OP just loves apples, not aplatonic

Sideblog 🍎 Call me Apollo 🍎 white 🍎 he/they/it pronouns 🍎 TME (perhaps obviously) 🍎 gay aro 🍎 not aplatonic 🍎over 18 and under 21 🍎inclusionist and tucute 🍎DNI if you put transfem people on your DNI for being "shady" or intimidating" 🍎 also DNI if TERF, trumed, exclusionist, arophobic

[applearo]

are humans social animals? yeah. that doesn't mean every human has to be social individually though

[applearo]

Fuck yeah aromantic trending at #2 >:)

[aviesnapkindoodles]

wait its trending bc yelena belova from hawkeye/black widow is canonically aroace apparently and people are erasing her identity.

[applearo]

Found that out a bit after posting this. I hate arophobes so much.

[applearo]

Fuck yeah aromantic trending at #2 >:)

[small-ass-mustelid]

Sometimes I feel like I’m the only person who remembers that aplatonic was coined in 2012 on AVEN by an alloromantic asexual to capture their own experiences. That means the first known aplatonic was an ALLOROMANTIC APLATONIC. Yet I see so many posts claiming “aplatonic is exclusive to aromantics”, “aplatonic was coined by aromantics”, “aplatonic was coined with neurodivergent aromantics in mind”. And they get a shitton of notes every single time. I’m sick of the misinformation that’s been following our community for years now. I’m sick of non-apls talking over apls and redefining our identity and history.

[shades-of-grayro]

Alright, Im going to have to explain this really carefully. I am in love with my best friend, a story youve heard if youve seen any of my po

Image description plus more info: AVEN user Mr. Shuttershy, whose profile indicates identifying as asexual homoromantic, says the following on April 6, 2012:

Alright, I’m going to have to explain this really carefully.

I am in love with my best friend, a story you’ve heard if you’ve seen any of my posts. I’ve come to realize that this is not the first time. However, I have also been really evaluating my other friendships lately. If you saw my post in the Tea and Sympathy on not loving my friends, good, but in short I’ve come to understand that most people in my life could be considered an acquantance at best. Now, I have a few friends who are nice, but I don’t feel a psrticular bond with them. If the aromantics are to be believed, platonic love is a type of /love/, and a love that is not to be under-estimated. It runs deeps and means a lot.

I have never had that.

Sure, the people I’ve ‘friended’ are nice, and I’d want nothing but for them to be happy, but I don’t really have a bond with them. The only people in my life that I’ve bonded with are those I feel romantic attraction to.

So, don’t get me wrong, I have friends and care about them; but love is a powerful word, and one I cannot apply to them.

I’ve theorized its because my parents were abusive, so I never learned how to love those I don’t feel romantically for; bur how would one even change that? I’m an adult now, and I don’t know if I can learn to have feeöings for friends.

That’s where the title comes in.

Aplatonic.

I was just wondering if anyone has shared my experience? Do you think aplatonic can exist? Its not that I don’t want to bond, but I just feel so indifferent. I’m not neccesarily looking for a label, but I’m more looking for others who share this experience. I feel empty to feel as I do.

Thoughts? Opinions? Cake?

[herefortheace]

Black aros are incredible and worthy of love and support and kindness, and all their wishes should come true.

Black aces are incredible and worthy of love and support and kindness, and all their wishes should come true.

All black ace-spec and all black aro-spec people are simply incredible and deserving of happiness and good things

[raimi]

I'm coining the term lovequeer. To be lovequeer is to fully reject the concept of "love" as society applies it for romance, and to redefine the word around oneself and the types of love neglected by amatonormativity.

I am a lovequeer aro. My heart is full of love for my friends, for my family, for my pets. The idea of romance is useless and irrelevant to me. I don't need romance. All I need is my strong and passionate love.

[applearo]

Fantastic news everyone :)

I'm not alone in this head

[applearo]

I'm aro. I'm not ace. Idk if I belong with alloaros either though.

[raimi]

Okay but can we talk about how good Xania's wedding stories are? You almost never see stories like this about not understanding love that DON'T end with the person meeting someone else and just being like "oh *this* is love" especially not with a personality like hers, and I don't think I've ever seen anything else not written by an aro person that depicts the struggles with amatonormativity that Xania has.

[Image description: a screenshot from Xania's wedding stories. No character is on the screen. In the textbox, Xania says "I don't understand love or marriage or my reason for living, and that makes me feel as though I'm lost."]

And you know how this is resolved? She decides to focus on her relationship with herself instead of forcing herself to try to get into romance she doesn't understand! (There's one amatonormative comment that it'll make her a better partner *when* she's ready, but you can't expect alloros to get everything right.)

And the fact that this narrative is on a wedding alt of all things? *chef's kiss*

[applearo]

My main blog is enby-marth. If you have me blocked either don't interact with me or unblock me.

[aromantic-and-heartless]

Happy Pan Visibility Day to all the pan aros out there! To the ones who don’t split their attraction and only identify as pan or aro. To the ones who may also be ace-spec. To the pan aros who vibe more with aro-spec identities! To those who are questioning if they are either!

[applearo]

And to the pan aros who don't use the SAM and are simply both pan and aro!

[aro-culture-is]

hi ! what are aro mids and neu aros pls ? i tried to look it up but i can’t find anything,,

hey! i got your second message that you found it, but I like using these to reach more people who could like the term so I’m gonna answer it anyways lol

as defined by AUREA:

Neu(tral) aro: Describes an aromantic person whose identity on the allosexual-asexual spectrum and/or on other orientation spectra is neutral, in-between, multiple, or unclear.

Neu(tro)/Neutral aro coined by: A-romantic--aromantic (original, archived)

but i will fully admit I have no idea about aro mids! by context I would assume it’s similar, but based on the term middle.

[applearo]

Aromid refers to a person who is fully aromantic and somewhere on the ace spectrum.

[mens-rights-activia]

I’m an unromanceable npc but you have the option to fight me

[geejaysmith]

You’ve heard of mlm, you’ve heard of wlw, now get ready for: pvp.

[alloaro]

Is a hallway a hole?

Discuss

Personally I'm firmly in the hallway is a hole side

[applearo]

They're not holes. They're tubes.

[alloaro]

Ah but what is a tube if not a long hole

[applearo]

Hm, that's a valid perspective.

[alloaro]

Is a hallway a hole?

Discuss

Personally I'm firmly in the hallway is a hole side

[applearo]

They're not holes. They're tubes.

[applearo]

(Top is original by woke-truscum, bottom is mine.)

Sam is a nonbinary trans boy (he/xe) who doesn’t know what his sexuality is. Xe can’t compress despite xis dysphoria because xe’s naturally very round and it hurts xim. He loves playing pranks and Samme is his best friend!

Samme is a binary trans boy and a she/her gay. She’s nondysphoric, but she gets a huge amount of euphoria from compressing into a more masculine shape. She only has one funcional eye, but she also has two smaller ones hidden under her fur. Her two favorite things in the world are puns and her best friend Sam!

@sammyclassicsjwfan @queer-anna @trendernepeta @trender-sebastian

[applearo]

Throwback to this :)

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this is what we call “propganda.” bernie sanders suspends his campaign AKA he wont spend money advertising himself anymore (bc he wants to help with the pandemic) but he’s still in the race. news sources JUMP on the fact that he’s stopped campaigning to tell everyone “WHOOPS he dropped out! better go vote biden! no other option bc bernie dropped out of the race :/” when he fucking didnt!