why did polyamory ever start becoming “cringe” on here lmao
like damn REGs will go on and on about how they only bully the “cringe asexuals” because they dont face any sort of marriage discrimination or legal/societal issues but suddenly when it comes to the topic of polyamory this logic is completely destroyed
i see so many posts on here abt how polyamory is so “annoying” and polyamorous ppl are “cringe” and dont face any sort of oppression, as if half this fucking website forgets that in most, if not all, western countries outlaw polyamorous marriage
like there are posts and posts on here about how polyamorous people dont also face societal oppression, as if polyamory isnt frowned upon in western society? as if saying “my boyfriend’s girlfriend” or “my girlfriend’s husband” isnt a common fucking joke punchline, and will give you weird looks if you try to drop it casually within a conversation
yall cant make the “i only bully the minorities that dont face oppression 😖” argument and then completely throw polyamorous people under the bus and make them face the same bullshit as they always have lol
My boyfriend’s mother straight-up threatened me with a gun after finding out we were in a polyam relationship, and proceeded to kick my boyfriend out of the house. He hasn’t talked to his family in years now.
We regularly get told that our relationship isn’t child-friendly. Concerned parents corner us and ask us not to “bring our lifestyle around their children” even though we didn’t do or talk about anything inappropriate.
My city apparently has an ordinance that prevents more than three people living together unless they’re related by blood or marriage (not that we pay any attention to it, but our landlord could LEGALLY evict us if she found out).
When we had to take my wife to the emergency room due to severe chest pains, our boyfriend had to sit out in the waiting room, scared and alone, while waiting for me to text him updates.
And I’ve just resigned myself to not being able to have kids because of all the legal issues that could arise if a bunch of polyamorous trans people tried to adopt.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
This reminds me of the time when I was sitting with a co-worker during a slow period and she was texting on her phone and laughed. I asked her what was funny, as we do- we share memes all the time. SHe says ‘oh, my girlfriends boyfriend just-’ and froze. Like. Terror-froze, and looked at me. The amount of relief on her face when I was just like ‘your girlfriends boyfriend just what?’ to try to continue the conversation was… Heartbreaking. I had to interrupt my own ‘please continue’ to say something to the effect of ‘Like, you’re Poly, right? You were saying something funny?’ But just … The fact that she ‘slipped’ and was so afraid I would judge or condemn her for it was.. Fucked up. I’m queer as hell, I get having to be mad-careful about what I say and to whom I say it. But the look on her face when she wasn’t sure how I was gonna react to hearing that… Is gonna be a long time before I forget that face.
“as if polyamory isnt frowned upon in western society? as if saying “my boyfriend’s girlfriend” or “my girlfriend’s husband” isnt a common fucking joke punchline, and will give you weird looks if you try to drop it casually within a conversation“
I was more afraid of telling my mom I was in a polyam relationship than of coming out to her as trans. My mom had been around queer and trans folks and was basically accepting if a little confused sometimes. My mom’s one experience with polyamory was my dad using it as a piss-poor excuse to cheat on her (aka not really poly bc it wasn’t consensual for all parties), and she saw it as just another word for cheating basically. She didn’t believe poly relationships could be healthy or viable. I was even more afraid to tell her when we later broke up, and I thought I was going to get a nasty “I told you so” instead of the support I needed.
My dad threatened to kill my brother because my mom outed him as polyam.
