So I'm watching Greys anatomy, the episode when Christina talks to Owen about the woman he cheated with.I felt like this needed to be said. ***JUST MY OPINION*** The thing is, if someone is willing to cheat on you then they never really loved you. They will always claim that they 'didn't mean to hurt you' or 'it meant nothing' and they will try to rationalize what they did, but the truth is that there is no rational reason for the disgusting act that they committed. Because when it comes down to it they had a choice. A choice to be honest and faithful, or a choice to risk all that they had, a choice to shred the heart of the one person who loved them entirely and faithfully. They will beg for forgiveness and say "but I love you" or "I will never stop loving you" just remember, those are lies bc they proved that they never loved you the moment they decided to lay with someone else And share the intimacy that should have only been shared between the two of you. In my opinion once a cheater, always a cheater. I firmly believe this. They all say they would never do it again but if anyone falls for this you are only allowing yourself to be blind for a while longer. I have no desire to mention names but I can say that I had a perfect example of one of these people in my life a while back. But one day I opened my eyes and realized I was the fool. And then I let go and rid myself of the lies and deceit. And realized I deserved so much better. I don't deserve to have to feel like I wasn't good enough so that's why he or she strayed, nor do I deserve part of someone's heart. I finally found peace and freedom from all the pain and hurt. I am free. No more looking back, no more nights crying myself to sleep, no more wondering where it all went wrong, no more blaming myself. And finally no more wishing things could have been different. It was a long and painful lesson in life, that sometimes people can be heartless, cruel, and careless with a fragile heart. But it's a lesson I will never forget. My advice for those who are going through something like this, when you find yourself feeling weak, or wanting to forgive and take back the person who hurt you or cheated, remember the pain you felt when it all happened and Ask yourself "am I willing to experience this pain again" that's what really helped me. I don't hate the one who did me wrong, and I have finally reached a place in my heart of forgiveness for him/her but I will never forget. And I will never love him/her or have the same feelings I once had. Now when I hear her/his name it's just as though it's any other persons name being mentioned, when I see their face it no longer pulls at my heart. When I remember the past years, the memories are just bittersweet and fading more and more. Now I have someone who shows me that even after all the pain I've been through there is still true love in this world, someone who knows that my love is something that isn't worth risking, someone who makes me feel like I'm the most beautiful girl in the world even when I don't see it or feel it. Someone who asked me to marry them because they know that they want forever with me. So ladies, (or guys) let go, let them find someone else's heart to mangle, you deserve better. As hard as it may seem it will get better and you DO NOT need them. Be angry, be hurt, be sad, cry, scream, but then forgive (it's hard but possible) & let go and heal. Find your happiness. Realize your worth. Learn to love again. -angel xo
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