FTM transgender questions answered

21/ he him his/ T-date 3.25.16 This blog is run to answer any questions you may have regarding how to come out, dysphoria, etc. You may either SUBMIT A CONFESSION/STORY or ASK ME A QUESTION. This is a support blog and I am here to help anyone in need. Although this blog is mainly aimed towards FTM transgender individuals, ALL genders are supported here.

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Don't agree with me being trans. thoughts? Did I just see the wrong therapist? (2/2)

Therapists have their way of not sharing their opinions (to a certain degree) as a way of not influencing their patients and allowing them to think for themselves. In this cenerio it seems like the therapist was trying to open in up the opportunity for you to decide for yourself what YOUR dysphoria feels like/is. I can understand how this can be frustrating, and my best bet is that that particular therapist wasn’t a good match for you (and that’s okay!). From here i would suggest either seeing a new therapist if that is an option, or you can message me on here and i will try my best to help you (i have my bachelors in psych).

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I went to my first gender therapist a little while ago because I was terrified of "faking my gender dysphoria" and I needed a proffessional to diagnose me. After a while I would ask if what I'm experiencing was gender dysphoria and all she would do is say it "sounded like it" and "I can't decide that for you". all this did was cause me frustration and since then I haven't needed to see a therapist anymore, but I feel like I can't ask my parents to see someone else about this since they (1/2)

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Hello! Do you believe that me, a cis person should correct people for misgendering my openly trans friend? Obviously this regards situation where she isn’t put in danger because of the fact that she is trans

Ask your friend, if she’s okay with you doing so, then it’s absolutely alright! :)

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i have a bit of a weird question i hope it doesn't make anyone uncomfortable. can you choose youe penis size when you get bottom surgery? and would there be problems if you get a relatively big one?

Yes, you can choose your phallus size. Most surgeons, or good ones anyway. recommmed staying around 4-6.5 inches. Not to say a surgeon won’t go bigger or smaller, but i believe there can be issues when going too big. Brownstein and Crane is a very well know practice and they have lots of information on their website if you’d like to check it out

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Permanently dying your silicone packer/prosthetic

                          -Without losing your life savings-

           I have only tried this on SILICONE products (not cyberskin).

A tutorial on how to (will probably fade over time) dye your silicone packer/prosthetic.

And it’s cheap!

What do you need:

-Permanent Mahogany hairdye (red purple brownish) (I have not tried semi-permanent hairdyes) Price: 3-15 EU / 4-15 USD

-A small paint brush or cotton sticks (I recommend a small paint brush)

-A little bit of patience

Reelmagik Basic Packer: The first packer I dyed was the Reelmagik one, simply because I use it every day, and I just don’t like having a one-toned willy! The hairdye seeps in the silicone Reelmagik uses very quick so make sure you keep a close eye on it after dying it. Step by step: - Paint on the head and/or the balls of your prosthetic - Make sure that the hairdye covers the whole head, so make it a nice and thick layer. If you catch any un-covered parts make sure you put some dye on those aswell, quickly. - Wait for about 5-15 minutes (you can wash it off if you’re nervous and then re-dye it later if it isn’t dark enough) Peecock: It takes a bit longer for the dye to seep in due to the type of silicone. Be patient and make sure the hairdye layer is very thick, don’t worry when the hairdye on the head is fully red-ish that’s normal :) (15 min - 30 min - 1h keep a close eye on it) NOTE: The Peecock gen 3 comes with paint, which will wear off in about an hour… make sure any left overs of this paint are washed off before you dye it.

EDIT: Freetom: For the Freetom it also takes a bit longer, it takes about 30 min to 1h or even 1 h and 30 minutes. Make sure to check frequently.

I will upload more pictures of my prosthetics after I get the brown hair dye and do a full paint job on them (including small veins etc) I hope this will help my fellow ftm’s!

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You know how when you go on T you gain weight? What’s the cause of it? Bones densing up? Muscles thickening? Gaining of fat? What’s giving us the extra pounds?

T can increase appetite which can cause weight gain. Muscle gain also contributes to the possible weight gain but it’s not like T is gonna make you shredded, you will gain a bit of muscle mass tho. I personally did not experience weight gain and actually found that being on T helped me lose weight much easier (while dieting and exercising of course)

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so i’ve been flirting with this guy back and forth and well he’s straight and has been crushing on me since before i realized i was a trans guy... he has trouble with seeing me as a guy what should i do??

At the end of the day, you need to be true to yourself. Dont let anyone hold you back from being who you are! If it’s meant to be, he will understand.

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hey! i'm giving away my used tank binders - a L, three XL and a 3XL from gc2b. it's preferable that the person can pay for shipping costs, since i live in europe. if anyone is interested please message me!

If anyone is in need!!

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I am gonna ask something cause i dont know where else to go with it. I am with someone who is mildly transphobic. Not badly. Im planning on getting top surgery in a few years(saving money amoung other things) and my partner knows. They dont like it but never told me i cant get it. Apparently though they have told other muturals friends if i get it, they dont think they can stay in the relationship anymore. Ill get to the point, should i stay in the relationship? Should this hold me back?? Sorry.

Do not let anyone else hold you back. Im not going to tell you to stay or leave the relationship, but i think you should sit down and discuss these things with your partner.

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Don’t remember if I’ve asked this before?? But me personally I have been struggling to let myself settle with the fact that I’m trans. I definitely ain’t a woman, and I like he/him pronouns, I like being thought of socially as male. But I for some reason cannot convince myself that I won’t second guess all this. Even though everything points to me being trans, I sit and I question whether it’s really true. I only got diagnosed awhile ago, is this normal to kinda question before you accept it...?

Of course it’s normal. It’s a HUGE step, however, it’s important to trust yourself and not let hold yourself back from your full potential. My best advise is to see a therapist. It can be really beneficial to get a professionals objective opinion, especially when dealing with self doubt.

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So I'm 17 and pre everything and it's time for me to start shopping for clothes for the school year. I usually have to buy pants in the women's section still because my butt and hips are too big for men's pants usually. Any tips on how to somehow find fitting men's pants, or somehow find masculine looking women's pants?

Pacsun has a line of pants called “stacked stinky”, which are wide at the top and narrow at the bottom. I’ve found that they’re very comfortable and I wore them while i was pre-t and had very large hips. Try them on and let me know what you think!

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hey! so ive been scrolling through your blog for a while and its absolutely amazing, just wanted to tell you :) anyway, ive identified as a cis female my whole life. recently, ive come out as non binary but i still feel as though i dont belong in a way? its hard to explain but sometimes i feel as though i want to transition and other times i think i shouldnt. i guess im just really confused. any advice?

My advise would be not to rush it. Take the time to get to know yourself, outside of your gender identity. Learn about yourself and then, if you feel the need/ want to label yourself, you can do so! :) Best of luck to you!

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Hey there, recently I bought a new binder and also recently I have been getting more upper back and neck aching. I was wondering if it is possible if wearing my new binder is the thing causing these aches is it just correlation. Is there any previous reports/ evidence that binding can cause neck aching? Thank you for your time.

You neck and back pain could absolutely be due to binding. I would keep track of how long you’re wearing it each day, and make sure to keep it under 7 hours. If the pain persists/ worsens I would speak to a doctor.

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Hey do you really answers questions?

Indeed i do

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Hi I'm an almost 19 year old trans-man, and I was wondering if there's anyway to have a more T looking mbody without taking T. See there's only one hormone clinic in my entire state so it's kinda difficult to get a referral...

Exercising and building muscle are huge for this. Not only do these activities build confidence, they also will make you look more masculine. Losing weight decreases hip size, as well as lessens body fat in all areas. and of course, building muscle, especially the back and chest, helps one to look more masculine. Building muscles in the chest also reduce breast size by burning that fat.

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I’m questioning my gender and, I have been for a long time. Is there anyway to stop questioning. I’m literally so terrified to tell anyone. Plz help

This is something A LOT of trans individuals struggle with, including myself. My best advise is to try learn and practice self love, a well as seeing a therapist if you don’t already. Therapists are very helpful and there’s no shame in that. You can also always message me and we can chat! good luck!

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I know this is probably a stupid questions but does anyone know the science behind why they can’t turn the vagina out like they turn the penis inside out

I believe the skin/tissue is too thin.