Autistics Speak

Lily, 19, they/them. Pro self-dx and anti cure. This is an informative blog about autism. I cannot access messages. Personal: little-mx-unearthly

[ruinedchildhood]

You can learn more about Team Supreme on the Leonard Studios website, as well as Facebook and Twitter.

http://www.leonardstudios.com/team-supreme/

https://www.facebook.com/LeonardStudios/

https://twitter.com/LeonardStudios

Source: http://aplus.com/film-forward/team-supreme-cartoon-joshua-leonard-kids-disabilities.html

[ruinedchildhood]

“If you want to show your support for the project, you can shop themed merchandise in the Team Supreme Shop, where Leonard says a portion of the sales will go toward autism awareness.”

http://www.leonardstudios.com/shop/

[autisticlily]

Representation absolutely matters. I love the idea, and hope it will be done well.

Does anyone know where the money is going?

[elsinore-snores]

Important!!! Selling all of these for $10 INCLUDING shipping ($9 for the poppy ones) because I’m trying to lighten my load before I move tomorrow. These are noise muffling headphones and padded arm protectors for neurodivergent friends! Lavender beanie: https://www.etsy.com/listing/539873687/lavender-noise-muffling-beanie?ref=listings_manager_grid Poppy protectors: https://www.etsy.com/listing/526064712/poppy-patterned-padded-arm-protectors?ref=listings_manager_grid Tulip beanie: https://www.etsy.com/listing/539874243/pink-flower-noise-muffling-beanie?ref=listings_manager_grid Orange Creamsicle beanie: https://www.etsy.com/listing/526064420/orange-creamsicle-themed-noise-muffling?ref=listings_manager_grid Bee protectors: https://www.etsy.com/listing/526064282/yellow-bee-arm-protectors?ref=listings_manager_grid

[zundyke]

PLEASE SUPPORT THEM BUT IF NOT, REBLOG THISN

[elsinore-snores]

URGENT my Etsy shop is dying, after I spent weeks working on bringing my stomach jewelry to life for autistic people just like me. I have barely made any money in the last week and it seems like my Etsy shop is failing completely. I make stomach earrings, necklaces you can spin and chew and stretch and squish, stomach bracelets, and soft necklaces and bracelets. Please reblog seriously. https://www.etsy.com/shop/PangeaMea

[autisticlily]

Don't boicott power rangers Good movie Good characters Good autistic representation Go watch power rangers, love billy

thanks for the recommendation, billy!

[autisticlily]

i-am-the-albatross replied to your post “does anyone have a list of companies that support A$ so I can boycott...”

here's their list of partners https://www.autismspeaks.org/partners boycott

[elsinore-snores]

GUYS I am downright flappy-raptor-hands happy to tell you guys that my Etsy shop FINALLY has forearm/wrist protectors for self-injuring autistics!!! 

They are very cute, come in plain (solid color) ($9), plants/animals/space designs ($13), or custom designs ($18)! They come in a standard 8 inches long, but you can make a note if you want them to be longer or shorter. The price includes shipping, which takes 1 month from Greece uif you live in the U..S and 1 week for Europe.

I am autistic and deigned and tested these today, and unlike my usual post-self injuring episodes, I am not hurting at all. I feel great. They are comfortable and sensory friendly. These can be worn anywhere on your arm depending on where you tend to hit. I freaking love them and made 3 pairs just for msyelf.

I am raising money to pay rent and buy a therapy dog, so please please reblog this and spread the word! I know this can help a lot of people like me!

PLEASE REBLOG!!!

My Etsy shop link

[autisticlily]

transientescape answered your question “fullmetalsoulreaper15 replied to your post “does anyone have a list...”

No sources onthat. I hear the movie was v good and cant wait to go see it

alright - that’s good to clarify!

[autisticlily]

fullmetalsoulreaper15 replied to your post “does anyone have a list of companies that support A$ so I can boycott...”

Not a company but I've heard the new Power Rangers movie worked with that organization to create the reboot's blue ranger. So maybe boycott Power Rangers?

[little-mx-unearthly]

does anyone have a list of companies that support A$ so I can boycott them?

[lattelynx-deactivated20200803]

the wikipedia page is kinda dense and I don’t want to go on A$’s page, can someone briefly explain ABA to me? it sounds like the “shock collars” and “withold food until they speak” treat-them-like-a-dog kind of thing

[marchagainstshakira-deactivated]

ABA is basically the science of how to change someone’s actions. Which can be useful… Except in autism the actions they generally want to change are things like talking about the things you enjoy and playing with things in an unconventional manner and other things that bother nobody except the therapist. And they have (and still sometimes do) use things like physical punishment, withholding food and water, etc. in order to achieve this.

Another issue with current ABA-based autism treatments (outlined here and here) is that it ignores how autistic people learn. Some of it is based on the idea that autistic people can’t learn on their own, which is false. There’s also the idea that you have to learn certain skills (eg pointing and eye contact) to learn other skills (communication abilities). Which is often not how it works for autistic people. It’s also often highly repetitive, and repetition actually makes it harder for autistic people to learn (sorry for A$ link, but it’s a good summary).

Another common goal within ABA therapy is just teaching “compliance.” Just trying to break kids’ will and do whatever you want them to. So all of this combines to create a situation where the client is being forced to follow orders that make no sense to them, carry little benefit, and are often difficult to execute, and they are frequently punished for this in abusive ways.

(Obligatory disclaimer that #NotAllABA is like that… but that’s not the point. Children are suffering.)

If you’d like to learn more, this article is excellent. It’s very in-depth but written in a style that’s probably more comprehensible to non-psychologists than the Wikipedia page.

Also, here are some videos of what ABA can look like, some seem okay, some will make you want to cry…

It seems like people are having fun in this one but if I was the child here I’d have no clue what the therapist wants me to do either

This one looks fine at first until you remember that this is supposed to be for 40 hours a week… that girl looks so bored

:(

TRIGGER WARNING TRIGGER WARNING VIEW AT YOUR OWN RISK ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A VICTIM OF ABUSE

[lattelynx-deactivated20200803]

please check post dates. i don’t know how the hell you got to a post from 2.5 years ago but you did.

[autisticlily]

I’m just going to throw this out there - I don’t like the concept of legal guardianship for disabled adults. 

[picturescraftsandbooks]

Depends on how disabled. I have a cousin who cannot take care of herself at all, she will always need a caretaker. For ones who can function (bathes and feeds themselves, can communicate) no i don’t feel they need a guardian.

[autisticlily]

I think there should be a special legal category for caretakers which does not confer all the powers of a guardian. Like, basically special guardianship for all cases that takes into account the disabled adult’s competence and understanding and does not needlessly force dependence or loss of autonomy. I don’t think people who care for disabled adults should have all the rights parents do over minor children (for example, restricting privacy). 

[autisticlily]

Tagged by: @aspie-jake​, this is my first tag meme on this blog so thanks!

Rules: Answer the questions in a new post and tag 20 blogs you would like to get to know better

Nickname: Lily is actually a nickname, I have a few others that are hard to remember right now.

Star Sign: Pisces

Height: 5′3″

Time right now: 4:00 pm on the dot and I’ve just gotten out of bed, oops.

Favorite Musical Artist: THIS QUESTION IS HARD. Alcest? Dark Tranquillity? Nightwish? 

Song stuck in your head: Heartstrings Shattering - Swallow the Sun

Last Movie Watched: Rogue One!!! (please PM me if you want to cry about the ending)

Last tv show watched: Kitchen Nightmares 

What are you wearing right now: A t-shirt from an old Nightwish tour, grey shorts, and a fuzzy blanket.

When Did You Create Your Blog: Two summers ago? My main is like 6 years old now.

Do You Get Asks Regularly: not really anymore

Why Did You Choose Your URL: Well 90% of autism blogs have URLs that go [autistic/aspie/stimmy]-[name] and I didn’t feel very creative.

Hogwarts House: Ravenclaw!

Gender: nonbinary

Pokemon Team: VALOR FTW

Favorite Color: #DA1414

Average Hours of Sleep: good question... 5-10

Dream Job: Researcher & science educator.

Cutest Baby Animals: LOOK AT THIS LIL BUGGER. HE’S A GOLD DUST DAY GECKO AND I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH and all my other scaly friends also honorable mention to this batty

Tagged: every single person who follows me, yes that means you

[autisticlily]

I’m just going to throw this out there - I don’t like the concept of legal guardianship for disabled adults. 

[laughingmyaspergersoff]

Mall Tip

If you have to go to the mall, and if you have to walk a long distance, it’s better if you can to go to the second level. 

The second level has atriums (aka empty space) where the first level has kiosks (aka annoying vendors who will harass you) and it’s just so much less stressful. 

source: I went to the mall today and yesterday, and people pissed me off so much, like, leave me alone dammit. 

[autisticeducator]

One of our local malls has 4 floors and it’s chaos central this time of year, especially on the weekends. The joy of living in the suburbs of the largest city in the US.

Some bonus tips if you are dealing with one of these oversized malls:

•Park underground if possible. Trust me, finding your car will be much easier in the underground parking garage than it will be in the parking lot (they aren’t as spread out and as long as you remember which elevators you parked nearby, you should have a smaller section to look for your car if you don’t immediately remember).

•If you must park outside, avoid parking by popular anchor stores and the movie theater if it’s on the first floor. Why? Everyone wants to park there. You may end up parking way farther away from the building just to park near these entrances. Sensory overload can make finding cars harder.

•Go during a weekday if possible. The crowds won’t be as bad since most people will be at work. Avoid the weekend if at all possible.

•In these huge malls where there are more than 2 floors, they tend to dedicate one whole floor to mostly restaurants and entertainment (our mall has this on the 4th floor). This floor can be your friend but also sensory hell depending on the time of day you visit there. I would bring ear plugs just in case.

•Download a map of the mall. Plot where you want to go and start at the highest floor needed and work back down.

•Not sure about other oversized malls but mine has kiosks on all 4 floors. Some of them are trying to sell items. Some sell food. Some do those giant rideable animals that you can pay to ride around for a little bit. There’s an obstacle course in the middle of our oversized mall that spans multiple floors. I don’t recommend it for those with any sort of fear of heights. We do have seating areas on all 4 floors but unless you are going during the weekday and during late morning/midday, it won’t be much sensory relief for you.

Barnes and Noble is a good escape for sensory overload if your mall has one. It’s pretty quiet in there, the employees usually leave people alone and there usually aren’t any strong smells as long as you stay away from the cafe.

•Not sure if others have noticed this with their oversized malls but at mine, the extreme ends of the mall on most floors are typically quieter than the middle of the mall. It just happens to be that most of the popular stores are in the middle, along with the food court and the more popular restaurants/entertainment on the 4th floor.

[autisticlily]

there is one especially large, especially crowded mall on the east coast that i am quite familiar with, so if any of you are planning a visit there feel free to message me.

[moonlight-fox]

I’d add that even if you weren’t planning on going there, popping into a store that caters to a special interest can be hugely useful to recharge at little, at least for me, often even if it’s fairly busy.

[autisticlily]

seconded this!

[laughingmyaspergersoff]

Mall Tip

If you have to go to the mall, and if you have to walk a long distance, it’s better if you can to go to the second level. 

The second level has atriums (aka empty space) where the first level has kiosks (aka annoying vendors who will harass you) and it’s just so much less stressful. 

source: I went to the mall today and yesterday, and people pissed me off so much, like, leave me alone dammit. 

[autisticeducator]

One of our local malls has 4 floors and it’s chaos central this time of year, especially on the weekends. The joy of living in the suburbs of the largest city in the US.

Some bonus tips if you are dealing with one of these oversized malls:

•Park underground if possible. Trust me, finding your car will be much easier in the underground parking garage than it will be in the parking lot (they aren’t as spread out and as long as you remember which elevators you parked nearby, you should have a smaller section to look for your car if you don’t immediately remember).

•If you must park outside, avoid parking by popular anchor stores and the movie theater if it’s on the first floor. Why? Everyone wants to park there. You may end up parking way farther away from the building just to park near these entrances. Sensory overload can make finding cars harder.

•Go during a weekday if possible. The crowds won’t be as bad since most people will be at work. Avoid the weekend if at all possible.

•In these huge malls where there are more than 2 floors, they tend to dedicate one whole floor to mostly restaurants and entertainment (our mall has this on the 4th floor). This floor can be your friend but also sensory hell depending on the time of day you visit there. I would bring ear plugs just in case.

•Download a map of the mall. Plot where you want to go and start at the highest floor needed and work back down.

•Not sure about other oversized malls but mine has kiosks on all 4 floors. Some of them are trying to sell items. Some sell food. Some do those giant rideable animals that you can pay to ride around for a little bit. There’s an obstacle course in the middle of our oversized mall that spans multiple floors. I don’t recommend it for those with any sort of fear of heights. We do have seating areas on all 4 floors but unless you are going during the weekday and during late morning/midday, it won’t be much sensory relief for you.

Barnes and Noble is a good escape for sensory overload if your mall has one. It’s pretty quiet in there, the employees usually leave people alone and there usually aren’t any strong smells as long as you stay away from the cafe.

•Not sure if others have noticed this with their oversized malls but at mine, the extreme ends of the mall on most floors are typically quieter than the middle of the mall. It just happens to be that most of the popular stores are in the middle, along with the food court and the more popular restaurants/entertainment on the 4th floor.

[autisticlily]

there is one especially large, especially crowded mall on the east coast that i am quite familiar with, so if any of you are planning a visit there feel free to message me.

[pidge-stims]

✨floam✨

[autisticlily]

here have a nice stimmy video if you need it

[autisticlily]

Offended--Good is a trump supporter and likes communismkills so arguing with them about any human rights is like talking to a brick wall

figured, but it made me feel better to say something