it’s displayed as “just jokes.” Respectfully put them in their place. My friend will really tell people “I have no idea why you feel comfortable speaking to me like this” when she gets comments (and usually they will be ones insinuating she is promiscuous).  I can easily escalate from there because your presence, your values, beauty, pleasure all become very triggering to other people (yes, even people you’re not even dating/ interested in or in a relationship with).
🥀 Certain clothing, makeup, or other forms of expression may be deemed overly exposing, provocative, or "sexy" on you, but if someone without the 8th house/scorpio energy wore them, the response would be far less intense and dramatic. I've also noticed that women with this placement got policed A LOT with their clothing and bodies growing up, being sexualized as young children as well.
🥀also that can create a sense of distortion/ trauma in your relationship with your body. so some days those venus in the 8th house could dress up or do what they usually do in their routine (unique to them) that makes them feel beautiful, but they still might not be able to see that beauty or feel it. Kind of like “yeah, youre telling me im pretty but idk i guess.” BUUUUUTTT when they step into their full power omg unstoppable *chefs kiss.* they know that even on their “worst” days their beauty is mesmerizing. but that self-loves comes after working hard to unpack trauma and their relationships with other people and how it all merged together. you have to figure out that some pain/ insecurities do not actually belong to you.
🥀 those with venus in the eighth house also tend to attract individuals that are already in committed relationships or individuals where the relationship would be kind of inappropriate ( it being a boss or a friends ex or something like that). It’s like the other person sees the venus in the eighth house person as the ultimate temptation. BUT, the Venus in the 8th house person could indulge in this as well if they have no restraint.
🥀 those with venus in the eighth house may also have felt insecure of their features growing up. they might’ve dreamed about getting cosmetic surgery. but could also be simultaneously afraid of it or afraid they will regret changing their unique features. 🥺
🥀 their beauty can feel contradicting, however, for the venus in 8th house person.  This is partially because even if they were sexualized or policed a lot growing up, they could have also felt insecure about their looks simultaneously.  It could’ve been like either people could have been “repulsed” by them or attracted (or a mix of both).
🥀i only say that bc scorpio venus, 8th house venus, venus-pluto ppl have such a striking beauty but i don’t think its in the conventionally attractive way (like not having perfectly straight teeth or maybe a slightly crooked nose, ya know). so if anything that could throw others off & b like hmm you’re someone I wouldn’t usually think is pretty yet somehow you’re beautiful. i only say that bc plutonian energy is disruptive. like IF ANYTHING, these ppl are the ones that think about getting cosmetic surgery (but u shouldnt, those very features are what make u so mesmerizing).
🥀however, do NOT be afraid to treat yourself. For example, one of my friends has venus in the 8th house and she has wanted to get laser for her body hair for the longest. She also loves great quality skincare products too. Her family/friends were complaining that she “wastes too much money on stuff like that” and to not get the laser. she ended being able to EASILY save for it, didn’t tell anyone and got it. Now these same people are telling her “omg ur skin looks so good! etc etc.” that’s because as an eighth house Venus a lot of people might not understand your routines. They might even feel jealous about the things you have for them (like your perfumes, skin care, accessories, clothes, hair products etc).
🥀^ BUT as an 8th house venus, the better you feel about yourself, the more your relationships prosper. And sometimes the same people complaining about the money you “waste” would NOT complain if you were giving them gifts the same price. sometimes people resent you for looking a certain way or having things that they secretly wanted as well. but the only difference is that the 8th house Venus person took the risk and interest in investing in it.
🥀so don’t be afraid to make your nail or hair appointments, get that massage, get that facial etc and keep it cute and lowkey. Don’t let people get into a habit of asking you the prices of things you do/ buy only to then shame you for it. it can become a vicious cycle, especially with the people close to you.
🥀 A yearning for relationships that are powerful, passionate, and transformative. If it's less than that, the Venus 8th house individual will not engage, since there is a tremendous urge to merge and discover each other's deepest and most unexplored sides. These are the people that appreciate it when love makes them feel a little crazy haha (within certain limitations, of course; I obviously am not referring to abusive relationships). They loveeee the intense eye contact, for the connection to feel exclusive and as if no one else could possibly comprehend the emotion. That’s also why it comes to expressing how they feel about love or relationships they might not even try because there could be no exact words for what it is that they’re looking for.
🥀 Being desired can also give them a great feeling of power since they love and feel so intensely. Even when (or especially when) it's individuals that they don't even like back or crush on, they can still feel a secret kind of satisfaction from knowing that they make people nervous or excited haha. It serves as a reminder of their magnetism and could also give them a little ego boost hehe. They might take pleasure in that feeling of control and look for it in their interpersonal interactions as well.
🥀 Individuals with Venus in the 8th house significantly alter the people they spend time with (whether it be platonic or romantic). However, they demand loyalty as they are going to be loyal to you as well. When they feel deceived or disappointed, the connection will never be the same. These are the people that, YEARS later, old friends may still think about or discuss them, and may even attempt to reach out to them, but the person with Venus in the 8th house is nowhere to be found. Similar to romantic partnerships, an ex-partner of a person with Venus in the eighth house would lament their loss and may even argue that they will never find another person like them and that they should have treated them better.
🥀 following up on that point, individuals with Venus in the eighth house can attract people that purely lust after them and their bodies or people in general that want to take advantage of them. They must be extremely choosy about who they invite into their lives. As I've stated previously, there is a common misunderstanding among those with 8th house placements or Plutonian people that they are better able to endure suffering than others. They can be familiar to intense situations but that does not mean they are somehow immune from pain or suffering. In a sense, they are just pushed to endure adversity in silence or given no grace in the public light. Therefore, when Venus in the 8th house ultimately departs from a relationship, the individual may realize that 1) not only is their life improving, but 2) the other person mourns the loss of that connection and access. They realize how fortunate they were to have the Venus in the eighth house by their side. Unfortunately, they were only able to truly appreciate the relationship they had with the 8th house venus person until it was dead and gone.
🥀 so its very important that those with venus in the eighth house make sure they’re being treated right from the beginning.  Of course, in a general sense all relationships should be like this..  but Venus in the eighth house needs to watch out for red flags and note down green flags as well. if you notice that in the relationship, you’re spending more money than is being spent on you,  complain that your standards are too high, or that the compliments from your partner only revolve around your physical body or sexuality then reconsider some things 👀  with this placement you could run into people that would be willing to happily give you the WORLD.  Or you could run into people that want to suck out/ take advantage of your energy. dont be afraid to be picky. 💋
🥀 But on a more positive side, Venus in the eighth house individuals who establish their boundaries early on in a relationship have the ability to attract partners who adore lavishing them with luxuries. They can attract partners who validate and affirm them, making them feel valuable, cared for, and beautiful. They might easily attract a loyal and trustworthy individual . However, it may take a great deal of trial and error in relationships before these individuals learn to evaluate their standards and refuse to compromise them for the sake of the connection. When life is going really well for them its beneficial to keep certain things private as well.
🥀 8th house placements must accept that change in their lives is never without some form of upheaval, and the more they fight, the more difficult it will be for them to perceive the benefits of the changes since they will be too busy clinging to what is familiar. The topics of your values, wealth, beauty, and relationships will be in a state of flux and transition when Venus is in this position. Loss will always be accompanied with a reward if you learn to accept it and draw lessons from it. In such a short period of time, they have actually mastered the ability to level up tremendously. This 2h-8h axis comes into play when a person's self-worth and confidence increase (2h), as will their HEALTHY methods of sharing and constructing relationships with others (8h).
🥀and you do have that right to have people prove themselves to you (2h) before fully comitting money, time, sex (8h). you will know the scales are unbalanced when you find yourself feeling taken advantage of, losing money, and not feeling well mentally. thats a sign as an 8h venus that you got to cut off that connection. people have to NOURISH you. they have to make you feel safe, protected and secure. If not, you could easily find yourself giving and giving until you feel resentful. and that means that you havent stepped into your full power. Before people ask about $, your advice, going on dates etc give yourself time to think, is this truly a connection I want to keep alive?
🥀as an 8th house venus, you KNOW for sure someone is bad for you if you start losing so much money when they’re in your life/ precense. My sister has an 8h Venus in sidereal and OMGGGG, when she’s with people that clearly care about her, her finances and savings stack up. recently, she befriended some people that she wasn’t sure they had her best interest in mind & she kept giving them the benefit of the doubt. She ended up losing like 2000 dollars because of some trouble she got with them :( Her relationships (venus) have a direct relationship with her finances (8h).
🥀to add on to that, 8th housers in general tend to have a powerful intuition (that they have to be careful to balance and not let it succumb to paranoia). she kept having gut feelings that maybe these people didn’t like her as much as it seemed. The 8th house rules EXTREME reactions. One day they treated her well and the next they made aggressive comments. very hot and cold reaction. Its important to stick to a “rule” of sorts or maybe even a motto when it comes to feeling people out. It’s important to start slow (and ik with 8th house energy there is this exciting urge to merge but PLS pace yourselves).
🥀our mother would tell us all the time to be careful and to not trust people growing up 😂 she is very suspicious of people lmfaoo but i think thats why we try to trust people if they haven’t given a reason not to trust them & give them that benefit of the doubt. But it should be more than that. sometimes we have to let people show us who they are. we have to master when its time to harden our boundaries and also soften them. and for 8th house placements it’ll take a lot of trial and error.
🥀 however, on the bright side, even though the eighth house can show our traumas. It’s also compensation.  it’s two sides of the same coin.  So, after traumatic or trouble some relationships, there are very important and GOLDEN lessons  learned that said the foundation for how you want to be treated, both romantically and platonically  in the future.
🥀  this placement really is the true definition of “Whatever has been lost will be returned to you in new forms. You will always be full and never empty.” for example, my sister now has exchanged that energy. from that loss and devastation in chaos, she has found some non-negotiable boundaries for the way she is going to interact with people in the future.  And that’s gonna make it easier for her to avoid situations in which there is danger and potential loss of money/ resources/ time.
🥀as an 8h venus you have to accept that loss will be a part of your life (some on your terms and some “againts ur will”) BUT your reaction will ALWAYS be on your own terms. When there is something that you desire badly, whether it be a goal or a relationship or moving up in ur career etc, there is something you will have to let go. it can be physical. it can be as simple as cutting your hair! but it can also be emotional and external like letting go of that friendship that is holding you back. you will know what it is.
🥀 when you’re going through these periods of transformation,  it’ll be obvious to other people because youll pop up with a new hair cut/ color, tattoos, entirely different wardrobe, or even be in a secret relationship or with someone who other people would never expect. I love when plutonians do this though because im like damn 😍😍 you look GOOD! And ik you probably just went through hell 💀 SO I HOPE YOU FEEL GOOD!
🕸🕷 *do not plagiarize my writing or repost on other forms of social media under any circumstances. These are merely my personal observations and other aspects/signs should also be taken into account. 🕸🕷
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