[fairydrowning]

"I did not like to be touched, but it was a strange dislike. I did not like to be touched because I craved it too much. I wanted to be held very tight so I would not break."

-Marya Hornbacher, Wasted

[fairydrowning]

"I'm not used to being loved. I wouldn't know what to do."

-F. Scott Fitzgerald, More Than Just A House

[fairydrowning]

"I crave touch, yet I flinch every time someone is close enough."

-Via dollpeotry, "I have become rather fearful I suppose"

[fairydrowning]

-Via "mayasaura"

[opalsandcream]

biggest betrayal is when it’s supposed to thunderstorm and it doesn’t

[softest-archive-deactivated2023]

when andrea dworkin said “no woman could have been Nietzsche or Rimbaud without ending up in a whorehouse or lobotomized”

[okayoverthink]

I want you flat on your back helpless tender open with only me to help and then i want you strong again

[cyborgsmanifesto]

the sex ed guide your parents didn't give you

how to put a condom on

where to get free birth control

the hymen debunked 

cleaning your vibrators 

how to avoid pressures

signs you may be pregnant

safe guide to anal sex

all about dental dams

disabled sexual resources

what is hiv?

feminist porn

female ejaculation

fisting 101

communication during sex

setting sexual boundaries

bdsm vs abuse

lube during sex

the clitoris

sex education games

understanding gender

what to do if your nudes were leaked

intersex

sexual consent

all about masturbation

choosing a sex toy

tips for your first time

[brutereason]

“In 2012, Louis C.K. appeared on “The Daily Show” and said that “comedians and feminists are natural enemies” because “feminists can’t take a joke.” Jon Stewart nodded vigorously and agreed. Today, Stewart is being fawned over for acknowledging, in response to Louis C.K.’s fall, that “comedy on its best day is not a great environment for women.” A friend, the comedian Zahra Noorbakhsh, texted me: Ten years from now a man will win awards for his documentary about all this. If you believe us now only because your peers are facing professional ruin, that deserves its own reckoning. I’ll wait.”

— Why Men Aren’t Funny - The New York Times

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

Honestly I think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity.

Instead of saying “I’m lazy,” saying “I’ve made a habit of not doing work unless it’s absolutely necessary.” Instead of saying “I’m a bad friend,” saying “I haven’t communicated as much as I should with the people I care about.”

By being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didn’t happen or wallowing in blaming yourself.

[butchdarry-deactivated20180612]

the greatest skill a woman can learn for herself is self reliance

[butchdarry-deactivated20180612]

to clarify … so many strong women in my life rely on men. that dependence is dangerous. ladies here are some good ref resources I’ve found helpful on my journey towards self reliance

automobile

changing coolant

changing oil

changing tire

jumping a car

plumbing

toilet running

basement flooding

replace a faucet

clogged drain

electrical

replacing light switches

blew a fuse

installing overhead light

earth vs. neutral vs. live wires

home

patching drywall

finding studs

this list is in no way comprehensive feel free to add on

[nerdgul]

a lot of ‘man things’ are a lot easier than you think they are. especially considering the fact that most of these things when buying the parts come with directions on the packaging that men usually don’t even look at (and often end up doing it wrong because they were taught by fathers who also did not look at the packaging). 

like i recently had to change my car battery and freaked out cause i thought id electrocute myself but turns out new batteries come with directions and its the easiest shit in the world so long as you can lift the damn thing. 

so yeah, ladies dont ever feel like a man is a necessity for life, you can do this shit on your own its easier than you think!  

[systlin]

You can learn nearly anything from youtube; they have instructional videos for anything imaginable. 

I learned to spin and make baskets there, as well as put up drywall, mud and sand it, install windows, and roof. Am currently watching pottery and flint knapping tutorials. 

[rock-fish-deactivated20201231]

it’s no joke, YouTube is the self-education utopia libraries wanted way back when it was less feasible to have a big repository of video clip how-tos. however: always cross-examine like two sources to be sure you’re getting info that isn’t viral simply bc its funny how wrong it is. i fix literally everything i own using YouTube including fine electronics

[prettypositivity]

always remember someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you

[sharmakeswife-deactivated201809]

do you ever just fucking hate yourself for not working hard enough to reach your full potential?? cuz same.

[bardhoshe]

- pay back people you lent from

- save money

- make a payment plan

- focus on school work

- only spend time with Conor and dj

- don’t go out a lot

- cook

- exercise

[bardhoshe]

Susan Sontag

Georgia O’Keefe

Jenny Holzer

Barabra Kruger

Nan Goldin

[arabwife]

Avoidance can seem like the easy way out at first then it just turns into this draining process. You continue to run from what you are trying to avoid and just end up running into yourself, over and over.

[bardhoshe]

He’s just someone who cuts a hole in you then fucks you through it

[bardhoshe]

“You can’t be ugly except to people who don’t understand”

[bardhoshe]

I don’t have the energy for your half assed feelings for me

[bardhoshe]

The Tender Hour of Now