Aromantic Vagueness

Call me Eli, because my name isn't actually K. A. Random queer, trans, aromantic, autistic, coeliac, disability and personal babbles/reblogs by a confused nebularomantic/arovague allo-aro. I like European metal music, fantasy novels, Sylvanian Families figurines, playline fashion dolls, cross stitch and rice cakes covered in dark chocolate. I'm passionate about food allergen awareness, stimming, allo-aro representation and people respecting my non-binary identity by not using "they" to refer to me. I write short queer-as-fuck fiction as a compromise with a body that painfully objects to anything involved in the actual process of writing. I have meaningful things to say at @aroworlds and @alloaroworlds. This blog is for everything else. links bio ⁕ patreon ⁕ ko-fi ⁕ personal website ⁕ aro website ⁕ fiction ⁕ when quiver meets quill ⁕ hallo, aro pronouns ze / hir / hirs / hirself accessibility I don't have the spoons to tag most posts or provide image descriptions. Please don't ask me to do either.

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Night Blooms

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I know that the term "loveless" can cause a knee jerk reaction with lots of people. I know the term can be tied to hurt feelings, painful accusations, silent worries and a strong urge to defend yourself.

But I need people, especially aros who aren't familiar with the concept, to understand that the reclaiming of that word is born from the very same hurt. Only instead of saying "I'm not loveless, I can still love" which often goes hand in hand with a silent "I am still worthy because I can love", loveless aromanticism asks "why am I, as an aromantic person, constantly having to defend my worth as a human being?" and "why can't we instead have a conversation about how respect for another person should not be tied to whether they feel one emotion?" and "why do you choose to reduce the vast complexity of lived human experience to one feeling?" and "what if I don't feel love? What if I don't understand love? What if I've been hurt by love? What if the concept of love makes me deeply uncomfortable, am I still allowed to exist in peace?"

The point is, I see many aros react in a hurt and defensive manner when confronted with lovelessness, and I see many loveless aros react to that in a similar hurt and defensive manner. and it's just all the same hurt.

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trying out some new brushes. so here are some random plants🪴

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ghosties & pumpkins stamps 🎃

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It is cool and sexy of me to perceive myself as a robot due to being a loveless aro with low empathy who doesn't quite have emotions the way I'm supposed to. However, if anyone else calls me a robot for those things, I will bite them. This makes complete sense.

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Autumn Mugs // Milushka on Etsy

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秋コーデ🦉🎩🍂

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[zandrapaints]

there's always time to take a moment

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walter whites garden

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Coceramics Studio on Etsy

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pride sheepies: pansexual

stickers here!

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Vintage Tapestry Bags // Liberina on Etsy

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pride sheepies: nonbinary

stickers here!

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Alaskan bouquet commish