i think it’s important when submissive and traditional women are unmarried to be constantly working on themselves. I feel the same way about Dominant and traditional men. Even though we are single, we should all be putting in the effort to learn to become the best partners for our dynamics as we can.
While I am no longer single, I mentor, coach and help many friends who are single in this lifestyle. These are my recommendations of why to continuously be learning and growing as a Dom or a sub while single, both sfw and nsfw.
Things a sub can/should do to prepare for a future Dom-
learn to cook and to set a proper table
learn to communicate in a polite, constructive way with no dramatic or abrasive tones
get into a good routine with cleaning and know how to clean / stain remove / disinfect all types of surfaces
have a decent wardrobe for casual, semi formal and formal attire
work on any weight loss or gain / appearance / health related (mental and physical) issues to keep yourself healthy
read up about common dynamic rules, expectations, day in the lifes, etc. to see what you like and don’t like (as well as collars, contracts, etc.)
learn to budget , grocery shop, meal prep / plan, learn block schedules techniques
do basic research on gardening, canning, food preservation / storage.
have strong knowledge of Dom/sub sexuality, kink, and common expectations
most importantly - find your limits and your dealbreakers on what you do and do not in a partner and both sexually and dynamic-wise. Make notes. Know what you need before you start vetting.
What Doms could do to prepare for a future sub-
be fully educated on the lifestyle, Domestic discipline, Trad living, consent, freeuse, contracts, types of commitment collars, all of it
have rough outline of expectations, rules, routines, future goals for what they would and would not expect from a sub (that can be eventually tailored to your specific dynamic)
Know their preferred methods of domestic discipline to use
work on their career, securing a decent career and stability
build up all savings accounts and investments
secure a decent place to live / buy a home with the thought in mind of having a private space for discipline to be conducted
have solid formed opinions about common topics brought up during vetting and lifestyle discussions
know their kinks and sexual expectations but don’t be gross about it when presenting it
Anything you would add or subtract?