Can you make yourself happy?
First of all, what is happiness?
Happiness is a positive and pleasant emotion.
I can say happiness can be found in every little thing. Just by simply waking up in the morning, a glimpse of sunrise and inhaling the morning dew- that’s happiness. But what’s behind this real happiness is contentment. When you feel everything that surrounds you is enough, when you’re done looking for more, when you’ve had enough comparing every little thing; contentment means happiness. But sometimes, life can be cruel. It inevitably throws grudges and most times, it might be difficult to be happy and to show off that curve on our lips.
“No man is an island,” they say. Isn’t it ironic when somebody chooses to be with himself alone than to be with or hang out with anybody?
Do we really need someone for us to be happy? Why doesn’t it tickle when we try to tickle ourselves? These are simple questions that are somehow confusing to answer.
NO we can’t.
Surrounding yourself with positive people results happiness as a contagious feeling. Researchers found that clusters of happy and unhappy people exist; meaning that those who are surrounded by happy people are more likely to become happy, while those who are close to unhappy people are not.
Some may say happiness depends on other people. Like how one of their favorite feelings is laughing with someone and realizing half way through how much they enjoy being with them and their existence become monumental. By simply giving that person the capability to be the source of your happiness, you know by then that you really need someone to put that smile on your face.
It is undeniably a good feeling when there is someone by your side whom you know will always stay and try his best just to witness even a single glance of your smile. That someone may be a family member, a friend, a lover or even a stranger.
Isn’t it great to have a reason to be happy and to be a reason of someone’s happiness too? If you notice, it is a win-win situation. You make someone happy while you’re making yourself happy, too. I think there is this significance about life that tells; it is all about reciprocating. We live for each other and we make ourselves experience happiness while we all exist.
Good thing about having someone that’ll always willing to bring back that smile on your face is that you don’t have to be faking, to pretend happy even when you’re really not. Because naturally, that person cares for you and he obviously doesn’t want that intoxicating frown to linger.
I think, finding someone who’ll light up the day, be the smile on your face is inestimable enough. Having someone who’ll save the day, is like seeing all the magic in you and that’ll remind you of what you have forgotten; that you are special in every way and that you deserve to be happy.
YES we can.
“Self-worth is so vital to your happiness if you don’t feel good about yourself; it’s hard to feel good about anything else.” – Sandy Hale
Some also say that happiness is an inside job; you don’t have to assign anyone else that much power over your life. If we put our happiness in other’s hand, it’s like giving them the chance to drag us in our most inconsolable state, to the point they’ll leave us and we’ll never be the same again. It’s the downside of being dependent, so if I were to choose, learn to be happy with yourself first before making others.
Someone may come by, and will make you feel better for yourself but the moment they leave; they’ll take it with them. Just think about the bright side because whatever makes us happy may also bring sorrow. Self-worth must be a priority.
Your happiness should always come from within.
So, the question now is, can you make yourself happy? I think, happiness depends on our mindset. We choose to whom it might come from and we choose why we need to feel it.
