CIGARETTE WIFE

I put something I wanted into practice, and now I just feel sick

[ashesofariandel]

Rodya + she/he + over 20 + tme When the flesh is willing i do art and post rants about video games or horror or other things

[luthienne]

girl help i’m starting over again for the 1000th time & i’m beginning to think that life is a never-ending cycle of starting over & i actually have to make peace with that in order to move forward

[ashesofariandel]

flexing on here

[toddsolondz]

destroying and betraying yourself for nothing all by yourself, handsome?

[wutheringheightsfilm]

every day it just concerns me how little compassion people have. no compassion for those living in the global south. no compassion for immigrants. no compassion for disabled ppl. no compassion for addicts. no compassion for prisoners. no compassion for children. like holy shit ...

[wutheringheightsfilm]

i made a separate post about this but actually there are plenty of people cough white people who care about animals more than they ever do human people . not what i'm talking about make your own post

[nourishedbytime]

[ewaneneollav]

what if after job interview you catch a glimpse of the person’s notepad & see they wrote “things have learnt to walk that ought to crawl”

[mr-deep-downer]

need

[ashesofariandel]

Honestly the puppygirl article is so interesting to me because I've dealt with people that are just like the discussed puppygirl but they weren't trans women nor were they puppies, they were just very mentally unstable and very dependent individuals who did take advantage of their positions where they could be taken care of as long as they had an excuse for staying where they were. (Not all of them know, but the ones I knew did know.)

I can empathize to an extent for the writer because that situation does genuinely sound terrible to be in, but my empathy stops when taking into account that she not only targeted a very specific subgroup of trans women in her Vent piece, but also refused to do any critical thinking to realize that the issue wasn't the fact that the girl was a "puppygirl" but rather an issue with establishing boundaries and healthy communications from the very beginning (which in turn allowed the girl to maintain where she was). I also take what happened in that situation with a grain of salt, mostly because we have no idea what was happening to that girl in the midst of everything. I do also think there could have been more things that OP could have done to repair the situation from the get-go.

TLDR: the article is very much a vent piece that was very obviously written while looking back in anger. While there is nuance, it's not written in good faith, and OP needs to step away and reevaluate this particular situation because the issue isn't "puppygirls", it was OPs inability to communicate until it was too late and her only option was to blow up at the most mentally unstable individual when she couldn't take it any more

Oh yeah no i did feel all of that while i was reading it, especially since yeah i met people like that before, that's why to me at least it just sounded like a way too academized attempt at justifying authors own inaction in everything that happened in a way. After all it's better to blame everything on another person or society as a whole than reach within yourself. In a way it's just a sad example what an outward-only examination of any given situation leads to

[ashesofariandel]

i read the puppygirl article and one thing i will say it honestly reads as not quite properly grown up version of a tumblr callout for your ex - having both more "grown up" ammunition such as theory but then the entire issue was rooted in poor communication and couldve had been much easier to resolve

[krasnoarmeyets]

tragic! internet poster who works as an engineer in the american defense industry thinks their opinion on anything is worth more than dirt

[invaderz13]

as someone who's studying engineering and interacts with plenty of people going into the defense industry. yup

i remember having a conversation with this guy where i mentioned my goal with employment is to contribute to bombing the least people. and his response was "well if you're not pulling the trigger you aren't really bombing them"

[krasnoarmeyets]

something i’ve noticed about this style of rationale (in this context but more broadly in similar situations too when someone is confronted with the fact that their actions or intended actions are unethical) is their only concern is the question of how to define guilt in a way that through pure rhetorical argument they can absolve themselves of any responsibility for their own actions and are fundamentally entirely unconcerned with what happens beyond that

[ashesofariandel]

whenever i see my mutual that has a fyodor dostoyevski introject i feel like this

[ashesofariandel]

watching yellowjackets and i know it has its issues (racism) its good to see toxic middle aged women as most of main cast

[ashesofariandel]

it is insane to me that the best backrooms house-of-leaves like experience i ever had was the fucking backrooms minecraft modpack

[ashesofariandel]

what was the creator of this going through. why is it incredible horror experience. i literally was going through this and was like ohhh yeah now i get the narration in house of leaves

[ashesofariandel]

it is insane to me that the best backrooms house-of-leaves like experience i ever had was the fucking backrooms minecraft modpack

[ashesofariandel]

watching yellowjackets and god someone trying to convince you even in good faith of you having visions from god instead of delusions scares the shit out of meee

[ashesofariandel]

im not even psychotic anymore but my sister tried to pull that shit on me when i was younger and eughhh

[ashesofariandel]

watching yellowjackets and god someone trying to convince you even in good faith of you having visions from god instead of delusions scares the shit out of meee

[b1tchcup]

bro believes misandry is an axis of oppression 🤣🫵