A real woman? What does that even mean? I think I can help clear up the confusion...
I see it all the time written in online dating profiles. Guys say they want something real. They claim they are looking for a real woman for a real relationship. And that’s what they believe they want. Real. That’s is, as long as “real” comes in a perfect package. The minute “real” looks like something other than a Barbie doll or a porn model, they run straight to the next “real” girl.
So just in case there’s some confusion, let me explain what “real” really is.
The girl that comes out of the bathroom in her sexiest lingerie with a band aid on her leg because she cut her self shaving them. For you. That’s real.
The girl that loves stilettos but is reluctant to wear them for you because she knows she can’t walk in them too well and she’s had a broken ankle and knows how bad that is. That’s real.
The girl whose heart beats out her chest for you but she’s trying to be calm, cool, and collected. Too many people have told her she’s intimidating and too much and she’s trying to act aloof because she terrified of scaring you away. That’s real.
The girl who has been working 14 hours a day and hasn’t had a free moment to do something for her herself and get a mani/pedi before her big date with you. Thats real.
The girl whose sexy parts might be a little stubbly because laser hair removal costs a bazillion dollars and she didn’t know she was going to see you today and didn’t shave between her legs that morning. That’s real.
The girl who has one room in her house that looks like a laundry explosion because she’s out of closet space and the last thing she can think about at the end of the day is where to put all this laundry. That’s real.
The girl whose eyes are swollen and red from crying all night because she just lost a pet or someone close to her. That’s real.
The girl who overslept and didn’t have time to wash her hair so she’s wearing it put up in a bun. That’s real.
The girl who loves you and wants to call you Sir and be dominated but the part of her that suffers from PTSD from being beaten by abusive psycho ex boyfriend is terrified of wanting to be spanked. That’s real.
The girl who doesn’t feel like being your sex kitten because her body feels all weird and gross thanks to being on her period. The last thing she feels is hot and sexy and she needs to just be cuddled up in her flannel pjs at the risk of disappointing you. That’s real.
The girl who wants to accept your invitation to the beach but won’t because she knows she’ll have to wear a bathing suit. She’s still learning to love her body and feels like she won’t measure up to the other girls she knows you’ll be looking at. That’s real.
The girl who is starting to show a gray hair here and there because she works hard and manages daily career and life pressures that most people in her peer group can’t even imagine. That’s real.
So dear gentlemen friends, the next time you write in a profile or talk about wanting a real woman, think about what “real” means. If you can truly accept real and all its imperfections, then by all means, carry on. If one of the thousands of things that makes a woman real is a turn off to you because you want a woman to look like Barbie or porn models, then please reconsider your priorities. At the very least, reconsider your words…instead of writing “seeking a real woman” try writing “seeking a perfect woman”.
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