looking @ the notes on that ‘everyone needs to grow up’ article and i think the subtle point that a lot of the commentary on that post is missing is and what muva toni morrison was saying…..adulthood isn’t just ‘responsibility’—taking out ur trash and making ur bed—children can do those things…..adulthood is operating emotionally from an empowered place and not from the vulnerabilities and fears of ur childhood. to not get stuck in cynicism or escapism or to expect other adults to provide for u the way a parent should (which automatically disempowers u emotionally).
as we grow older, many of the very legitimate fears and self-protection mechanisms we developed to survive living under the brutal conditions we live under, worked for us as children, but they no longer serve us as adults. to be an adult is to cultivate urself, to understand what to keep and what to discard. it is an activity—a practice—a verb not a noun.
