love languages meme
words of affirmation
“You’re really good at that.”
“I care about you.”
“I missed you.”
“Will you call me when you get there?”
“Of course I noticed. You matter to me.”
“This was a really good day.”
“I really like spending time with you.”
“I’m in love with you.”
quality time
[ boardgame ] - sender and receiver play a boardgame together
[ shopping ] - sender and receiver are grocery shopping together
[ date ] - sender contacts receiver, trying to arrange a date night (or lunch, etc)
[ vacation ] - sender and receiver take a vacation together
[ cooking ] - sender and receiver prepare a meal or some sort of baked good together
[ family ] - sender and receiver spend some time together with either sender’s or receiver’s family, “i want you to meet my family” style
gifts
“This made me think of you.”
“I saw you were out, so I picked some up on my way back.”
“It’s your favourite, right?”
“I’ve been looking since you couldn’t find it last week.”
“I made it, I thought you might like it.”
“Take it, if you like it.”
“You should try it, I think you’ll like it.”
“Were you still thinking about seeing that play? I have tickets.”
acts of service
[ grooming ] - sender does some small grooming task for receiver (washing their hair, wiping away stray flour while baking, etc)
[ light on ] - sender knows receiver will arrive to their location late at night, so sender leaves a light on for them
[ morning ] - sender prepares a cup of coffee/tea for receiver
[ private ] - sender does something to defend receiver’s privacy when a third party is threatening to cross receiver’s boundaries
[ lie ] - sender lies in a way that is intended to protect receiver
[ water ] - sender runs a hot shower/bath for receiver after receiver has had a long day
[ meal ] - sender prepares some sort of meal for receiver (breakfast, lunch for the next day)
[ ride ] - sender gives receiver a ride somewhere
[ sick ] - sender cancels work to take care of receiver while they are sick
physical touch
[ couch ] - sender rests their head against receiver’s shoulder while they sit beside each other
[ passing touch ] - sender passes by receiver and just briefly touches their shoulder, or the small of their back, or their waist
[ check ] - sender checks receiver over for injuries, insisting on checking receiver over themselves to be sure that they’re okay
[ kisses ] - sender presses a kiss, or several kisses, to something receiver is not used to having kissed (a scar, freckles, their stomach, etc)
[ righting ] - sender does something to ‘right’ receiver; straightens their tie, sweeps their hair back into place, fixes a curl back into place, etc
[ shove ] - sender shoves receiver affectionately because receiver is teasing them
[ presence ] - receiver is upset, and sender is - simply - present. they put their hand over receiver’s, or they sit beside them so their shoulders knock, or they link fingers, or they just barely toe at receiver’s shoe so they’re reminded they’re not alone.
