1. Whenever you accomplish something you’re proud of, don’t downplay it. Whenever you do something that brings you joy, allow yourself to feel happiness. Whenever you do something correctly, pat yourself on the back. And whenever you do something good, however small, acknowledge that you did it. Any act of kindness, or love, or straight up goodness is worthy of praise: be as positive as you can when you do something worthwhile.
2. Spoil yourself without feeling guilty, and don’t hold back for reasons like weight, or level of deserving, or “I don’t need it.” Life is hard, but you’re still here kicking ass: you deserve a reward every now and then, whether it be some ice cream, eating out, new clothes, a car wash, anything.
3. Giving is great, helping is great, and being nice is great, but sometimes it can be exhausting, especially when people aren’t reciprocating and are only taking. You aren’t a bad person for not doing what’s “decent” all the time, and you aren’t a bad person for saying no. In fact, setting boundaries is a wonderful way to establish your worth to yourself and others as well as what you will and won’t do.
4. Be completely, totally, awesomely, and genuinely you. Be loud about who you are as a person. Don’t hold your individuality back, certainly don’t for the sake of others. You can spend your life trying to please everyone around you—it won’t work, I promise—and pretending to be someone you’re not, or you can do what makes you happy and be your true self, drawing people that like you for you. You’re unique, specially handcrafted. Show it off, because the world needs more beautiful diversity.
5. If you find it difficult to love yourself, don’t worry, we’ve all been there. It’s not easy (and some days it’s harder than others), but it can help if you focus more on self acceptance first. Developing a mindset of “this is me, I can’t change who I am, so I might as well embrace it” does wonders when “I’m just going to start loving myself” can’t. Both are good, but finding self love is a personal journey, so it’s important to do what works best for you and for your personality.
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