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(Dis)comfort is Key

Uncommon Opinion: Discomfort is really important to have in your life.

I have been on the road non-stop since September 19, interacting regularly with cultures and personalities that are unfamiliar to me. I have experienced many personal failures, committed many social faux pas, and have endured a lot of stress—but, I have also learned a lot in these 10 weeks, about myself and the way that I want to interact with the world, and acknowledge that I still have a lot more learning to do and possibly some penance still to pay.

As Americans we are always striving for comfort. We have air conditioners and turn our heaters on at the first sign of autumn. We change sheets when they get rips, and throw out clothes when they get stains. We don’t go out of our way, and what would be a minor inconvenience in other countries is a complete outrage to us (see: necessary road construction). We are not used to adapting, we are used to buying what we need to keep the status quo so we don’t have to adapt. I fundamentally disagree with this ideal, and am completely guilty of upholding it. There will be some changes made.

I think about discomfort a lot when I work with families because largely I work for families who can pay me what I deserve (thank you all for blessing me!), which means that their children, typically, want for nothing. Growing up in a different tax bracket, I am amazed by how little discomfort children in middle(+)-class America experience, and it makes me think about the lessons I learned as a child that still stay with me today—and the ones that I have tried to buy my way out of it, that have made me a worse person. Largely ones that involve being satisfied with less (though there are other beautiful lessons that stem from discomfort, like the value of a hard day’s work, or the power of imagination in the absence of distraction).

Sitting with discomfort is one of the most important lessons I can ever recommend for a parent to instill in their child… When kids enter my care, or enroll in my programs, I never believe it is my responsibility to make their lives easier, but it is my job to make our time more fun, enriching, and positive than it would be otherwise. Sometimes that involves letting kids sit with discomfort. And when they sit with it, they learn so much about their own personal power, limits, and the context of their discomfort in a wider perspective. Even as young as 1 years old! I was doing this with Baby Remy before he could even walk or talk! Parents are often really scared to let their children feel discomfort, fear that they might confuse it as lack of empathy, lack of support. But as long as the rapport is already strong, there is no chance for confusion, there is only the potential for self-growth.

Anyway, I’ve been trying to claw my way out of discomfort for literal years. But this trip has been a good reminder that discomfort is a lesson. Discomfort is an opportunity. Discomfort is the beginning of growth. Here’s to discomfort, and all the clarity it may bring…

#minimalism #less is more #comfort #america #cultural divide #simple living #simplicity #health #mental health #raising children #parenting #child development

Welcome to my Italian Capsule Wardrobe!

I did take some photos while I was away, but they weren’t the highest of quality so I took some more now. Here’s all the possible outfit combos I either did or could’ve done with what I packed, which was:

5 shirts

2 skirts

1 leggings

1 shorts

1 sneakers

1 closed-toe sandal

1 open toe sandal

2 belts

1 cardigan

And as you can see, I could make 28 outfits at least!

These outfits enabled me to walk cities, ride horses, do yoga, hike trails and mountains, cook meals and bake pizzas!

Just mentioned this blog on Reddit, and realized I hadn’t posted in ages. Why? Pandemic. And also, started this new venture, @Cyclopolitan, because I realized that my journey in minimalistic fashion is heavily influenced by my life on a bicycle, and that despite circumstance, finance, or location, that’s the one thing that won’t change, so I started giving advice from that perspective instead.

But before I founded that, in May, I had been planning for close to a YEAR for a move to Italy, as was alluded in previous posts. I was so excited to start my life over. To the point where I’d made this year-long capsule to ensure I wouldn’t forget anything! Would love to know your thoughts. :)

It has no outerwear, but future ones really should. That’s the bulk of what gets packed, unless you wear it on the plane! A future year-long capsule reflecting pieces I still own will be forthcoming. I tossed a lot of these in the pandemic-move (more on that below)

I’ll be updating this again with my current winter capsule, as I ended up waylaid in the Northeast with family friends, so instead of my beautiful Southern winters, I’ll be freezing my tits off, and needed to remember how to dress appropriately, in colors that aren’t utterly depressing. I’ve been shopping and culling and I’m actually really happy with where my winter wardrobe is headed. Just not sure I’m thinking minimally anymore.

I had this “one bag” mentality for so long, and I gave up EVERYTHING to achieve it. But now that I’m in a home, and it’s not going anywhere anytime soon, it’s weird and difficult not to try to settle in.

Of note, the subreddit I mentioned this in was r/HerOneBag, which is a branch of the male-dominated r/OneBag, both of which are great if minimalist travel is of interest or importance to you!

Cheers, The Aspiring Minimalist

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In 2003, the local government in Kamikatsu, Japan decided to require that all residents comply with a new, rigorous recycling program - perhaps the most rigorous in the world. Since then, the town composts, recycles, or reuses 80% of its garbage. It may not technically be 100% zero waste, as the remaining 20% goes into the landfill, but it’s a remarkable achievement for an entire community, in such a short amount of time. The impacts have been positive - cutting costs for the community drastically, as well as improving the conditions of the lush and beautiful environment that surrounds the town in Southeast Japan. Residents must wash and sort virtually anything that is non-compostable in their household before bringing it to the recycling sorting center. Shampoo bottles, caps, cans, razors, styrofoam meat trays, water bottles…the list goes on and on (literally) into 34 categories. At the sorting center, labels on each bin indicate the recycling process for that specific item - how it will be recycled, what it will become, and how much that process can cost (or even earn). It’s an education process for the consumer. All kitchen scraps must be composted at home, as the town has no garbage trucks or collectors. And as for other items, reuse is heavily encouraged. According to Akira Sakano, Deputy Chief Officer at Zero Waste Academy in Kamikatsu, the town has a kuru-kuru shop where residents can bring in used items and take things home for free. There is also a kuru-kuru factory, where local women make bags and clothes out of discarded items. At first, it was difficult to be come accustomed to the new rules. “It can be a pain, and at first we were opposed to the idea,” says resident, Hatsue Katayama. “If you get used to it, it becomes normal.” Now, it’s even being noticed within Kamikatsu’s businesses. The first zero-waste brewery has opened in Kamikatsu, called Rise and Win Brewery. The brewery itself is constructed of reused materials and environmentally friendly finishes. By 2020, Kamikatsu hopes to be 100% zero waste, with no use of landfills, and to forge connections with other like-minded communities in the world, spreading the practice of zero-waste.

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Way to go, Japan!!!

Breaking Up With The Idea of Home

I always see these beautiful home interiors. I love their intricate rugs and mid-century furnishings and gorgeous light. Then I think about my own apartment life, spending 75%+ of my monthly income on rent, cyclically selling belongings to make each move easier than the next. And I think: I want to own a home.

I want to settle in. I want to paint a mural in the living room. I want to drill holes in the walls. I want to build a kitchen island that isn’t on wheels. I want to put my initials in the wet cement of my front walkway. ...Or do I?

I have spent exactly 6 days in Durham, North Carolina, a place I spent the same amount of time in just over 11 years ago, and loved it. Before I got here, my friend and I have spent 6 months researching the housing market in the hopes to buy here, to live in or to rent out. But since arriving, brimming with hope and possibility, ready for a fresh start, I have felt overwhelmed by the confronting truth of how utterly unfulfilling it is to live in a beautiful home in a dull town.

I have lived in cities all my life, but because I so love camping and hiking and the beach, for a day or three at a time, and because I so hate pollution and noise and the frantic pace of bustling streets and non-stop traffic, I somehow concluded that I was *not* a “city girl.” But I also have never had a license, or a car, and thus travel 100% of the time via bicycle, or if I must, via walking.

At present we are 1.2 miles from the closest business. Double that to reach downtown. Downtown Durham is not like the downtowns I know. It is widespread, and even after 20 minutes of biking the grid, hadn’t seen it all. The roads were wide and multi-laned. The buildings were homogenous, and businesses covered all the basic necessities: food, shelter, alcohol, laundromat, bike shop. But where was the warehouse for aerial silks classes? Where was the PaintNite? Where was the club after club after club of nonstop live music? Where was the little theatres with museums of bad art? The “little free libraries”? The culture? The history???

Bikeability has always been important to me, but I hadn’t really placed value on convenience until now. But I’m glad to have this realization, because it allows me to let go of idealizing home interiors by remembering the importance of exterior placement.

Here’s the exterior of the home shown above, found in Joshua Tree:

If I lived there, I’d have my beautiful home with my beautiful things just the way I liked them - and just ready to be photographed for Instagram - but I’d be stuck in the middle of the desert, with no neighbor to speak of.

A house, my friends, is not a home.

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#minimalist lifestyle #minimalism #minimalist interior #home design #home decor #minimalist #joshua tree

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Good thought for the day.

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Currently working on gracefully letting go.

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How to replace plastic containers of bath cleaner with grapefruit and salt and other useful and zero waste solutions.

A is for alternatives to hygiene and cleaning products

Here is a selection of humorous and simple videos of how to make everyday products yourself. Hygiene products such as skin care (oats+milk+honey in bath), mouthwash (cinnamon), insect repellent (orange peel), burn relief (honey) and sunburn relief (cucumber) as well as cleaning products such as bath cleaner (grapefruit and salt), glass cleaner (lemon+water), toilet cleaner (vinegar+baking soda), scented laundry boost (baking soda+basil), shoe polish (banana), furniture polish (lemon juice+olive oil) and metal polish (flour+vinegar+salt) can all be easily replaced with products you are likely to already have in your pantry.

just* is a WWF initiative created to show that there are often simple and natural alternatives to many of the wastefully packaged products we use every day.

How I Broke Up With My Wardrobe

I have been in a funky place style-wise. Which is shocking to anyone who knows me: as a relatively fashion-forward, clothes-obsessed woman. I love shopping, I’ve worked in retail, and can literally spend an entire day just “trying things on.”

But about a year ago I started feeling nostalgic for my time abroad. I planned a trip for “next summer” (now this summer) to sate my wanderlust. Fast forward a year and now I’m thinking about studying abroad for a few years(!), which would require some serious changes to make my closet fit in my suitcase.

Thus began my 5-Stage Breakup With My Wardrobe:

#minimalism #trueminimalist #aspiringminimalist #aspiring minimalist #minimalist #meant to be #lessening attachment #attachment #nostalgia

Just another quick DIY project for anyone complaining they have too much random foreign currency and not enough magnets. VOILA!

One of the most minimalist things you can do, is to make something you want, from something you have. I had an old lampshade that I hated, and a bunch of paint stirrers, and I wanted a more earthy-looking lamp. With a little bit of primer and stain, I got everything I asked for!

What have you made from what you had?

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Minimalist Beauty

Y’all. Not so long ago my face looked a wreck. I had hormonal acne. I had stress acne. I had cystic acne. I had on my back, shoulders, my thighs sometimes. I even had acne up my nose (see above).

I had dry skin, oily skin, red skin, rosacea. Worst fo all: I was horribly depressed, and I thought I was ugly. Because even when I used makeup, all the acne scars showed through :(

Truth? I had sensitive skin and my diet was terrible because it included milk products. BLEH.

The solve?

1. Stop eating cow milk. Ideally, stop eating all milk. I got a cow milk allergy from overconsumption, so could only have goat and sheet milk products. So no more butter, cream, ice cream, sour cream, cream cheese. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.

2. Stop using a million products. I bought all the Batty’s Bath stuff (scroll way down to one of my earliest posts and you’ll see). I bought a cleanser, a toner, a mask, a scrub, a moisturizer, a cream.... the list went on and on. Now there is all this hype for serums! I can’t take it. Use less. This is what I use to wash my face, every day:

You can buy it for $5 at any Marshall’s/TJMaxx. It also lasts for like 6-10 months.

3. Moisturize, even if you have oily skin. This was a hard one for me to get over. But I am now a convert. These are my favorite non-comodegenic moisturizers, made for my sensitive skin:

4. Use a retinol cream sometimes. I occasionally put tretenoin cream (a prescription retinoid) on overnight. It helps with scarring, but doesn’t prevent new acne or clear up what you’ve got. But the texture of my skin looks better when I use something repairative like this.

But mostly: don’t eat meat or dairy or sugar, and your skin will look better than someone who is still eating meat and dairy and sugar. So many alternative sweeteners and vegan meats out there - there’s just no need, y’all!

So in sum, the things I use on my face are the following:

a bar of charcoal soap (1-2x/day)

fragrance-free moisturizer (1-2x/day)

tretenoin retinol cream (1-2x/week)

BareMinerals original powder foundation (5x/week)

THAT’S IT. Stop using a thousand products. Stop paying for a thousand products. Stop confusing your face. Use the minimum!

Sorry for the radio silence! My roommate decided to move out a week ago, and I have been busy preparing for his departure, and for my new life in minimalism with a new subtenant.

The bottom picture is the “before.” We had a TV (yuck), an end table, a coffee table, an ottoman, a four-chair dining set, a kitchen bar, two barstools, and 3 more bicycles.

The top picture is now. Instead of those things above, I have a lot of space. And plants. I have a rug but no vacuum so I’m not even gonna lay it out yet, and a piano and some ugly wifi boxes will be forthcoming.

I think now is as good a time as any to share some of the minimalist homes I’ve inhabited in my past lives, and how they worked for me.

This was my first settled apartment in Boston. The living room was a decent size but there was no dining room, so we made the kitchen eat-in. We had aloe plants, and a bookcase (which I would really love to have here):

Here’s another view of it after my roommate moved his piano to his room, and I acquired another more giant schleffera plant:

My next settled spot in Boston was this living room, which was a similar size, and kitchen was also eat-in, no dining room. This time I hung up my guitars, we had a TV we never used, and I acquired an alocasia plant to keep my schleffera company:

People on the Minimalist Life Facebook Group have been chattering about minimalist living rooms that don’t use a couch. After my two roommates moved out and took their couch, I had about a month to myself, during which time I converted the living room into this pillow palace. I had that gorgeous vintage rattan bookshelf (which a later roommate THREW AWAY, ugh), a cozy rug, still had the armchair, and the trunk coffee table became a truck bench with some pillows atop it. NO REGRETS on this setup. I loved being on the floor, and loved having room to move and spread out and laze about. Would do again 100%.

Anyone else live minimally? What’s your favorite thing about your spaces?

Mine is the PLANTS, BAYBEE!!!

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Sparking Joy Doesn’t Negate Capitalism

Today I checked Facebook for the first time in months to see that my Aunt is selling all of her dining room furniture. In the comments someone asked why, and if she was moving. “No, just getting some new stuff!” my Aunt replied excitedly. Presumably she’s getting rid of her old dining room set because it didn’t “spark joy,” and getting another in the hopes that the new one will. Which got me thinking:

How can we keep receiving “joy sparks” from old things we’ve grown tired of?

Because I don’t know about you, but I can’t afford a new dining set every year when my style changes.

Lots of minimalist bloggers, particularly style bloggers, talk about “investing in a high-quality wardrobe of staples you’ll wear for years to come.” I think about this statement a lot too. By high-quality, they mean “expensive,” (usually resulting from ethical textile production - which of course I support) but no amount of investment can change the simple fact that:

Style E V O L V E S. Tastes C H A N G E.

Quickly, sometimes. For me, I’ve been wearing the same pseudo 1940s/1950s look in different variations since high school, right down to the flower in my hair, and my room has always had a vibe of natural serenity. But I’ve always liked to dabble - no one likes to be trapped in one box! So, knowing that tastes will change, and style will evolve, how can we do our best to not actively support capitalism?

Buy used.

That’s my number one tip for anyone approaching minimalism, because it does four things at once:

Cuts down on environmental impact - it gets clothes out of landfills, and gives them a new life with open-minded consumers.

Slows the cycle of consumerism - you’re not supporting big box stores like Walmart or sites like Amazon, that are tracking your spending and catering their ads to fuel more useless purchases. These stores just want to eliminate the excess, and you’re doing them that favor.

Increases emotional flexibility - the same things will never be available on each trip - you have to open your mind to the idea that once your “perfect” white shirt wears out, the parameters for “perfect” might have to adapt to fit the stock availability on a Tuesday at Salvation Army.

Cultivates gratitude - everything you buy—from anywhere—will have a limited lifespan, but because of the aforementioned “limited supply,” you learn to appreciate the items you *are* able to find, and to enjoy them while you can.

Can we ever really make joy spark from an item? Probably not. That ugly kitten sweater grandma knit you may never spark anything but shudders of embarrassment. BUT, as we get rid of unwanted items and refill our lives with new things, consider that they may not need to be new as much as new to us. It’s the novelty of purchasing that our brain is craving, not the fresh-out-of-the-box-ness of it.

What’s your favorite new-to-you item you’ve found, and where did you find it?

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For most of my young adult life, I considered myself a nomad. I grew up in a split family household with parents across state lines, and by the time I was 19, had lived in 5 states and visited 10 foreign nations. I lived for roadtrips, weekend getaways, airport people-watching, and my favorite movie was Up In The Air. I wanted to be a flight attendant - my foggy child’s brain transfixed on the glamor of the Pan Am stewardesses of the 60s, a la Catch Me If You Can.

These days, the only trips I’ve taken of-late have been back and forth from old hometown to the new one, moving boxes and tying up loose ends. But even this new city has begun to feel... stagnant.

I feel ready for something new.

Or something old, as it were. For the past six months or so I’ve been yearning for my time spent in Italy. I lived there for half a year some 10-odd years ago, and still look back on that time fondly: the architecture, the weather, the culture, the way siesta life actually made the rest of my day more productive. I miss it.

What does all of this have to do with minimalism?

In thinking about the prospect of going back overseas, potentially to live, I have to look around me and think about the life I’ve cultivated—or more specifically, the things I’ve acquired—and consider if they are worth bringing with me into a new life, or if I would rather make space for two things:

Something new and potentially better to fill its space, or

The prospect that I may never find something quite as good, and being content with “making due.”

It puts things into perspective.

So in turn I’ve already begun to cull my wardrobe. My spring/summer pieces are <40, and my winter wardrobe is significantly less than that. I own less than 10 pairs of shoes. I’m tossing papers right and left, have begun to dig into my digital backlog, and have given away most of my books. I have a load of things in storage but honestly... I think I want to toss those too. It feels very heavy to own so much.

That movie I mentioned before, Up In The Air, has a great metaphor about this:

Imagine (...) that you’re carrying a backpack. I want you to feel the straps on your shoulders. Feel ’em? Now I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life. You start with the little things. The things on shelves and in drawers (...) Feel the weight as that adds up. Then you start adding larger stuff, clothes (...) appliances (...) The backpack should be getting pretty heavy now. And you go bigger. Your couch, bed, your kitchen table. Stuff it all in there. Your car, get it in there. (...) I want you to stuff it all into that backpack. Now try to walk. It’s kind of hard, isn’t it? This is what we do to ourselves on a daily basis. We weigh ourselves down until we can’t even move. (...) Now, I’m gonna set that backpack on fire. What do you want to take out of it?

What would you take out of your backpack?

If you need some inspiration, see our friends over at The Burning House. They’ve been thinking about this long and hard.

In my next post, I’ll tell you what I’d take out, and what I hope to bring with me to my next adventure spot. :)

Why No Fall 10x10

I know I’m supposed to be deep in the #fall10x10. My name is Aspiring Minimalist for Pete’s sake! But for me, minimalism has never been about as-little-as-possible; it’s been about “just enough,” and giving yourself what you need, but not to excess.

On Wednesday, I will have been in non-stop travel nomad mode for six months. S I X. That means six months of restricting my wardrobe to fit into a backpack, six months of having to trek to a storage unit in order to swap out seasonal garb, six months of foregoing a few outfits so that I can pack a pillow or a towel or my toiletries, because they have to come with me too.

I don’t want 10 more days of restrictions: I want 365 days of freedom. I want to be able to shop my entire closet, so I don’t have to buy clothes upon landing because Spirit Airlines only allows a purse. That’s where the real challenge lies anyhow: in having the world at your fingertips, but being keen enough to choose wisely.

My most favorite quote, told to my by my brother-in-law, is:

“Happiness is wanting what you have.”

Well, I must be off the charts happy because I want what I have so badly, but I have limited access to it. Or perhaps I want it that much more because I can’t have it.

Either way, I’m ready to have it all with me, in a stable locale, Enter The Slow Life, and settle down.

Did you 10x10 this time around? What were your intentions surrounding the challenge?

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A few months ago, someone on a subReddit I follow asked for a yearly capsule. I promised her I’d eventually get to it, and that day is today!

She sent me a link to her Pinterest account to get a sense of her style. I would describe what I saw there are “ladylike, vintage/retro-inspired, and practical.” So I’ve put together my very first...

Pinup Capsule Wardrobe!

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Summer 10x10

From July 17-29th, I participated in a special wardrobe challenge created by Lee of StyleBee called a “10x10,” and in this case, a #Summer10x10. The rules of the challenge are to wear only 10 items for 10 days, with no repeat outfits. These limitations tend to bring forth increased style creativity, mixing items you would’ve never thought to match together before. It’s fun, and it gets your fashion brain wheels turning. Also, summer is my fav season for dressing, so, easy sell!

If you do the math on those dates, you’ll count 13 days, so it was really my #Summer13x13. I knew I had a back-to-back trip planned when this season’s challenge was due to begin so I packed my suitcase accordingly. I know the temperature would vary between 65°-90°, and that I would be mostly doing “city life” activities (concerts, museums, theatre, dining out). Commonly, the 10x10 includes shoes and outerwear; I did not count these items. I used 3 pairs of shoes and a jean jacket in addition to the following 13 items:

v-neck cardigan

black collared tank

striped collared shirt

solid collared tank

striped crop top

floral shirt

leopard crop top

floral kimono dress

floral maxi skirt

black silk dress

lasercut eyelet leather skirt

high waist jeans