Many have we heard the stories that revolve the capability of love to shake our sane judgement, aka logic. Love has been used by some of the greatest artists and poets to inspire the (debatable) dull life a human might face. Our literature and movie cultures also built from the shared believe that love can conquer anything, literally. From economic discrepancies and moral standard differences. As if with love, and love only, things will all be alright. Further, if we discuss the very principal definition of love itself, one can never have a universal description. All subjective to serves the interest and purpose of the definer (Therefore, we wouldn't dig further on this principal ground). I would love to understand though, if love itself enough to cloud our judgement about our life and future, more than our sane calculation? I mean, how many people actually sacrifice (some would say, compromise) many of their dreams and even life on the basis of love, and yet their ROI (Return of Investment) practically nada, sometimes caused them mental bankruptcy. Call me complicated mind, but I can't buy the romanticism that love is enough. Love is important, for sure. Big part of our life judgement, yes. However, I can't fathom the thought that it's enough if we have love (believe me, many don't think much about their life, believing they are in love and every freakin' things will be solved somehow). Someone said that love would not pay your bill. I kind of agree on that part. Can we separate logic in relationship and still be in love? Yes we can. Would one still be happily living the relationship though? I am not sure. I believe that in a good relationship, the very least thing the couple could share to sustain an everlasting romance is a mutual principal(s), and life objective(s). For without shared grounds and goals, the existance of a relationship is fragile and hardly long-lasting. It would be better to have a shared dreams too, it would add the comfort and insurance of happiness. Without shared dreams, things can go smooth, with occasional bump of one party to have the 'what if' moments (thinking how life could be different if only he/she decided things differently back then). Having different dreams would also add unecessary complications, now that one party should sacrifice what he/she longs to for the sake of having a more stable/happy relationship. It would need a great sacrifice from one party to lay low and let the other half shines with his/her dream. The problem arise if both parties kind of dominant and eager to accomplish theirs. Then it would give disturbing signals to the shared grounds and goals that had been agreed earlier. Which kind of a pity though...'a potential that may go to waste', some would argue. I believe, having the decision to stay and work in a relationship need the sane part of the brain instead the dophamine-injected part that continuously whispers "he's the one...he's the one.." like a broken record. Sadly, perhaps only some would disimiss that misleading noise and continue the data-driven decision making process. My point is, decision making process involving the sane part of our brain is perhaps the best route we should take to have a sustainable less-dramatic relationship. However, believing that idea doesn't really help one to accept that things may or may not turn bad. I believe that with sane decision making process and dismissing the feelings would eventually lead to a better result. But what if it is not? risk will always be there, and honestly, I never like the idea of making a decision on the basis of whatever ground, if it has possible negative impact towards my future. I want certainty, which I try to achieve through this sane decision making attempt (but I can't, obviously, have everything that I want). Jeez, another fact I come to realise is that your brain never fail to screw you thoughts, heaps.
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