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about autop(silly)

🐾 Mouse (via tumblr poll), Auto, Kade/n

❄️ 12/21/2001 ♐️

Poly w my gf river 💕

Artist. Furry. Nostalgia/toy collecting.

Bdsm enjoyer/partaker sexual and nonsexual variety 🥲

ADHD. Terrible CPTSD.

Haiiii I hate my liiiiife

[oceantoyz]

[beary-good-finds]

🎄 Christmas themed-stickers by Hallmark Cards, 1986 🎄

[psychotic-reaction]

Trixie on a Ladder, NYC, 1979

by Nan Goldin

[boomer-mythology-destroyer]

[knockmyteethout]

[sexandjeans]

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

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[Image ID: Tumblr tag reading: #file under reasons I don't reblog activism post with guilt trip attached /End ID]

[angel-0f-filth]

[mona-l1sa]

[beadyeyes]

That one friend who is so broke they come over and start asking if you're planning to use that dust partical

[happymiffy]

[theweirdwideweb]

[plumslices]

Japanese music box keychain

[bambivonbismarck]

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I wanna say something

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Whoevers in my phone DID NOT like this post.

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Im gonna say somethkng…

[contemptible-scoundrel]

MASOCHIST MUTUAL: ouhhh I need to receive a botched execution where they try for a gutshot but they miss and hit my steel dog tags instead and it shatters my solar plexus shredding my lungs with bone fragments and they kick me into a ditch where I slowly asphyxiate to death choking on my own blood and bone,,,

SADIST MUTUAL: [picture of newspaper cat] I should fuck a girl who is scared of me