okay so anyway. i was just like yknow, looking through tumblr to jill off and dawg. dawg i'm sorry but your blog is simultaneously fascinating and utterly hilarious to me. i can't stop laughing. cuz like, with a vast majority of miso kink doms (and male doms in general, particularly cis ones), you get the sense that they just genuinely fucking hate women. and they use kink as an excuse to hurt them. I do NOT get that from you (and maybe I'm wrong, idk). You just seem to have like, an objectification and/or control fetish. why are you the wokest man on misogynist kinkblr. let me study you in a lab. not for a medical kink or anything, I just wanna study ur brain. for normal and totally non-autistic reasons.
Oh how beautiful to be understood.
EDIT: I wrote a largely irrelevant essay below so I think the thing I'm actually supposed to say in response to this is: no need to apologize, if I were upset at people for being weird I would be the world's worst hypocrite, I am happy to answer questions about myself. Also when I was active I got death threats in asks semi-frequently so you do not even remotely need to worry about this ask being atypical, you seem like an excellent person and I suspect that apologies of this type will never, in any circumstances, be necessary from you.
(Something about most miso kink doms being like six months of self-reflection away from being like me, but they won't do that self-reflection, because miso kink in men is basically a maladaptive response to insoluble insecurities about the role of men and boys in Western culture and looking deeply into this fact is both damaging to one's internal sense of masculinity and to outside perception of one's masculinity, especially by women.)
(Something about the foundation of the kink not being hurting women! Many men manifest it that way but you'll notice that they are unsure about what they actually want, it's closer to being able to hurt women without becoming undesirable, because one of the deep-rooted gender dynamics that existing social movements have found no viable attacks on, one that functions as a sort of DNA for patriarchal social systems, reproducing one in full whenever it fits coherently into its environment, is that male sexuality is inherently, nebulously dangerous, that the sexuality of unattractive or unsuccessful men in particular is poisonous, threatening, the weapon of The Enemy. For a lot of people, and I think for me, the kink is more like "there's this implicit framework that basically everybody accepts to a degree, that nobody seems all that interested in questioning, that says that I'm incapable of caring about someone without wanting dominion over them. And some people think that's good and some people think that's bad but everybody thinks it's *true*, there are people who will claim not to think it's true but then you look at how they treat people they don't like and you see that no part of their worldview can really be disentangled from this belief. And maybe I even think it's true a little bit. But even if it were true I could care about someone and they could care about me." That is to say, none of my kinks work at all if my partner isn't enjoying them, and in a lot of ways the kink is about the partner enjoying them.)
(All this to say, I think if you understand miso kink doms as being deeply insecure and afraid you will understand us better 100% of the time! And if you read this and agree in a pejorative manner, then you don't understand and you may never understand.)
(Also I'm going to be pretty inactive on the kink front for the foreseeable future, but I will be on here somewhat regularly and will always be down to talk about these or other things with people. I've spent decades trapped inside my head, being afraid and confused and ashamed, I've experienced a lot of the negative aspects of male sexuality, and I think I've produced some valuable thoughts in that environment. I love introspecting to a fault, I cannot help but try to make sense of myself and others, and if there's something I've made sense of that you haven't yet, I will always be infinitely happy to share.)
(Something about how it's kind of correct to understand me as like if an incel got extremely woke. I was never an incel and I'm honestly not that woke but it's a metaphor. Maybe a better way to phrase this is just, I have read books before.)
