911 days
One might wonder how it is to be in a long distance relationship. A long distance of 11000km that is. I am not talking about a duration of a week or two, but one of almost 2,5 years, or 911 days, which it will be on the August of 15th.
The main ingredients I have some tips and tricks for those who are curious about it. This is only from my point of view so it might be different for anyone else of course.
- Keep it simple Everyone is insecure about something wether it’s physically, mentally, skillwise or careerwise. People tend to choose their partner based on their status, achievement or looks. It might be good enough for people to choose their partner on that criteria but keep in mind that life changes constantly. That girl might not be pretty forever, that career he has might go downhill. Things can make a u-turn and if you are with someone based on the criteria I mentioned, the relationship may end up quite disastrous.
I’d say, choose someone who makes you forget about your troubles with their silly jokes, talks about stargazing, horrible dancing or even weird way of running. Choose someone who you can get along with character wise. Beauty on the outside fades but the beauty of the soul remains.
- Find your love Everybody has the difficult task of finding a partner who they will be together with for 50+ years. That is a very long time so it might as well be with someone you truly love otherwise it will feel like the longest trainride of your life.
This is why I’d say it is important to be with that one person you truly love no matter the differences and odds. There are many things in life which will make you sad. Being with the right person makes it so much easier to get through those bad days and improve the quality of life. - Falling in love over and over This is about falling in love with the same person multiple times. You know you have the right partner if he/she makes you fall in love over and over with him/her. It can be due to the small things that have huge impact. Being there when your partner needs you, asking how his/her day was, supporting eachother with the many goals in life.
Love is a team game and a well oiled team gets further than the rest.Â
- Once in a lifetime As long as there are single people, there will be others who are attracted to you. Some don’t event care if you or them are in a relationship already. The truth is that there is always someone who is more attractive, prettier, stronger, smarter out there. It might be difficult for some to stay with what you have if there is something different out there. Some people tend to be hopping from one partner to another but that would mean there is no love involved.
If you have found someone you truly love, it’s better to stick with her in the good and bad days. Especially if she loves you back just as much. That kind of love is something that comes only once in a lifetime if you’re lucky so be aware of what you’ve got.
- Is it worth the wait? I see my girlfriend about 3 weeks a year. During those 3 weeks life seems to pass  by so fast. As they say, time flies when you’re having fun. I surely am having fun by just doing simple stuff like cooking or strolling around. The feeling I have being with her is beyond compare. We grew up in different places but somehow we think alike about many many things. Everything just flows easily like water.
The feeling of finally seeing her again after the long wait is indescribable. The times you are together makes up the time you are apart. So yes, if you truly, genuinely love someone, it is defnitely worth the wait.
- Me & my girlfriend Whenever I hear that she is a bit sad or had a bad day, I feel like I need to cheer her up. I have my own stuff going on, such as work, but hearing her smile is more important to me. Unfortunately there are only limited ways to make one smile when there is such a huge distance in between, but taking a break just to be there for her helps a lot.Â
In short… Don’t overthink but keep it simple, be supportive, make her smile, show some love, make life more beautiful… She is worth it.
- C.Sugiono
