Now that you have a few ideas when to let your husband ejaculate, I will briefly discuss how you let him ejaculate. Like always this is totally up to you as the keyholder, but don’t be afraid to be creative!
During Penis-in-Vagina Sex
I discourage this one because I feel that sex and ejaculation need to be separated to avoid accidents. We have sex several times per week and ejaculation is never expected and rarely a topic of conversation. But if you do enjoy the feeling of him ejaculating inside you, then you can of course go ahead and allow him. From there, I put the chastity device back on and then we either fall asleep together or roll over and watch TV together.
Again, whether you want to give him blowjobs is up to you. Even if you do, you don’t have to keep going until he ejaculates. I personally don’t really enjoy giving blowjobs. I gave him a lot of them before we got married, and even swallowed, but after we got married, I gradually reduced their frequency and limited them to foreplay only. Since we started chastity, I haven’t given him any nor do I plan to do so – and I even like to tease him about the fact that he can only blame himself because he was the one who approached me with the idea of chastity. On the other hand, I know a woman who will only let her boyfriend cum when she gives him a blowjob. Her logic is that blowjobs are his favourite and hence, on the rare occasion that he is allowed release, she wants to give him maximum pleasure.
This is the main method I use to make my husband cum. You want to make it about you and not him. It’s no longer his orgasm, it’s your game – you’ve got control of the joystick and he’s here for your fun. Here are some ideas to spice things up:
You can allow your husband a certain amount of time, for example, if his last ejaculation was two weeks ago, you could give him two minutes to cum. If he doesn’t make it in time, he will be re-locked and you can tell him with a big grin that he was obviously not horny enough and should be locked up a bit longer next time. Some women challenge themselves to make their man cum as quickly as possible, which with a sufficiently horny man may just take a few seconds! Alternatively, you could give him a handjob but tell him to last at least a certain amount of time. If he doesn’t manage to last long enough, he will be “punished” (you can decide how). You can also combine this with post-orgasm stimulation, for example you tell him you will stimulate him for ten minutes, and even if he comes after five you will keep stroking for the remaining five minutes.
This can be a lot of fun and you can be really creative here. Some ideas:
Give him a handjob while you are acting extremely bored and reading something on your phone
Do it while he is completely naked and you are not
Tell him to put a condom on before you give him a handjob or blowjob. This also avoids a big mess, so strongly recommended!
Tie his hands and blindfold him
Make him please you orally
Make him eat it after he cums
This is something you should probably discuss with your husband first, but it’s a lot of fun. For example, you could frequently interrupt your stroking to give his balls a few slaps, or you could stroke him with one hand while you squeeze his balls with the other one.
This is when you don’t stop stroking after he cums. When a man orgasms, his glans soon begins feeling extra sensitive and wants to be left alone. If you keep stroking and rubbing his glans he will be overwhelmed by the intense feeling. You may need to restrain his hands before! But don’t worry, what you’re doing is completely harmless. I love the irony that he has been looking forward to a handjob for such a long time, and now that I’m doing it it’s suddenly “too much”. Too funny!
Stimulate your husband until he reaches the edge of orgasm – then pause or dramatically slow down your play to prevent him from climaxing. You can do this many times in a row. This is extremely pleasurable for him, because it prolongs his pleasure and ultimately gives him a much stronger orgasm when compared to regular sex when you finally decide to let him pop – although, of course, you can always change your mind and lock him back up before that happens.
Touchless orgasm / release
This is when you stimulate him until just before the “point of no return” and then remove your hand and stop all stimulation. If you time it right, instead of ejaculating in “bursts”, the semen flows effortlessly down the penis – hence they are also misleadingly called “ruined” orgasms. If done correctly, he will still be horny afterwards and will stay hard as a rock, still wanting more, even though he just ejaculated. Touchless orgasms are great when you want to give him an orgasm but still leave him horny when you lock him back up. Or, if you plan to have an all-night love-making session but you are afraid that he will cum to quickly, you can start your evening with a touchless orgasm. I found this great article explaining why a touchless orgasm means prolonged pleasure for both of you and how to do it (contains explicit pictures!) – some quotes below:
“The so-called “ruined” orgasm is one of the most intensely pleasurable, toe-curling, sweat-inducing, back-arching, fist-clenching, teeth-gnashing, brain-bending tricks you can use in the bedroom to drive your man into an animal sexual frenzy. It is also perhaps the least understood and most underused method of extending and delivering pleasure to both partners. If you can master this you will feel more empowered and satisfied than ever. I promise!!! (…) The Name Is Misleading: It’s Still an Orgasm! (…) A properly ruined orgasm is STILL potentially more intense than a normal orgasm! It’s not “ruined” at all! It feels profoundly different to him, but it still feels great – especially if you use it as a tool to extend your lovemaking! (…) Don’t feel bad about ruining your man’s orgasm!!! I simply cannot say it enough.”
“Whereas a normal orgasm causes him to go limp and enter what doctors call the “refractory period” where he is no longer motivated to have sex, a ruined orgasm has the opposite effect – it causes him to stay hard, fully aroused, hyper-energized, and HIGHLY motivated to have sex. (…) But that’s not all. (…) Simply put… a man who’s been ruined once or twice (or more!) in a single night can fuck you harder and longer than you ever thought possible. (…) Basically, a ruined orgasm (or three) multiplies his sexual endurance for the rest of the night, without reducing his desire. In fact, it amplifies his desire, because he gets to experience a higher pleasure plateau than he would normally be capable of experiencing!”
“To bend your man’s brain and give him truly epic ruined orgasms, you need to know his body very, very well. You need to study his specific sequence of escalating physical pleasure signals, to identify the first possible moment in the sequence where you can let go and cause him to still cascade through climax. Arched back, tensed muscles, grunts, whimpers, pulsing cock, retracted balls – every man has his signals. (…) Instead of letting go “at the last second” you actually want to let go as early as possible. You want him to hang, untouched, on the verge of climax, for as long as physically possible, before his body reflexively sends him over. Do it correctly, and his cum should just dribble out, under weak contractions. (…) With good communication, you can find the perfect timing together, by working your way “backwards” from the moment of his orgasm. Start by having him tell you, out loud, when he hits what he believes to be his point-of-no-return.”
“Back off at exactly that moment. (…) However, men always misjudge their own point-of-no-return. (…) In order to find his true point-of-no-return, you need to study the cascade of physical reactions happening in his body in the precious seconds before he calls “stop.” Then, night after night, progressively work your way backward through that cascade, stopping sooner and sooner, on your own (without him telling you when to “stop”), until you find the point where he doesn’t climax at all. Then, night after night, slowly and very carefully work your way forward again, until you find the point where he lingers for 5 to 15 seconds, untouched, before leaking uncontrollably. (…) Basically the power of his “cumshot” is a clue to help you know if you’re doing it right (weaker is better) (…) Another huge clue that you’re “doing it right” will be in his refractory period – or lack of one. After a typical good ruined orgasm, his cock should not “wilt” at all. He should stay aroused, erect, and eager for more action.”
“Please don’t let your hard work go to waste by feeling like you have to give him a normal orgasm eventually, don’t give in to a sense of guilt!!!. That will just cut your night short. (…) I allow him to have orgasms, but he can only have them on my terms. That means… when I want him to have a “normal” orgasm, I give him a “normal” orgasm. The rest of the time? I either tease and deny him, or I ruin him. He never knows what I plan to do until I do it. (…) I can choose to “finish” him. Or I can choose to “ruin” him. He gives that choice to me, willingly, lovingly, every time. It is his love letter to me – the single greatest gift he is physically capable of offering – and I cherish it. I respect it. I handle it with utmost love and care. And it makes me a fuller, more confident, more satisfied, happier woman. It makes our marriage stronger, and I adore him for it. I would also like to point out that once I mastered the ruined orgasm my husband is actually more disappointed with a normal orgasm because of his refractory period. It may sound counter-intuitive but a normal orgasm is actually the outcome he likes the least, despite it being the thing he craves most desperately when his “primitive horny brain” is in charge.”
Every single time you touch his penis, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm. Lie to him. Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t. Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm. Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night. This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth.
Some women don’t like their man touching himself down there, either because they find his masturbation unattractive or because they want him to “forget” how to do it. But other women like letting him masturbate as they like to watch or because they are feeling a bit lazy and don’t want to lift a finger themselves. In any case I would discourage you from allowing him to masturbate when he is alone (for example, sending him to the bathroom for a quick wank); instead, he should always do it in your presence. Also, if you allow him to masturbate, there should be a time limit (never more than a few minutes) so you can make sure he only cums when is very horny.
https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/
