RELI299 Homosexuality in Tibet: A Backdoor to Nirvana?
Among the Buddha’s teachings, the Five Precepts function as the code of ethics for Buddhists and lay people, which indicate five behavioral misconducts. These are: harming living beings, stealing, sexual misconduct, lying and intoxication. Of those precepts, the third one, sexual misconduct, is intimately related to gender issues, especially homosexuality. Although the Buddha did not explicitly mention this sensitive topic, as a progressive religion, Buddhism has been asked to take a stance on same-sex love and sexual intercourse. However, different braches of Buddhism hold different concepts. The Dalai Lama, the spiritual leader and representative of Tibetan Buddhism, has given his own perspective to the public. Most of the time, he has a firm rejection of homosexuality for his followers. Paradoxically, homosexuality was widespread in Tibetan monasteries, which, before the Chinese invaded, could house up to several thousand men. In this research, I am going to synthesize the Dalai Lama’s viewpoints on the issue in publications and approach it inside Tibet, which reveals a different story.
Firstly, in some of his teachings, the Dalai Lama reiterated the work of Lama Tsongkhapa (1357-1419), Lam Rim Chen Mo (The Great Treatise on the Stages of The Path to Enlightenment), in which he states his definition of “sexual misconduct”: “There are four possible bases of sexual misconduct: a person with whom you should not have intercourse, inappropriate body parts, inappropriate places, and inappropriate times. Those with whom one should not have intercourse in the case of men are women with whom you should not copulate (i.e. your mother, others wives, rejecting women, etc.), all men and eunuchs. The text then goes on referring to textual references and elaborates in exquisite detail on what is considered sexual misconduct.” (Page 220 Volume 1 of the English translation, Snow Lion first edition 2000). Further on the same page, Tsongkhapa adds: “Men, the second in the list of those with whom you should not have intercourse, refers to both oneself and to others” which means that he considers homosexual intercourse and masturbation sexual misconduct (Rethinking Buddhism and Sex, Jose Cabezon).
Although, there were signs that the Dalai Lama started to agree to the existence of homosexuality, he still regarded intercourse with wrong organs as “sexual misconduct.” In the Feb-Mar 1994 OUT Magazine, he states: "If someone comes to me and asks whether [homosexuality] is okay or not, I will ask... 'What is your companion's opinion?' If you both agree, then I think I would say, if two males or two females voluntarily agree to have mutual satisfaction without further implication of harming others, then it is okay." However, later, he elaborates more of this view in his book Beyond Dogma: Dialogues and Discourses (pps 23, 46-47): "A sexual act is deemed proper when the couples use the organs intended for sexual intercourse [penis and vagina] and nothing else... Homosexuality, whether it is between men or between women, is not improper in itself. What is improper is the use of organs already defined as inappropriate [mouth, hand, anus] for sexual contact."
During an interview, he said, “A gay couple came to see me,” he said during an interview, “seeking my support and blessing. I had to explain our teachings. Another lady introduced another woman as her wife – astonishing. It is the same with a husband and wife using certain sexual practices. Using the other two holes is wrong… A Western friend asked me what harm there could be between consenting adults having oral sex, if they enjoyed it,” the Dalai Lama continued, warming to his theme. “But the purpose of sex is reproduction, according to Buddhism. The other holes don’t create life. I don’t mind – but I can’t condone this way of life” (01 April 2006, London's Daily Telegraph, "Westerners are too self-absorbed", Alice Thomson.) Nevertheless, back in a conference with seven gay and lesbian individuals in San Francisco on June 11th, 1998, the Dalai Lama was asked by Jose Cabezon, a gay Buddhist scholar who was also present at the conference: “If the purpose of the proscriptions is to reduce sexual activity, how does it make sense to allow a man to have sex with his wife up to five times a night, while saying that it is sexual misconduct for a man to have sex with another man even once in his life?” He laughed and said, “You have a point there!” Afterwards, Peskind asked him, “Which of the proscribed behaviors regarding partner, organ, or excessive frequency do you personally consider most important?” He responded with a thoughtful look, not saying anything ("According to Buddhist Tradition": Gays, Lesbians and the Definition of Sexual Misconduct, Steve Peskind).
He gave a clear explanation on the issue in the press conference the day before, “We have to make a distinction between believers and unbelievers. From a Buddhist point of view, men-to-men and women-to-women is generally considered sexual misconduct… From society’s viewpoint, mutually agreeable homosexual relations can be of mutual benefit, enjoyable and harmless” ("According to Buddhist Tradition": Gays, Lesbians and the Definition of Sexual Misconduct, Steve Peskind). This was not the only time the Dalai Lama has distinguished between Buddhists and non-Buddhists, in constituting each category’s code of ethics in terms of homosexuality. On May 25th, 1999 he stated in an interview published in The Age: "They want me to condone homosexuality. But I am a Buddhist and, for a Buddhist, a relationship between two men is wrong… If an individual has no faith, that is a different matter... If two men really love each other and are not religious, then that is ok by me."
Later on, the Dalai Lama still kept an ambivalent view on this issue. During his visit to Canada in November 2007, he was asked by CBC News whether Buddhism condones love between two men or two women. He replied that Buddhists reject this. Genuine Buddhist practitioners, like Christians, condemn same-sex behavior as sexual misconduct. "So, [it is] not permissible, not allowed." However, his reference to Christian views on homosexuality is wrong. Conservative Christians generally consider all same-sex behavior to be sexual misconduct. However, most progressive, liberal, and many mainline Christians disagree; they accept all safe, consensual same-sex behavior between lesbians, gays, and bisexuals in a loving, committed relationship to be life-affirming, moral, and acceptable. Thus, there were 77 comments by listeners on the Dalai Lama’s interview, which touched upon his homosexual statement. Among those, in 2009, James Shaheen wrote, "... in the current political climate, hearing the world's most famous Buddhist declare homosexuality to be 'sexual misconduct' can't help but lead people to believing that the Buddha's teachings proscribe same-sex relationships. They don't, any more than they promote them." In his further discussion, he stated, "friends of mine have argued that the Dalai Lama doesn't really look askance same-sex relationships, that he has no choice but to uphold his tradition's dictates; and that maybe the Dalai Lama is just stuck with the old texts' proscriptions in the same way that a Catholic, say, must deal with Thomas Aquinas. Of course, we can't know and must take his public statements at face value. In his case, though, our expectations tend to be different than they might be for the local minister, priest or orthodox rabbi. And so many of us who have benefited greatly from his teachings are apt to feel disappointed." (Huffington Post, Gay Marriage: What Would Buddha Do? - James Shaheen).
There is one point in James Shaheen’s comment that “he [the Dalai Lama] has no choice but to uphold his tradition's dictates; and that maybe the Dalai Lama is just stuck with the old texts' proscriptions.” Back to when the Dalai Lama explained Tsongkhapa’s text, the Dalai Lama went on to speak about “the possibility of understanding these precepts in the context of time, culture, and society… If homosexuality is part of accepted norms [today], it is possible that it may be acceptable… However, no single person or teacher can redefine precepts. I do not have the authority to redefine these precepts since no one can make a unilateral decision or issue a decree… Such a redefinition can only come out of sangha discussions within the various Buddhist traditions. It is not unprecedented in the history of Buddhism to redefine [moral] issues, but it has to be done on the collective level” (Rethinking Buddhism and Sex, Jose Cabezon). In addition, he said in a conference in San Francisco, 1998 that he is not unilaterally empowered to change tradition: “change can only come on the collective level.” In the end of the conference he concluded, “When science points to or proves a truth contrary to Buddhist teaching, then Buddhist teaching must change,” but “changing Buddhist traditions will be much harder than advocating for your human rights” ("According to Buddhist Tradition": Gays, Lesbians and the Definition of Sexual Misconduct, Steve Peskind). Hence, although the Dalai Lama has been opposed to violence and discrimination based on sexual orientation, he cannot commit himself to helping correct harmful Buddhist teachings still in the books, including the conduct codes which can fuel homophobic behavior amongst Buddhist teachers and students.
Above is the Dalai Lama’s public speech in which he attempted to make his concept of homosexuality considered religiously genuine about Tibetan Buddhism. However, several scholars have studied closer inside Tibet, especially the monastic homosexual community. Surprisingly, gay monks were common in traditional Tibet (and every other Buddhist culture) and were an accepted part of society, without any legal form of “gay marriage” or indeed any modern concept of “homosexual orientation.” We can see this for instance in the public popularity of drombos. “Drombo is a Tibetan term for a passive homosexual partner, often someone in a close relationship with a monk. Tibetan socio-religious attitudes considered penetration to be unacceptable violation of monastic celibacy rules, whether or not the persons involved were of the same or opposite gender. So the commonly accepted workaround was for a monk to form a relationship with a drombo, who might be a younger monk or someone from the society at large (the dancers of the Dalai Lama’s personal troupe were considered especially desirable as drombo). Instead of oral or anal sex in the usual Western mode, drombo and their monastic patrons engaged in a modified form of the missionary position–the drombo lay on his back with his thighs crossed, and the monk ejaculated by moving his penis back and forth between them. No penetration, hence no violation of the rules” (Homosexuality, Marriage, and Religion in Tibet: An Endlessly Complicated, Jeff Wilson).
Far from being an underground practice, this was a socially accepted form of interaction between males, and had no relationship to sexual or personal identity as such. “While the monks in the active roles were frequently gay in the sense that Westerners now understand the term, the drombo himself often had no sexual attraction to men. Rather, the drombo received patronage from the monk, something very important in the hierarchical society of traditional Tibet. A drombo became the ward of his patron and would often receive substantial benefits to his career and status through this association (i.e. a “heterosexual” male drombo serving as a passive homosexual partner received not stigma but overt social benefit). That drombos were steered through Tibetan social circles by their patrons demonstrates the entirely above-the-board nature of these same-sex relationships: everyone knew that the drombo was being supported by monk so-and-so precisely because he was a drombo, and this was seen as perfectly natural. In fact, sometimes a drombo would become so well-known as a lover that various high-placed monks would fight over him, even sending subordinate warrior monks (dobdobs) out to kidnap him in order to force the drombo to switch to a new patron” (Homosexuality, Marriage, and Religion in Tibet: An Endlessly Complicated, Jeff Wilson).
Homosexuality even appears in another form in Tibetan monastic society. “Each monastery had its own tall, strong disciplinarian monks who carried huge sticks and acted as monk-policemen. They did not have a scholarly attitude or a particularly religious inclination and wore make-up. Parents would often frighten their children by warning them the monk-police would take them away. There was much gossip about their interest in young boys. The expression in Tibetan, trap'i kedmen means 'monk's wife' and refers to the effeminate boys who formed relationships with these monk-police" (Forbidden Fruit in the Forbidden Land, Garry Otton). And just to prove that homosexuality is complicated: “the Sixth Dalai Lama, who is believed to have been reborn as the current Dalai Lama, was widely known to be flamboyantly bisexual” (Homosexuality, Marriage, and Religion in Tibet: An Endlessly Complicated, Jeff Wilson).
In conclusion, as we see the paradoxes between the official spiritual speeches of [Buddhism in] Tibet and the facts that happen inside it, we can understand the truth that trying to comprehend where someone (whether a gay rights activist or the Dalai Lama himself) from another background is coming from can be a truly daunting task, requiring much humility and willingness to continually reflect on how little one actually knows about the details of the another’s circumstances. Although Tibetan monasteries have had circumstances related to gay monks, as the Dalai Lama said, no person can “redefine the precepts.” Nevertheless, there is one who can legalize homosexuality in Buddhism through his teaching:
“Do not believe in what you have heard; do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations; do not believe anything because it is rumored and spoken of my many; do not believe merely because the written statement of some old sage is produced; do not believe in conjectures; do not believe merely in the authority of your teachers and elders. After observation and analysis, when it agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”
Rethinking Buddhism and Sex, Jose Cabezon: http://shambhalasun.com/sunspace/?p=9070
London's Daily Telegraph, "Westerners are too self-absorbed", Alice Thomson: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/burmamyanmar/1514537/Westerners-are-too-self-absorbed.html
"According to Buddhist Tradition": Gays, Lesbians and the Definition of Sexual Misconduct, Steve Peskind: http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=1977
Huffington Post, Gay Marriage: What Would Buddha Do?, James Shaheen: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-shaheen/gay-marriage-what-would-b_b_230855.html
Homosexuality, Marriage, and Religion in Tibet: An Endlessly Complicated, Jeff Wilson: http://gaytibet.blogspot.com
6. Forbidden Fruit in the Forbidden Land, Garry Otton: http://www.freewebs.com/gaytibet/forbidden/forbidden01.htm