big look with the lip ring & things

patchy / 26 / white / isfj / they/them / i like things / art blog: patchcandraw.tumblr.com

[ramalamacreatures]

Handmade polymer clay Bird of Paradise Parotia sculpture painted with acrylics

[vriskira]

Naru enstars and Libby (from star Darlings) Outfit swap plss!!

I wanna see my girls in Knights unit uniforms 🥹

AT LAST, THE FINAL REQUEST. I HOPE YOU ENJOY, DEAR ANON!!!!!

[deathandmysticism]

Death's doings, consisting of numerous original compositions in verse and prose, 1827

[distinguishedbaloney]

[eilooxara]

Non cooking spray stick

[eilooxara]

Non spray stick cooking

[that-house]

Non cooking stick spray

[yeahokayillreblogthat]

yeah okay ill reblog that

[autism-official]

[3000s]

sending my love to everyone in public who talks loud / laughs loud / plays music out loud / is "taking up too much space" or "loitering" / having a mental health episode / yelling "for no reason" etc

[3000s]

people are mean as fuck about this kind of thing but none of it is actually harmful

[aurafarmin]

this this this this + double this if youre a person of color

[itscoldinwonderland]

psychotic people "talking to themselves" in public ily and was you

[png-archive-chaos]

I roll up

[stuffman]

People have written a lot of touchy-feely pieces on this subject but I thought I’d get right to the heart of the matter

[sqbr]

[The artist, putting a simple cake next to a much fancier one: “Aw man, that guy’s cake is way better than mine.” The Audience, gleefully holding up a knife and fork “HOLY SHIT! TWO CAKES!”]

[elvencantation]

additions from the og artist (credit)

[scientia-rex]

“Holy shit two cakes,” I mutter to myself as I do fucking anything these days, this post was a godsend

[ruffboi-mags]

I know it’s not July yet, but guys, happy 10 years of “two cakes”. This post on god has been a godsend not only as a writer myself but as a friend of artists and writers who I love to encourage. This was legitimately a game-changer.

OP thank you so much for this.

[transhuman-priestess]

So I just saw a post about this and I don’t wanna put OP on blast, but the reason that “when are we going to leave” never gets you a straight answer is that most people (both autistic and allistic!) don’t enter a social event (i.e. a party or dinner) with a pre-arranged schedule.

It’s very much a “play it by ear” sort of thing. Yes, I understand that’s frustrating, but this is one of those things where the neurotypicals aren’t doing shit just to fuck with you, and you’re actually being kind of rude to expect people to structure their social time like that.

[alittlemorethanasonnet]

A better method for figuring out functioning budget and timing is to figure out the pattern and set boundaries based on it. “Before we go, I really do need to be home by 11 to take my meds for tomorrow.”

Then, while you are at the event, make that clear. At 10:00, remind the folks you’re with that you’ve got to be home by 11:00. If they disregard this, it’s up to you how you solve it — I’m the sort of person to just suffer it out, but then I’ve gotten to the point that I can have a conversation about my boundaries. Particularly, “you didn’t care about my deadline, and that hurts. I don’t want to go to events like this anymore if my boundaries aren’t respected.”

Sometimes complications do arise! Talk things out. “I understand why you had to stay longer, and while I’m upset at the situation, I know it wasn’t on purpose, so I’m not mad at you” is a fucking star.

And sometimes you need to bail early. So say that. “Hey — I’m way out of my depth. Ideas?”

Go somewhere quiet and rejoin the party some other time.

Get a Rideshare if affordable/applicable.

Leave together! Maybe they’re ready to bail too.

Move the party. “Anyone want to go to Taco Bell? I’ll pay if you drive.”

All some ideas!

[transhuman-priestess]

All very good advice!!!

[vasira96]

my body is a machine that turns picture in my head to have it in my hands

[thirdity]

“You write the beginning and then you go back and rewrite the beginning, and you never got off page one. It’s kind of a syndrome, and I have a rash piece of advice which is — Go on, page two, page three, and never look back. Get something finished, no matter how lousy it is. […] Perfectionists cannot get going unless they kind of do violence to their own instincts, and just blast ahead.”

— Ursula K. Le Guin, The Last Interview and Other Conversations

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

[yuhi-san]

Thats the context for this meme???

[titenoute]

I feel like I've been robbed the whole time. This is magical.

[kstarlitchaotics]

I'm dying

[parkchanwoohoo]

It is so fucking funny to me how easily scandalized some people are wym callout post for a cannibalism kink. Grow up. This is the nothingburger leagues and you're throwing up in the stands

[anomalocaris-in-da-clurb]

It’s actually the peopleburger leagues

[parkchanwoohoo]

Blocking for being funnier than me

[succubusboyfriend]

are you “adaptable” or are you just willing to subject yourself to existing in low key background-level ambient misery

[succubusboyfriend]

these are different things btw. actual adaptability means not dealing with being miserable long term. and being constantly mildly annoyed/frustrated with a situation but being “able to deal with it” counts as ambient misery. btw.

[succubusboyfriend]

let this be your sign to make your life just a little more livable. get a dollar store trash can for your bedside so Cup City’s invasion plans fall through. block a tag or post that makes you grind your teeth every time you see it. get some grip pads so your bed stops sliding across the hardwood a little bit every time you get in it. tell that person you need a little more support. if you get annoyed at a situation more than a couple times, change it. don’t be content with being miserable.

[demonprincex]

and the more that you start doing this, the better you will get at detecting your own feelings and advocating for yourself! This is an important start to being more of a person in the world if you struggle with that

[torstherapy]

[tinsnip]

Per @spoonstrek

[abouquetofdaylillies-deactivate]

Pre-menstrual depression is always depicted as like "He He! I had a box of icecream bars and cried while watching the Titanic!" But in reality, it's more like, "I'm standing the edge of an abyss. There is nothing good inside of me, I'm filled with rage and desperation."

It's crazy that being told how to deal with that is never a part of anyone's menstrual sex education.

[headspace-hotel]

This has already been said in the notes, but if PMS causes extreme depression and even suicidal ideation, that is in fact something that most people do not experience and it can be treated

Like for the majority it really is "oh i'm hungrier and moodier than usual"

^this should be a part of sex education so the point still stands

[godesssiri]

I went to my doctor after I was walking to work one morning and saw a bus coming and actually took a step to throw myself in front of it before I pulled myself together. Later that day I started bleeding and was literally like someone flipped a switch and I didn't feel suicidal anymore. Which made me feel like I was loosing my mind because who goes from 'I want to throw myself in front of a bus' to 'I'm perfectly fine' just like that? I did some research, I went to the doctor and described my feelings, he looked me in the eye and gently asked what I thought it was, I said I'd read about PMDD and I thought it might be that, he said 'I think so too' and wrote a prescription.

If, before you get your period, you feel furiously angry, suicidal, irritated by every tiny thing to the point you want to murder someone, stuck in a black hole you'll never escape from. If you are experiencing extreme emotions for what seems like no good reason, especially if you get your period and those extreme emotions just go away. You're probably not just PMSing , you may have PMS's feral big sister PMDD and it's treatable.

Also this is something that can develop as you get older. So if you used to get normal PMS but what I wrote above sounds more like your norm now then don't just write it off as regular PMS.

[jvlianbashir]

my friend's discord server has a "proof of touch grass" channel where they post pics of them doing regular activities outdoors/in public. i think many online spaces could benefit from such a thing

[weaselle]

when i was super depressed - like struggling to eat anything barely able to get out of bed to pee depressed - my good friend asked me every day to send her a picture of me holding a leaf and a picture of a meal i was eating and it helped me significantly

(also, she was never judgey - if my meal was a single potato chip she would simply say good job eating a potato chip today <3 )

which is to say, i agree proof of touch grass is a good idea for online spaces

[yadelah]

This kinda required my brain a bit

[aurpiment]

“It’s easy to assume”: someone’s misconception is about to be amiably corrected

“It’s tempting to assume”: someone’s assumption is about to be criticized

“It’s comforting to assume”: someone’s assumption is going to be read for filth