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Instead of wasting money on femininity content, make these personal investments
new degrees or certifications investments for your portfolio paid language courses a career consultant club memberships fitness (soul-cycle, equinox membership, boutique classes etc) cooking classes instructors for physical hobbies ( ballet, skiing, farming literally whatever) personal trainer pilates reformer or lagree machine for your home yoga room or home gym a good dermatologist or facialist on retainer
I think more women need to start cheekily standing up against people, especially men who try to make them feel uncomfortable, who try to demean and who push against their boundaries and who are just absolute weirdos.
I love twiggy's attitude here because she isn't rude, bitchy or combative but she also isn't letting a weird pseudo-intellectual loser make her feel less than or drag her into his nonsense. She's sweet and soft-spoken about it but she managed to put him in his place and expose him for who is, a small mediocre creep who thinks he is smarter than he is.
I definitely feel like I myself have been far too lenient with people especially men regarding who may speak to me and how and its a habit that won't serve any woman and hasn't served me.
I think many women have a fear of standing up for themselves because they don't want unfortunate labels attached to them but figuring out how to balance being outwardly polite and sweet with just enough bitchiness to cut someone down to size is something I'm cultivating and I think it will serve me very well.
💋Bunni
spend more time actualizing your goals than visualising them
What are twenty things you wish you knew in your twenties?
thank you for the question love. I'm still in my twenties and I don't know everything so I'll give you what I can, mostly based on what I have learned, what I've read and what I believe.
Education is absolutely paramount especially if you are a woman.
Get your wellness together as early as possible and keep it together.
Finances must be in order ( learn how to save and how to invest, learn the signs of shopping and gambling addiction and how to avoid them, pick jobs that will make your finances better and break bad money habits.)
Learn how to pick a high quality partner
Figure out what you want in a partner and start dating with intention.
Figure out what you want in life and go after it.
Learn how to run a household properly.
Take your sexual health seriously.
Don't judge yourself too harshly but understand when not to sugarcoat.
Engage with your hobbies as much as possible.
Maintain a healthy sense of self.
Make decisions you know will age well.
Audit your habits and get rid of bad ones as quickly as you can.
An influencer trying to sell you a course is a scammer. ( take this one seriously)
Build up a good social circle.
Eat well but take advantage of your youthful metabolism.
Make time for things that feel good without self-judgement ( still learning this).
Don't treat the decisions you make in your twenties like they don't matter because they do.
Prioritize long term happiness over short term fun.
Be hot.
💋Bunni
Whether you agree with her or not, take heed from the experience of an older woman.
Ladies make sure you have productive things going on in your life. Something to do and engulf yourself in rather than just scrolling through apps and waiting for the group chat to get lively.
This is very important to your self esteem. It’s not just “feeling” positive things about yourself. Part of it, which hardly gets talked about, if ever, is doing esteemable things. Meaning, having something tangible that you can point to and say, “hey. I did this. I’m proud of this. There is work and attention and effort put into this and I deserve to praise myself and receive praise from others for it”.
A kid who plays soccer and guitar and makes up dance routines with their siblings and has their drawings hanging on the wall will have much higher self esteem than the kid who only watches tv all day. One kid has done something. Learned things. Tried and failed and emerged victorious and it feels good. So when they walk around feeling hot about themselves, it is earned and it makes sense. It’s not a ‘fake it til you make it’ situation. Authentic self esteem, not just saying whatever affirmations in the mirror everyday until you start to believe it, is earned by doing something positive with your life.
Go cultivate a skill. Go practice something. See something to completion. Get a hobby or two. The human condition craves the experience of doing something well and feeling pride. Stop neglecting that part of self esteem building.
a tool everyone need to level up?
A notebook.
Write your goals down.
Turn them into steps and plans.
Implement.
An idea that changed my life is that self-esteem is created by becoming visibly good at things, whether it's playing a sport or knitting or what have you. Esteem is about admiration, and you build up admiration for yourself by becoming someone you can admire. If there's nothing about you that you can deeply admire—and, to some extent, which you know others admire as well—then of course you can't be confident.
My digital detox protocol
These are my favourite books on digital minimalism.
the reddit
the website
this is the blocker I use for my laptop
this is blocker I use on other devices
this is a youtube video I like on the topic ( frankly I hate how being offline got turned into a trend but w I still agree with some of the sentiment of the video)
if you want to detox as well you need check the links out first, then read stolen focus my johann hari and then move onto digital minimalism.
Bye♡x.
She goes for mornings runs, does some shopping on his Amex card while driving around in Porsche he got her. She’s spend her day writing her book and redecorating their home. He adores the ground she walks on and do anything do make her happy.
general advice?
start building and maintaining a social circle. this is very basic advice but ever since quarantine it seems like many people do not know how to speak to people, make friendships and create a network and it really is such an important part of living well. additionally it appears to me that many people seem to think that hiding away from the world means you're ''healed'' or ''unbothered'' or are ''protecting your peace'' when really its all social incompetence.
the human is a pack animal and we're not meant for isolation.
💋Bunni
what did you mean by basics and old reliables ?
An old reliable is something that has been proven to work and is likely to increase your quality of life. For example getting in shape to improve your dating options if you live somewhere that has thinness as the beauty standard, seeking higher education if you want to increase chances of social mobility etc.
They aren't perfect solutions and people will disagree on just how necessary they are but they have worked and they've worked for many people from many walks of life. You go for an old reliable when you don't know what you're doing with your life or where to start and all you know is that you'd like things to be different.
The basics are things at the bottom of the pyramid, you start with these when you don't know where to start but you know what you want to do. If you want to lose weight but know very little about weightloss and nutrition you start with downloading myfitnesspal or using a calorie calculator and adding a vegetable to your meals, if you want to get fit you start with a walk or a youtube workout video.
Starting with the basics allows you to build up a new habit without getting stuck in the information stage and getting overwhelmed or procrastinating.
Again it is no perfect solution, its just a stepping stone. Its easier to jump from a daily walking habit to a treadmill habit to a lifting habit than it is to go from sedentary to 3 hrs of lifting 7 days a week and that's just the truth.
We have a tendency to get stuck in the info hoarding stage and mistaking that for self improvement but reading about resistant starch and saving pins on the perfect high protein no calorie no this no that breakfast bowl won't help you if there is no implementation, you'll benefit way more from taking a simple action than you will from reading about complicated ones.
You don't stick to basics and old reliables forever mind you, you simply start with them, build up a habit and then start implementing all the thing that will be necessary for you to have the life you want.
it beats deluding yourself into thinking that a person who has lived for 21 years and has yet to exhibit any discipline even sporadic or inconsistent discipline can just jump up and start living the way people who have trained for discipline their entire lives and it beats having no idea where to start, picking a mid tier goal when you're still at the starting point and wondering why failure is a given. You aren't going to go from a life of junk food to being a green juice girl in one day and that's actually fine.
What are twenty things you wish you knew in your twenties?
thank you for the question love. I'm still in my twenties and I don't know everything so I'll give you what I can, mostly based on what I have learned, what I've read and what I believe.
Education is absolutely paramount especially if you are a woman.
Get your wellness together as early as possible and keep it together.
Finances must be in order ( learn how to save and how to invest, learn the signs of shopping and gambling addiction and how to avoid them, pick jobs that will make your finances better and break bad money habits.)
Learn how to pick a high quality partner
Figure out what you want in a partner and start dating with intention.
Figure out what you want in life and go after it.
Learn how to run a household properly.
Take your sexual health seriously.
Don't judge yourself too harshly but understand when not to sugarcoat.
Engage with your hobbies as much as possible.
Maintain a healthy sense of self.
Make decisions you know will age well.
Audit your habits and get rid of bad ones as quickly as you can.
An influencer trying to sell you a course is a scammer. ( take this one seriously)
Build up a good social circle.
Eat well but take advantage of your youthful metabolism.
Make time for things that feel good without self-judgement ( still learning this).
Don't treat the decisions you make in your twenties like they don't matter because they do.
Prioritize long term happiness over short term fun.
Be hot.
💋Bunni
some things to focus on in 26?
acting from a place of self love.
saying to each his own.
decentering my worth from your achievements.
focusing on the bigger picture.
balancing current pleasure with deferred gratification.
blocking anything that goes against the program.
avoiding vicarious living.
channeling your jealousy into self improvement.
date and have fun but always put yourself first
