[owlmylove]

good afternoon ladies and entities. regrettably, i am feeling

[thelovedoesntquenchtherage]

[polychelles]

Doug Aitkin’s mirage house, photographed by Ashley Cho

[vinstage]

[janeforest]

[wkn-source-code-deactivated2019]

[godfreyja]

[allminetherainbow]

Janelle Monáe and Tessa Thompson in Make Me Feel.

[queenwhiskey]

maybe you nerds should try a real “goblet of fire” and light up a bowl

[significances]

Love is the absence of judgment.

Dalai Lama (via significances)

[painstation-deactivated20181026]

[jayalvarrez]

[voiceofnature]

Faerie Haven by Devajoy Gouss and Julie Jumper from Faerie Magazine

[demiiwhiffin]

sad to confirm that the possibilities are in fact endless

[ernmark]

I most often see executive dysfunction talked about in terms of not being able to make yourself do things. And that’s one of its manifestations, yes, but it’s not the only one. Another really big one that I see is something called Decision Fatigue. Making choices is an executive function, but each one that you make costs you something. The more complex they are, the more it costs– and if you’re already low on mental resources, even small choices can be completely overwhelming. 

The example used most often is that of a courtroom judge, whose ability to fairly evaluate the cases they’re presiding over deteriorates during the day. Elsewhere I’ve seen the example of grocery shopping– when you’ve got a tight budget, every single item you look at requires complex cost-benefit analysis, to the point that you’re mentally exhausted and not making good choices about anything by the time you get to the register (where, conveniently, you’ll find candy, cigarettes, and scratch-off tickets waiting for you). 

But even smaller things than that count.

I’ve watched my partner spiral into a panic attack when I asked him what he wants for dinner.

I’ve broken down sobbing over someone asking me I want to do on my birthday, and I’ve shut down altogether over something as innocuous as what color I want my bed to be in minecraft.

Even the tiny, mundane, innocent choices just feel like they’re too big, too much, too overwhelming. 

Like with a whole lot of mental health things, it’s incredibly difficult to do anything about this kind of thing if you don’t have the words for it or the means to explain it– and damn close to impossible to explain any of it when you’re in the thick of a bad episode. But once you have that language and understanding in place, things do get easier.

Because then you can get to the point where “I don’t know” and “I can’t make a decision right now” are perfectly acceptable answers that don’t require any further explanation. 

And trust me, that takes a load off your shoulders.

[fireproofs]

dream job?

i simply do not dream of labor

[repulsed]