Homicidal Queen

NO TERFS OR SWERFS ALLOWED. GET OUT. I am an openly asexual lesbian (not fully out) feminist blogger. Cis with she/her pronouns. Things you'll see here: feminism, PoC rights, LGBTQA rights, sex worker rights, humor, and the "occasional" personal post. 

[notsoterriblymisanthropic]

“Today’s landlords and lettings agents are lucky. In a world of direct debits and emails there is very little personal contact between them and their tenants. Gone are the days when tenants could mob the rent officer: today’s ‘property professionals’ can cower behind their laptop screens, safely watching the value of their assets grow. We do not think that situation is sustainable. Landlords should know this: for decades, you have taken our incomes and driven up the cost of homes. For decades, daytime TV shows have provided comfort by portraying you as benign adventurers in the bounteous terrain of the housing market. You have gained a vast amount of unearned wealth while we constantly face homelessness and poverty. You cannot expect us to treat you with courtesy or respect. If you try to evict us, we will protest outside your homes – your secure, comfortable homes. It is in the nature of your grubby business that you make people homeless, and you have no right to complain when we kick against you.”

— Picketing landlords is good, actually

[as-water-fills-the-sea]

t*rfs also like to twist the fact that there’s little long-term medical research into transitioning (for both trans women and trans men) in order to abuse and frighten trans men into detransitioning (which, btw, often leads to the suicidal depression that dysphoria causes and transitioning alleviates!)

[as-water-fills-the-sea]

like that popular post about how binding even with a good binder will fuck you up for life and make it impossible to have top surgery later on? written by a crypto-t*rf who thinks trans men are lesbians

[as-water-fills-the-sea]

the number of replies/tags that say something like “i’ve been terrified to bind and/or thought i’d completely fucked up my chance of getting top surgery because of that post” is horrific tbh and if you cis people actually gave a single shit about trans people you’d stop circulating shit like that

[nymt97]

So wait. What’s the truth? Will binding fuck up your chances of getting top surgery?

[as-water-fills-the-sea]

no, it won’t. here’s an email from my GP, who’s been working in the Fenway Health system (which focuses on LGBT healthcare and research) for over a decade:

transcription:

Binders worn too tight or for too many hours in a day can certainly cause some chronic rib/chest pain; they may even cause some scarlike thickening of the tissue under the skin - usually at the margins where the breast folds down against the chest wall in general. This can be uncomfortable, too. But none of this translates into making top surgery a problem. Not at all.

None of the surgeons I’ve sent patients to have ever remarked about this and nothing in standard practice or the general literature suggests or supports that conclusion.

[jules-hoard-of-stuff-deactivate]

Oh my god thank you

I’ve been refraining from wearing my binder because I saw that post and NOW I SHALL GET 2 MORE THANK YOU

[wodneswynn-deactivated-deactiva]

I will be removing myself from situations

[wodneswynn-deactivated-deactiva]

If something is happening, well, I certainly don't want anything to do with that

[rox-and-prose]

[brainstatic]

Just a heads up right now: on the day when Trump dies, I’m going to be extremely tasteless about it. It’s going to get ugly. You are going to see a side of me I am not proud of. I don’t want any call-outs in my inbox, I’m stating right now that lines will be crossed.

[marisatomay]

trump’s doctor at walter reed just briefed the press and may have blown a cover up – he said that we are 72 hours into the diagnosis but we were told around 1am friday morning that the president had tested positive which was only 36 hours ago. they were never going to tell us that the president not only has the virus but is symptomatic had it not been reported that hope hicks was positive. they were going to lie and continue with his regular schedule. like his event on thursday at bedminster which he attended knowing he was positive and symptomatic. i hate all of them. every last one. 

[ms-demeanor]

Okay, who had “literal amazon spy drones” on their 2020 bingo square?

This is your reminder that Amazon has formed a partnership with over 600 police departments to share data gathered by Ring cameras. Amazon is sponsoring the surveillance state and now they’re going to be able to form an aerial map of your house and your neighbors’ houses.

Ring has a history of approaching local neighborhood watch groups and HOAs to convince residents to use Amazon surveillance systems at little or no cost to homeowners - PLEASE make an effort to participate in local community groups like HOA boards or get to know your neighbors in apartment buildings or go to local city council meetings and PLEASE speak against the unregulated expansion of surveillance systems and the erosion of individual privacy.

“I don’t want Amazon to know when my kids get off school to go play, or what toys they want in the back yard. I don’t want Amazon to learn my work schedule based on when my car is in the driveway. I don’t want the police to request footage of my yard to issue fines for improper vehicle storage. I don’t want an automated camera filming my daughter in the swimming pool.”

Make the argument that even people who don’t have anything to hide don’t want a camera on a pole recording the things they do in their homes.

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

This and the fact that a bill was just introduced to allow the FBI to monitor and access browsing activity without a warrant is just :E 

[chthonicillness]

not only is it morally sound to wish death on people who have caused unfathomable amounts of death and suffering themselves, it is extremely cool and sexy to do so as well

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh!!

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

It is not my job to take care of those around me. I need to establish boundaries and learn to enforce them no matter how guilty it makes me feel. I’m tired of being taken advantage of because I feel the need to make sure everyone around me is happy and cared for regardless of my own comfort. 

I do not owe anyone anything and it is not my job to take care of them when they are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. 

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

also WOW do I hate the new Tumblr

like way more than any of their previous updates ever before now

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

I’m not even on full quarantine yet, but I fully understand why pets like to sit in the window and stare outside for hours on end now. 

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

I love my job but I am soooooooo fucking over the phone issue. It seems no matter what I do, someone’s always mad at me over the phone. I answer the phone and try to transfer it to the person the call is for, someone gets mad and either they angrily take the call or they tell me to take a message. I answer the phone and just take a message for the person the call is for, someone gets pissed off and sends a passive aggressive email about how we need to make sure the client reps get all their phone calls. Every time the phone rings is inconvenient but I deal with the brunt of everyone’s anger every time because I always have to interrupt someone for the phone or, again, try to take a message and then they’re all furious that they didn’t get the physical call. Literally when I first started, I was taught to take the calls and write it out in an email to send to the client rep so we have a record of it, but that always pisses someone off too. They’re supposed to be putting an ad out for a new receptionist after the first of the year so I can officially move up to being a client rep and I cannot fucking WAIT to not be the one that answers the phone and always has someone mad about something. 

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

I was just going back through my blog out of boredom and I am happy to say that we did get a new receptionist and she was so awful, so absolutely abysmal at her job, that she only lasted a month and everyone seems to have realized that I was doing fine and they are no longer mad over the phone thing 😂

[i-remember-there-was-mist]

April Fool’s Day is in a few days, and I just wanted to make this clear.

This blog is safe, and I can promise you no screamers, nothing emotionally abusive, no fake posts, and nothing to intentionally trigger disassociation. You are safe here.

[owlmylove]

no one tells you how much of life takes practice. not just writing, painting, running, singing, etc, but practicing how to make friends. how to make the right ones. getting practiced at how to be a good friend, a good sibling, a good person. practice identifying when people haven’t earned that. learning to recognize your right to rage and, eventually, how to offer mercy. so much of life is muscle memory, and i’ve begun to realize there are so many more parts of ourselves to flex and stretch and strengthen than those we’re taught in anatomy lessons

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

You know, I was thinking about this recently (like late at night while trying to sleep), about how difficult it is for me to go out of my way to show people I care and to be kind. And I was really fretting about it, because the girls around me at work seem to effortlessly come up with ways to show they appreciate each other and they all seem to be closer to each other than with me and that I always feel awkward and am never the one coming up with ideas for gifts or parties or anything for the others. Then I realized that it’s not that I’m a horrible, heartless person who doesn’t care about the people around me, because I do care, but it’s because I was not taught to be that way. I was raised in a neglectful, emotionally abusive household. I wasn’t taught to show my affection in any sort of constructive way, in fact, really all I knew was anger and anxiety and negativity. Gifts were few and far between. We didn’t do parties. We didn’t have friends over. We didn’t go out and socialize much. So I have to actively choose to be a different person than what I grew up as, and it takes time and a lot of work, but it’s something I’m going to keep working on because I would much rather be a little ray of sunshine than a grumpy old grump. 

[whitepeopletwitter]

[aces-away]

My australian shepherd jumped into my moms lap and everyone else left and got a dog or a kid to have with the during the meetin

[awkwardandvaguelythreatening]

My cat was on the back of the chair during a Tuesday conference call and she got up to shift positions and everyone just stopped and was like THAT IS A SERIOUSLY FLUFFY CAT. YOUR CAT IS SO FLUFFY. EVEN WITH THE SKYPE BACKGROUND BLURRING WE CAN SEE THAT YOUR CAT IS SO FLUFFY. and the she laid down and the call continued as normal. It was great

[inkskinned]

Everyone just.... In the coming weeks please notice and take care of your mental health. Watch other people too. We as humans were not meant to be completely isolated. Many of us neurodivergent ppl don't take well to sudden shifts in schedules like this (regimented to self-administered is an incredibly hard and drastic move). Even if you're deeply antisocial. Depression and other mental illnesses love inertia - they take "I have stopped" and triple the force of the stopping. You might notice it's harder to get out of bed, harder to shower, harder to do anything - nobody is around to hold you accountable. Just ... Watch for it.

Yes, the social distancing is imperative for the general health and safety of others. I encourage safe behaviors. But just be .... A little bit kinder than you think you need to be, to yourself and to others.

[cruellesummer]

currently thinking about how self isolation and quarantine will unfortunately lead to more domestic abuse cases world wide.

this is a list of domestic violence hotlines.

please don’t be afraid to call them or to tell friends or family about your situation if you should be in danger.

[bemusedlybespectacled]

I’m only one DV attorney who works with one DV organization, but, at least in New York, even though courts are shut down for most everything else, getting orders of protection is considered an emergency and you are absolutely allowed to file for them. you can still contact crisis hotlines even if walk-ins or in-person appointments are no longer available. you can still get help even though everything else is shut down.