Its Okay To Ask For Help

You’re not bothering anyone by sending in asks. We want to help! This is designed not so much as an advice blog, but a place to connect those in Anxiety's room with those who can help. Asks will be posted and anyone who can support should do so. It's run by the community for the community!

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I’m having really horrible intrusive thoughts and I’m just so scared about them...

Hey, deep breaths. You’re going to be ok ❤️

Distract yourself as much as you can, you made it this far, you can push through this. I believe in you ❤️

-mod Grant

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I think I might be transgender?? I came out as a lesbian last year but now I really don't feel comfortable with the terms like Ms or Ma'am. I got mistaken as a male yesterday at an amusement park and someone called me 'sir' and it felt a lot better than when anyone has called me by female pronouns/terms. I dunno I'm just a little confused about it all.

Hiya, it’s perfectly alright to question your gender! And if you feel like he/Him pronouns suit you better, awesome!! It takes some time to figure yourself out, and using different identities to do so is very valid.

-mod Grant

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I feel really bad rn. I've got no friends anymore because they all left or dont have time/energy to deal with me. And I've been really into Shakespeare lately and I feel annoying af whenever I try to talk to anyone about it because they all treat me like I'm a stupid child and it makes me feel sick and I want to claw at my skin until it bleeds -🐈

Hey, if they treat you badly they don’t deserve to be your friend. They shouldn’t think of you as a burden. I’m terribly sorry that you have to deal with these people, because being interested in something doesn’t make you stupid. Shakespeare is amazing, and so are you. Don’t forget that.

-mod Grant

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I feel really gross. I came out as a lesbian to my best friend and now she wants nothing to do with me because she probably thinks that I'm predatory but she's not responding to my texts so I cant tell her that I'm not and ugh I hate being gay I feel so gross for it. My parents already hate me for it.

Yo, being gay can be tough, but I want you to know that you are amazing and valid, and definitely not predatory. I’m sorry you’re parents and friend are unsupportive, you don’t deserve that.

-mod Grant

I wanna be your friend and give you a hug because you're going through a lot and deserve it ❤️

Mod Clay

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Things are rough with my dad rn so I stay at my mums thinking it’ll be better but recently my mum and stepdad have been yelling at me for things that aren’t my fault or generally making me feel bad. Everytime I do something or talk about something I’m obviously passionate about my stepdad try’s his best to shut it down and make me feel so bad about it and hate myself and they don’t care and when I’m in a bad mood my friends don’t offer support but ignore me and I can’t go on like this anymore-🔥

Hey there, I’m really sorry that you are going through this. No parents, step parents or otherwise, should treat their child like that. Try you best to remember that you are not in the wrong.

Does anyone have any other advice?

-mod Grant

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I have this bracelet I got in 8th grade when my cat died and I wore it every day to just kind of fidget with but I'm starting my senior year soon and the bracelet has already broken twice so I just stopped wearing it today. I want to get a new one to fidget/play with since I don't want to keep wearing that one and risk breaking it in public since it has a lot of significance to me. Any advice on where I could find a decent bracelet that doesn't cost too much?

I'm actually really excited about this ask because yes I do know of a place. https://www.stimtastic.co/. They have all kinds of wonderful things and they're pretty cheap.

Mod Clay

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...but how do I deal with them being like that though? Like yesterday my mom and I were talking about my new anxiety medicine, and I’m supposed to take one if I have “extreme panic” and my mom started talking louder and letting everyone else in the house know that I don’t need it, because “I haven’t seen any anxiety, it doesn’t stop you, and you don’t get panic attacks”, and everyone else agreed. It just hurts me inside that they don’t acknowledge my mental illnesses as valid...

Hey there, I want you to know you are so incredibly valid, even if your family doesn’t think so. I’d say, try your best to ignore her, because even if they don’t think you need it, you know yourself best. You know when you have to use it, and YOU know that you need it. No one else should decide if you do.

-mod Grant

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I feel really angry for no reason. My ADHD meds sometimes make me angry as a side effect but i didnt take them today (i dont take them everyday even though i should but its too late now). I almost yelled and my grandma and i screamed after dropping my phone. My intrusive thoughts are getting really bad after watching thomas' most recent video and im scared im gonna hurt myself again. Im so scared

Hiya, it’s never too late to start taking your meds everyday like you’re supposed to. If you’re feeling angry, a good way to relieve some of that (I’ve food, at least) throwing ice on the ground/at an outside wall is really satsisfying. To help calm your anxiety, deep breathes;

If you feel like hurting yourself, use other things you like to do and distract yourself. Don’t go back to that. Do things you like to do. You’re going to be ok ❤️

-mod Grant

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I‘m crushing (I guess) on this guy that Idek. And I only got one week left before our 6 weeks summer holidays start. We‘re not in the same class and seeing him is rather coincidence than wanted. I know that I see him every Wednesday when changing rooms. He always smokes there outside with his classmates. I‘m scared to talk to him and say hi. I wish I could find him on social media at least, but no use without any info bout him. If our girls are out smoking we‘re at a different place than them..

Hey there, my advice would be to either kinda be like “yolo” and approach him and ask for his social medias, or wait until break ends to talk to him.

-mod Grant

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Every small inconvenience makes me want to end it and i dont get it.. theres no reason for me to feel this way over nothing, it's stupid. Theres so much worse to be upset about and so many people with so much worse like. Why am i like this

Breathe lovey, take a deep breath with me now. In for five seconds, hold it, exhale for five seconds. You have every reason to be upset by things, I know it's really hard and you feel like it's stupid, but that just means you care, and that you're a good person. Mental illness is no joke and you are completely valid. I am so proud of you.

Mod Clay

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This is 3 part ask anon, did you get my 1st & 2nd asks too? Or did you just post the 3rd one cuz of my other ask? Cuz I think I said that I got everything I wanted to say in my 3rd ask but I meant like along with the other asks, sorry for the confusion lol

I only got the third one I'm sorry

Mod Clay

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(3/?) plus I’m becoming more aware of changes in my life like this yr so far I got my braces off, dyed my hair pink(3 times), realized I was gay, got my driving permit renewed for the 4th time, I’m introverted & don’t hv many ppl to talk to so I just am bored, overthinking,& frustrated & feel like I’m not having fun or living/accomplishing things& I feel like I don’t have control over my life even tho I have all the control& I think my anxiety limits me& my insecurity holds me back sm

Hey, I dyed my hair pink too! And I'm really proud of you for finding yourself, welcome to the LGBTQ community my dear. I know that it's really hard to do things sometimes because it feels like you're being held back because you're always questioning yourself with anxiety but I want you to know that I believe in you and I'm so proud of you.

Mod Clay

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Do you have any tips for distracting yourself when you're feeling touch-starved and/or just alone in general

Hmm, maybe hug a stuffed animal if you have one, could anyone else help give advise?

Mod Clay

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(Fishing anon) I really appreciate your help! Heaven for them would be a comforting thought but I'm not religious...(I still appreciate the sentiment!) I mainly just feel like a bad person for pulling a hook through their lip when they thought they'd have food

Hey Bubbly the thanks are for you kiddo ☺️

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I am in med school and been studying non-stop (and I really mean non-stop, I are talking 12+ hours a day - of course with breaks) for the last month because pf exams. I’ve done most of it but one which I will have to do in summer, am I am becoming okay with that. The problem is, I still have one exam on Wednesday and I am so afaird, because there’s so much to learn and so little time and I feel like I am going nowhere. And I have no energy left, I am getting anxiety attacks and cannot breathe

I'm really proud of you for studying so hard, but I also don't want you to put too much pressure on yourself, I want to to take some time for yourself and take a deep breath, you've got this, I believe in you. Anyone else have advise?

Mod Clay

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I'm at a resturant and they make me nervous and im stuck with my homophobic dad. We're waiting for my uncle and I want to go home

I'm sorry you're dad is homophobic and you're uncomfortable and wanna be at home.

Mod Clay

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I went fiching this morning and caught a fish (yay!) But now I can't help but feel sorry for it and think about what it must feel like to have a fucking hook through my lip.

Hello! That can be rather uncomfortable, huh. Whenever I go hunting or fishing, u always feel really bad for the animal I caught/killed. Something I do to help myself though, is think about how good if a life that animal lived, and how they're in Heaven now.

~Mod Bubbly