I'm but and I'm struggling a lot with body image issues and feeling like nobody could ever be attracted to me.
Like, I look at myself and just don't see someone attractive.
And some part of me knows this is stupid, because a) I'm attracted to femmes, not other butches, so no wonder I'm not my own type? And b) all those stereotypes about femmes drooling over butches have to come from somewhere. They have to exist.
But it just... Doesn't feel like it and I hate it. Like there is something wrong with me. Not with being butch, that's the only thing that ever felt comfortable to me. That just feels like being ME. But still, I kind of feel like I'm somehow wrong.
Do you have any kind of advice? Or, like. Hope. You are a butch with a femme wife who obviously adores you from your descriptions. If anyone can give me hope it sounds like it could be you.
My advice is to do stuff without trying to figure out what other people are thinking. Embrace the fact that you can't know. So flirt with girls, like for realsies flirt, and if they respond positively then fuck yeah. If not then hey they weren't gonna be a good fit anyway.
Also. It can be really really hard to tell when a girl likes you as a Butch. They're expecting (hoping) that you make the first move. (Look up lesbian sheep if you're not familiar). They expect you to /know/ they like you. And there are, like, zero external clues. They'll just seem nice. But they're crazy attracted to you. I know this because I will routinely talk to a girl in a store that is just the sweetest nicest person, then when I see her again while holding my wife's hand, she's quiet and like, sometimes rude. And every time I'm baffled. And every time, my wife is like "dumbass she thought you were cute."
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