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“Gone With the Wind is a tremendous expression of female power, because you’ve got not only Scarlett O’hara, you’ve got the constant dynamic of women holding society together as it falls apart, as the men go and fight the wars. It’s the women that are actually waging a deeper and more sentimental war at home.“ -F.X. Feeney

#gone with the wind #film

GrownUp Lessons

Being in my first serious relationship taught me:

On being yourself -

made me realise that I'm my own woman, and I should be less apologetic and demand respect.

I've always thought I'm following the strong/indepdent woman ideals, but now I realise there are a lot of things I compromise because I care so much about other people's opinion of me, including my boyfriend’s, and I was afraid they would think I'm not a good person if I didn't "be nice".

When you love someone I think it's natural to soften and try to make them happy... but if both people can't be themselves and feel fulfilled then it's not going to work in the long run (this has definitely been my lesson of the last year)

It's hard to be yourself as we can be soo many things, at least that's how I feel about being a woman. There are many faces we can take on, but I think it's up to us about which face makes us happy

On communication -

I also think there's a critical need for communication, especially in long distance relationship. He'll have to say something so both of you can grow at the same time. It doesn't work if time stops for one person.

It’s so important to express things clearly. It never works when one person is unhappy and continues to be unhappy in silence, the other person will probably never know. I expect so much for other peoples to do what I want without telling them - but who can tell?! It’s importance to raise my voices and express my ideas calmly but adamantly, to listen and understand without becoming malicious or cynical of the other person.

On trust -

Esther Perel said people always crave seemingly opposite things - stability and novelty, safety and adventure - it’s the same with relationship. And it is important to give each other space, because distance creates novelty. This, however, requires a lot of security for both people to realise that trust is not just about “not cheating”, but also about faith in the other person to continue to love you even when they do no express it on a daily basis.

On passion -

To have passion and desire in your relationships, you have to have it within yourself, in your personal endeavors. If you are a boring person, who just gets by in life with the same ol situation, everyday, with the same ol attitude, and never move outside of your comfort zone for anything, then that is going to translate into your relationships. But if you are energetic, interesting, creative, and able to make the same old situation into something novel and enjoyable on a regular basis, and you are fascinated by your career, fascinated by your life in general, then that will translate into your personal relationship and eroticism.

To maintain desire in your relationship, have a desire in life itself. Otherwise you just go through the same old motions everyday, going nowhere and doing nothing, and that's what your relationship will become, too.

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My job and co-workers has taught me:

On quality -

It’s important to maintain quality in my work and think twice before presenting it to the other people. Also it’s normal and good for bosses to demand quality from you, and to accept criticism when being called out to improve something. It’s a good learning process and it’s important because the other person wants you to do better. Good to learn fro them.

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Moving around so much in my youth has taught me

On attitude -

I’m quite alone in my 20s most of the time, especially from moving so much. It’s a difficult reality to change. But at the same time, moving around got me in touch with so many people and opened my world. While life can be a bit depressing at times, it’s important to keep a good attitude. Do something that makes you feel put together - putting on make up, dress up, finish a document, create something with your hands, exercise, take a hot shower - there’s always something. It’s important to make time for it to allow yourself to destress so you can have a better attitude for other important things, and do better because luck is always on the side of happiness.

On Feeling safe -

It’s nice to have a best friend, knowing someone’s got your back. But it’s also important to go out of your comfort zone and overcome the shyness to make other friends. It’s a bit daunting heading out by yourself, but it’s important to respect other’s spaces, too. Learn to not rely on others to give you a sense of safety and belonging, be confident in your abilities to give that to yourself.

#whisper #quote

3intheam

“It’s Hebrew. It’s from the Talmud. It says, ‘Whoever saves one life, saves the world entire.' There will be generations because of what you did.”

-Schindler’s List (1993), directed by Steven Spielberg

slavery

macbethz

Fuck I’m at a fencing tournament and literally a minute after I reblogged this my dad told me that he talked to the point people and I’m probably going to win a medal.

seananmcguire

BURN BAGEL BURN

gothiccharmschool

OH WHY NOT?

harukami

I need to follow up to say I reblogged this last night, and this morning I got some of the best news of my life, like, a life dream come true news thing.

Bagel what are your powers

cosmicrystalwitch

Lol wtf

the-last-teabender

Already had the best news of my life a couple days ago, I dare this bagel to top that.

phreakattack

i’ve bene ingoring the bagle but now i think it’s time to give the bagle a chance

thankyoucorndog-deactivated2015

all glory to the bagel

luna-pon

THIS IS FUCKING REAL. I just received an email from my teacher that our test has been postponed for another week so we have more time to study. THIS IS REAL.

awkwardbutsmooth

The fuckin bagel worked… This stupid shit… I said “within the next two weeks” and 10 o’clock last night I received a text…

an-inarticulate-senseofsuburbia

What carved me into the Bitch I am today

diigiitalviisiions

The last one

#funny

follow-fibres-deactivated202502

Just kinda do it.

Maybe do it.

Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire

earhat

History Meme. 6/6 Women → Rosa Parks, 1913 - 2005

Rosa Parks was an African-American civil rights activist, whom the United States Congress called “the first lady of civil rights” and “the mother of the freedom movement”.

On December 1, 1955, in Montgomery, Alabama, Parks refused to obey bus driver James F. Blake’s order that she give up her seat in the coloured section to a white passenger, after the white section was filled.

Parks’ act of defiance and the Montgomery Bus Boycott became important symbols of the modern Civil Rights Movement. She became an international icon of resistance to racial segregation. She organised and collaborated with civil rights leaders, including Edgar Nixon, president of the local chapter of the NAACP; and Martin Luther King, Jr., a new minister in town who gained national prominence in the civil rights movement. [+more]

#racism #civil rights

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Listen the full version of "Crazy In Love [2014 Remix]" - Beyoncé. Fifty Shades of Grey Soundtrack.

santeria-deactivated20170905

IM EXASPERATED

#fuck #music

soorayaqadirs-deactivated201604

goddess-

“So you don’t think that women should stay at home and cook for men, maybe?”

#this entire interview was meant to be a joke but i really really adored hayley’s answer #because i feel like a lot of people think that’s what feminism is—to step away from the stereotype of a woman’s place being in the kitchen #but it’s about having the choice—being able to make our own decisions about what we want to do #because there’s nothing wrong with staying at home and cooking #and i’m so beyond thrilled that she worded that the way she did ugh what a lady

kristenschaals

princess-protein-deactivated201

If I ever have children, I’m going to tell this to them every day

fondonte

*weeps softly into the ether*

#favorite #advice

disneydailly

toss-a-coin-to-your-daddy-j

This is like a round of cards against humanity

#funny #poc

mueseum

Harry Potter Animated Series

The Houses

#harry potter #gorgeous

philippaeilhart

Success is terrifying. Like happiness, it is often appreciated in retrospect. It’s only later that you place it in perspective. Years from now, I’ll look back and say: "God, wasn’t it wonderful?"

Happy birthday Dame Julie Elizabeth Andrews! (October 1, 1935.)

#cutiepie #classy lady

willidleaway

gothamlesbian-blog

is that you hobby lobby

luminousfinn

Am I the only one that’s a just a tiny bit pissed off that this is still an issue?

livelongandgetiton

The Original Series wasn’t even in the general VICINITY of fucking around yo

bigmamag

OKAY, so you know I care about reboot and all, despite its problems, because that shit got me into Star Trek in the first place. But you wanna know its major problem? It’s not good science fiction. It’s an action movie in space. GOOD science fiction is the original fucking series, right here.

They took a social issue that was HIGHLY TABOO and made a show about it because you can get away with that kind of thing by putting it on another planet and just having the Enterprise point the bullshit out. It’s 2014 and this argument is sadly still relevant. And do you know why it’s still relevant? Because the average person isn’t well-educated in social issues. They’re well-educated in summer blockbusters. We need more science fiction that broadens the mind and just doesn’t pit good vs. evil. Star Wars is where you go for great action adventure, good vs. evil. Star Trek was wholly separate because it was concerned with the human condition and the state of the future.

In short, I will roundhouse kick anyone in the face that calls the original series a silly 60s camp show with no entertainment value. It made me contemplate my very existence and it did so on the budget of a bologna sandwich.

#abortion #relevant #prochoice #favorite #star trek

estemiramis

The Avengers Team + good times

becisvolatile

Lookin’ good Maria…

sebastienlelivre

#can we also just note Steve Rogers drinking a beer just for the simple sake of drinking a beer with friends?#and that it’s not apparently an end of the world fact that he can’t get drunk?#and that people drink a beer in situations other than to the point of intoxication?#so can we have that whole thing put to rest in fics?#because it would make me insanely happy to not have Steve casually offered a beer in a social situation and have him immediately respond that he can’t get drunk#NORMAL PEOPLE DON’T IMMEDIATELY STATE THEIR INTENDED INTOXICATION LEVELS WHEN CASUALLY OFFERED A BEVERAGE