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Why are gays so mean to each other

Everyone wants to feel like they’re worth something. Some people build a fake sense of self-worth by pretending they’re better than other people.

The ugliest parts of our community boil down to not being able to value and give each other due respect.

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not my ask & not detering (b/c this is tea) but incase this happens to be a young gay struggling to make friends, find love, & feeling left out or burned by the gay community I’d like to offer some advice:

1. Go out. You may not be able to now, you may be living with your parents or in the closet, but get off grindr & go out as soon & often as you can. Some of the worst gays (& also some of my absolutely wonderful bestfriends & occasionally myself) are on grindr, but dating apps are a toxic cutthroat place that do NOT represent the best our community has to offer. It will surprise you how much different people are in person.

2. Comparison will kill you. Do not compare yourself to the instagays you follow, their lives are not as perfect as they make them seem & the grass is always greener on the other side.

3. If someone has to put down others to feel better about themselves that speaks more volumes about the kind of person they are than who they’re putting down. If the gays you follow post captions like “how’s florida?” on their yacht selfies off the coast of Italy unfollow them now.

4. Reorient your priorities in positive healthy directions. If you want friends then reach out to people you know to be friendly individuals & surround yourself with them. Friendship is not a conquest or a challenge. It should never be one sided.

5. Do not change who you are to fit into gay sterotype you are not. You can be whoever you want to be, not every gay is a twink or bear or muscle god & nor should they be!!! You are you, which is someone nobody else can be. Love yourself.