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I feel like I am standing at a crossroads...

I am just standing here stalled not knowing where to go or what to so all I can do is stand here because if I make a choice if I move there is no going back no second chances this is it and this is all I have been working for my entire life and how do I know what is the right choice? How do I choose? What do I do? Ever since graduation I just feel so lost there is so many things to be done but all I have done is stand here waiting for something to happen to show me what is right but I know all I can do is go with what I think is right but I am so scared because I don’t want to fail now.

anch0rs-and-arr0ws

I didn’t fail. Sometimes I feel like I might have, but if I really think about it, I’m so grateful, so grateful for all the people I’ve met, all the love and loss, and the friends I’ve made through all of this. The things I’ve learned about myself and about other people, this experience, this job, this life so far, have shown me the variety of people you can meet in life, and I’m just so grateful for all the experiences I’ve been able to have because I took that first step.

I have so many bad days that sometimes it’s hard to recognize or appreciate all the good that has come from this experience of my life so far, and all the things I’ve gotten to do because I took that first step. I moved away from home, I moved halfway across the country, and I’ve met so many amazing people through that experience.

It’s hard because I miss everyone back home, but I’m afraid, I’m afraid of going back now. I just don’t want to get stuck. I don’t want to feel like I have to settle. But at the same time, I’m just afraid, and I’m not sure what to do, or when to do the things I need to. I’m just afraid.

chaotic-neutral-knitter

I think one of the kindest things you can do for people with various mental health struggles is just... let people back into your life after they've been absent for a while.

Making friends as an adult is so fucking hard already and isolating yourself from other people is a very common symptom of depression, anxiety, burnout, ocd, trauma, grief, etc. Which means that someone will do the hard work of recovery/healing and resurface back into a world where their previous friends have written them off because they stopped showing up.

So if you know someone where you're like "yeah we could have been better friends but they fell off the map a bit" and that person suddenly reaches out, or starts showing up to events even though you kind of forgot they were still in the group chat... well they may have been Going Through It and you don't actually have to punish them for their absence you can just be glad that they're back.