On a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:
I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told âOh, that just means he likes youâ. I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children. Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, i urge you to rethink your parenting strategy. If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of âaffectionâ you are endorsing.
When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase âhitting on girlsâ comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the âitâs so cute when he gets hateful/physical with her because it means he loves herâ asshattery for your own kids, not mine. While youâre at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.
My daughter is `10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate. There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, âthat just means he likes youâ line. Wrong. I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable. I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they donât hurt her and they donât put her down. I want my daughter to know that the boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didnât do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life. I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life. For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should tell me. If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then, if it continues, to yell, âSTOP TOUCHING/PUNCHING/PUSHING MEâ in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me. Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her. He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist. When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, âhe probably has a crush on youâ. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered? Fuck off. I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter. If these same advice giversâ sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kidâs ass, if necessary. They sure as shit wouldnât say, âhe probably just wants a play dateâ.
I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect. Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesnât deserve her respect, friendship or love. I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesnât involve hitting girls. I canât teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her. I canât raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.
The next time that someone offers up that little âsecretâ to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, âI LOVE YOUâ.
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