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[lesbianrey]

heteronormativity is when the parent trap (1998) made halle’s obviously lesbian nanny have a forced romance plot with annie’s obviously gay butler

[exitmybody]

instead of a brain there is a mini haunted house in my head

[distantvoices]

Anna Sui SS20 RTW

[unioncarbidesuperfan66]

heely doc martens

[grifalinas]

I don’t know if anyone needs to hear this but “we all respond to trauma in different ways, not just pretty palatable ways” and “we are accountable for our own actions, even actions born from trauma” are not contradictory statements

[angelicalmentenegra-deactivated]

[konoko]

[modelsof-color]

Nyagua Ruea by The Bardos for Vogue Portugal - March 2020

[bakwaaas]

being tired all the time is such a mystery.... is it anaemia? vitamin d deficiency? chronic fatigue syndrome? depression? insomnia?? is it just the crushing weight of being alive in a capitalist society??? someone cure me

[thoradvice]

it’s okay to feel like you’re behind in life. the media portrays a rigid timeline of life experiences, telling us that if we haven’t adhered to this ridiculous “order” then we’re a loser. but that’s not true.

you can have these experiences at any age. it’s okay if you’re 18 and haven’t been kissed, or if you’re 30 and live with your parents. it doesn’t make you worthless or stupid, or anything else. you’re not behind in life, even if you feel like it. you’re going at your own pace and that’s more than okay. there are more people than you think in the same boat. you’re not alone in feeling like this.

this especially applies to those who’ve been through trauma and / or deal with mental illness(es). these things often steal our childhood and adolescence, making it even harder to reach the “common” teenage milestones of getting laid and smoking weed, or whatever’s cool at the moment. you’re not missing out. you’re not too late. you can experience everything you want to in your own time. 

there’s no time limit on the very vast majority of these experiences. you can do as many of them as you want. life doesn’t suddenly become dull and meaningless at 18 or 25 or 40. you have so much time life, i promise. there’s no time limit on happiness, or on anything you want to accomplish.

[mothcub]

[boringangel]

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCEHQcUBMla/?igshid=eq51d8t88y9y

[helperhoopoe]

remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.

“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”

“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”

rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.

[randomslasher]

This is really important for future predictions, too. “You’re eventually going to leave me” is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when they’re being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.

“I get scared sometimes because I’m afraid of being alone again” is easier to address and doesn’t leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though they’re being preemptively accused of something.  

[geistverrse]

I am literally begging, BEGGING modern media to portray healthy relationships. enough cheating. enough infidelity. enough disrespect. show me people who love each other, proper communication, and a strong mental as well as physical connection. I want plots about people who are madly in love with each other and STAY madly in love with each other. please. I am losing my mind.

[lecataste]

[sweetsarcasm-deactivated2020052]

[foosili]

confy