A tart's boudoir

Kylie, Melbourne. Too old for lawn, I have astroturf. @sarapellow on twitter.

[timotay-chalamet]

Michelle Dockery for Town & Country UK December 2017 by Richard Phibbs

[keri-russell]

Hang on.

Wait a minute.

You know what?

Holy smokes.

[kanjabeto-deactivated20180421]

I’m a massive narcissist.

[geneeste]

Marc Guggenheim’s Worst (and Most Weinstein-like) Hits (with images, tweets) · geneeste

Recap: Andrew Kreisberg suspended by Warner Bros. for sexual harassment (Nov. 10); Greg Berlanti & Sarah Schechter state they were recently made aware of the allegations (also Nov. 10); Marc Guggenheim retweets & comments on an unrelated Conan O'Brien joke, opening the door for this. (Nov. 12)

For those of you who were looking for the whole thing in one place.

[alecblushed]

Kristen: I’ve worked with you a ton. But I feel like when we’ve worked together, we’re always really mean to each other. Like, always assholes. But that’s not our relationship at all. We’re very nice to each other. Adam: Yeah, super nice. Boring, nice white people. Kristen: That sounds like an accurate description of who we are as friends.

[eilowyn1]

A+ Dragging, Compliments of EBR

@therewas-a-girl

So, in summary, this happened.

And Marc made it worse.

And Emily came for his balls.

A murder, in three acts.

[marcguggenheim]

No question, just a happy FYI: a group of us on twitter ran a Gofundme campaign to raise some money to get Emily a gift. We raised so much in such a small period of time that I bought the gifts and then donated close to $600 to the Downtown Eastside Women's Centre in Vancouver. The Olicity/Felicity fandom is amazing (minus a few bad apples) and we always seem to come together for good causes. See? Some good happens!

I love it!  What’s the link?  I’ll donate.  Thanks for doing!

[juliesioux]

The campaign is over(I wanted her to get the good before end of season lol) BUT the link to donate to the Downtown Eastside Women’s Centre is:

www.dewc.ca 

They are amazing and do such needed and good work. 

Thank you for wanting to contribute though!

[emilybestrickards-deactivated20]

arrow writers: we really love felicity, everyone kind of fights to get to write her scenes, we’re really excited about the storylines we’re planning for her.

also the arrow writers: sorry we don’t have time to fully explore her storylines, but it was fun to actually get a chance to articulate the anti-Felicity point of view.

[therewas-a-girl]

#when i hear (inevitably misogynist usually male) fans complaining about how ‘fefe’ has somehow taken over the show#and supposedly gets disproportionately favoured by the writers #apparently ruining everything #i wanna be able to shove this gifset down their throats #she’s as badly treated as literally every character who isn’t a white straight guy on this show #if you hate her congrats you probably still give more of a shit about her than the show’s EPs do #but sure whine about how FELICITY - a fictional character - is the problem #and not just that Arrow is a shitshow run by hacks who are bad at their jobs ad look down at their audiences #(ESPECIALLY their female fanbase) #i don’t even go here anymore i stopped watching midway through s4 and i haven’t looked back beyond the occasional gifset #but ugh #seeing people be petty about felicity STILL irritates me #she is not the problem she has never been the problem if you think she is then congrats you’re another fandom misogynist# well done bravo how original fuck off now bye #COUGH #yeah so turns out i had some stuff to get off my chest #this has been a tags rant UR WELCOME #felicity smoak#arrow @gnimaerd

[unlocket-deactivated20250122]

The amount of people who genuinely believe Felicity wronged Oliver somehow by not staying and talking it out with him instead of breaking up with him truly astounds me.

[therewas-a-girl]

i think the word ‘wronged’ is precisely what’s the problem with this idea. it makes it into who did what to whom and simplifies everything. it tries to shovel the blame on just one of them - whichever of them, when its supposed to be more complicated than that. (supposed to be - idk if it was. the way this show executes its ideas is the main reason why its so dead to me)

i have to believe that these ppl had deep, inescapable reasons for acting the way they did. both of them. that both made false steps that are based on character traits which inevitably lead to who they are, as people. 

Oliver lied because he was afraid he’d lose everything and presented with the choice between stalling and confronting a risk such as that, he will choose to stall ever time, hoping and planning to somehow fix the situation without further collateral damage. (no, i do not take the ‘ultimatum’ as a valid excuse. it was blatant plot device with more holes than Swiss cheese. case in point: he could have told felicity that something was wrong, sth personal, but he had made a promise to keep it a secret, until he could win this person’s trust. that it wasnt a safety issue - debatable, for william - but his hands were bound.).

Felicity left him, because despite understanding him and his reasons very well -

(i keep losing years off my life any time someone mentions ableism together with felicity here; how she didn’t of know his mental condition or wasnt understanding/tolerant of it. 

is it possible to sleep in the same bed with someone for a year and not know there?s sth wrong with them? for felicity ‘mysteries bug me’ smoak? 

despite how the show insists on it, its not felicity’s job to be oliver’s light, healing, salvation, or anything else. he has those things inside himself -  even though he needs mroe help than most, cause he’s been through more than most. but they dont live outside of him. that’s reductive to oliver and objectifying of felicity. 

and i’d rather not infantilize, simplify or insult the intelligence of these characters. to me, it’s perfectly natural that after years of working together in high-tension situations, they know and understand each other’s mental pitfalls quite well, and that their conflicts are human, not stupid cause ‘so much happened and they didn’t talk like normal people’. that’s ‘show’ logic.)  

- she felt hurt and betrayed and alone and she didn’t want to build a life with someone who could make her feel like that, after she dared to trust in ways she hadn’t before. after knowing that love was real and love could still hurt in all the ways she most fears, maybe she though love just wanst enough. she didn’t blame him for how he was or why he did what he did. it wasn’t about oliver!!! she saw her life as if would be with him and, in that moment of heartbreak, it seemed to her a lonely life. she would be unhappy and her unhappiness would make oliver unhappy. so she said no.  

and that’s the soft version. the raging angry and fucking destroyed inside version is that she doubted everything and everyone, and didnt want a single thing or person on earth to touch her anymore ever. that she saw the patterns in oliver’s behavior and decided to fall back into her own that had kept her safe and balanced until that moment, because no, the pain wasn’t worth it. just like oliver thought the risk of her leaving him wasn’t worth it - his own pattern. so felicity closed up onto herself and said fuck everything. 

so what if she did? i’d like to meet the person who loses the person they love most, their whole future, and stays gracious and accepting, graceful and giving. who is that person? not me for sure, not any real person. i dont personally thing what felicity did was selfish, but so what if it was? what is wrong with that? with watching out for herself? what’s so wrong with saying ‘fuck TLC when ppl rip you heart out but they’re sorry’ ‘fuck sacrifice and fuck the glorification of female sacrifice paving the way for the normalization of female pain’ ‘fuck giving’ ‘fuck nurturing’ ‘fuck you madonna-model, i am a person, fuck that halo you want to stick over my head, shove it where the sun don’t shine’. 

what’s so wrong with taking the breathing room to be ugly? 

any one of those reasons are valid reasons and character pitfalls. these can be places to grow from. mistakes to learn from. and if it leads them back to each other, awesome. if not, whatever.  

honestly man, i think people who think felicity wronged oliver by what she did, how she reacted, truly do not take the time to put any of her actions in any kind of emotional context. they either lack the means to do so or just dont want to because its way easier to demonize one party tahn… idk, assume both are people. oliver’s emotions are served to us on a platter, he doesnt really need that much work from us. as it should be with all characters! but felicity’s … not so much. you have to care. you have to try and empathize. and you either chose to do that, or you chose not to. 

in the end its as simple as people finding out that when it comes to women and non-white ppl onscreen - there is just a deficit of empathy there and that has its own name, depending on who one is punishing with it. ‘wronged’ definitely isnt the world im looking for here.

[eilowyn1]

WHATS WRONG WITH BEING UGLY - SOMETHIG IS WRONG WITH THAT ONLY WHEN YOURE A WOMAN. YOU BECOME THE HARSH BITCH LIKE LAUREL OR TEH UNDESERVING OF LOVE AND FORGIVENESS LIKE FELICITY YOU BECOM MONSTROUS AND A VILLAIN EVEN WHEN YOURE NOT WHILE THE SHOW GOES TO FUCKIGN RIDDICULOUS LENGTHS TO MAKE OLIVER A MONSTER. HE IS VIOLENT A KILLER HE ENJOYS IT HE IS … FUCK MAN IF YOU WANTED AND DIALED THE EMPATHY FOR OLIVER TO THE SAME DEGREE THAT IT IS FOR  FELICITY DO YOU KNOW WHAT OLIVER WOULD BE? A REMORECELESS KILLER A LIAR A MAIPULATOR. SELFISH ASSHOLE WHO DOESNT GIVE TOW SHITS ABOUT WHAT HE DESTROYS AS LONG AS HE GETS WHAT HE WANTS. HE CAN NEVER SEE THE PAIN OF OTHERS UNLESS IT SOMHOW LEADS BACK TO HIM. I COULD GO ON . IT COULD GET INTERESTING. THE SHOW HAS LITERALLY HAMMERED TEHSE DETAILS OF OLIVER’S PERSONALITY TO OUR FACES AND YET I DONT SEE FANDOM IN GENERAL LOVING HIM ANY LESS FOR THEM WELL… THATS A LIE OF COURSE I DO. BUT ALL TEH SAME IF THE OLIVER MISINTERPRETATION OF CHARACTER IS AT 1/10 FELICITY’S IS FROM 9/10 GOING TO SELF-INSERT AND THAT IS BOTH THE WRITERS AND THE FANDOM’S FAULT .ADRI MY APOLOGIES FOR TEH RANT. I COUDLNT SLEEP AND I DIDNT WANT TO WRITE SO THIS HAPPENED ARROW THOUGHTS FELICITY SMOAK THOUGHTS OLIVER QUEEN THOUGHTS

[jules85]

Nodding along to all of this. I find it hilarious that we recently just saw Oliver admit that he liked killing people, yet most of the reaction from people was “aw poor guy”, whereas people still call Felicity a murderer after Havenrock. At the end of the day, Felicity could save every beloved character in the Arrowverse and people would have issue with it. As for the break up, everything is nonsensical to me; the writing, the justification and the reaction. For people who blame Felicity and see her as being the bad guy, I really just wonder about their own relationships. Would they just accept it if they found out that the person they were going to marry had a secret kid, had lied about it, and then once you found out about it, they decided; after talking to everyone else but you, that they were going to send that kid away. The writers execution was terrible. None of it made sense. And them using Thea as a tool to tell the audience that if she thinks Oliver’s doing the right thing keeping secrets, a girl who hates being lied to, then he must be doing the right thing…

[doona-baes]

We need to go to the BRB, it’s BRB time, we’re BRB-ing.

[teenagedream]

Hillary at the Women In the World Summit - April 6, 2017

[marcguggenheim]

So you don't answer questions or take requests unless someone is threatening you or cussing you out. Explains season 5

That’s not true.  I also reply when someone accuses me of being sexist. :)

[geneeste]

We don’t have to accuse you.

You do a pretty good job of demonstrating that on your own.

Hahaha! Because what’s funnier that explaining yet another female character’s absence by equating her with being a sex worker. It’s even funnier when it’s a well-respected older female character, because hey that’s even grosser!

Do I need to explain why this is gross? Actually, with your tendency to dismiss everything you say with “why can’t you little ladies just take a joke?”, I’m guessing you don’t get it. 

Do your own homework on this one. Here, I’ll get you started.

I’m also thinking you were bracing yourself here for the wrong reasons. Are you familiar with the concept of agency?

Okay. Okay. I’m taking deep breaths here. Actually, no–WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU.

With apologies for getting personal, but GOD. DAMN. You have kids, right? Do you have daughters? Do you know women? Would you ever, ever, ever want to describe one of their relationships this way? Would you ever say to one of your daughters, “Hey, if you were just nice to that boy, if you just said you loved him, maybe he wouldn’t have tried to kill you?” Would you ever say that to a battered woman or the family of a murder victim?

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST, MAN.

Here we have a dish of sexism, racism, and false liberalism, with an extra helping of derailing.

Enjoy.

Hey kids! It’s not stalking if it’s FOR BUSINESS REASONS!

What the fuck. Just…what the ever loving fuck were you thinking.

And now for the exemple du jour.

It would have been easy to deal with this. Say: Hey, I thought I was making a funny joke, but I see where you guys are coming from on this. It is a little dismissive toward women in fandom, who already have enough trouble being accepted and understood in media. Sorry about that, I’ll try to do better.

But nope: then came “context.”

…because repeating yourself explains it?

Nope, didn’t work. All those uppity ladies are still mad. Let’s try mansplaining, that’ll do the trick!

Ah, the pièce de résistance. The pinnacle of sexist douchebaggery. The one true sign of a problematic point. “Why can’t you girls just take a joke?”

Because it’s not a joke. Because it’s not funny. Because we’ve heard it before.

Also: because fuck you, that’s why.

Now, I know what you’re thinking! “Wow, it’s so easy to go back and find things that I willingly said on the internet and in front of people which sound legitimately bad on their own but especially bad when put together in a record!”

You know what’s easier? Listening to criticism and apologizing when you’re wrong. We call that growth.

Much easier than being a sexist, whiny man-baby with apparently zero self-reflection, don’t you think?

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[hennypendergrass-deactivated201]

Haaaaaaaaaa

[juliesioux]

Yes. This movie needs to happen. Omg.

[oscarisaacdaily]

“If the day ends, and I haven’t fucked something up, then I feel OK.”  – Oscar Isaac

[obamawhitehouse]

This is one dance party 106-year-old Virginia McLaurin will never forget. To celebrate Black History Month, watch her fulfill her dream of visiting the White House and meeting President Obama.

[brightwalldarkroom]

The seat of the soul, the thing that makes us human, is choice. That is the single thing that elevates us above anything else. We choose to be, and we choose to kill. We choose to save. We choose to not look the other way. We choose to look at the sunset or we choose to look at the eyes of the person next to us. That’s what makes our life experience. Those are the notes of the symphony that we’re going to be. A choice is not to miss, a choice is to embrace; a choice is to enshrine what you want to be. What you want to leave behind.

Guillermo del Toro, “Death is the Curator: An interview with Guillermo del Toro” (via brightwalldarkroom)