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Prostate

I gave J an extended prostate massage last night. Now that I have some experience behind me I can usually get him dripping pretty quickly. We use a bartenders shot glass to catch all his sperm. J can get it about 1/4 filled now from just the massage. I’ve noticed how thick his sperm is geting, I wonder if it will keep getting thicker as his penis is locked up. We shall find out!

76 Days

It’s been 76 days since J had his last orgasm. He says he thinks about me every single hour now of every single day! The end of his cage always gives him away; it’s rare that is not leaking a little bit of pre cum. His balls are so swollen and so firm, he’s reaching a point where he flinches even if I just touch them lightly. Unfortunately for J, I like to feel them all the time. I’m amazed how big and swollen they feel, so full of J’s un-ejaculated sperm. Every time I feel them, I feel warmth spread through my body knowing that they feel the way they do because he has given his orgasms to me. I think I love him more each day! When we are in bed and I have my hand on his balls, I like to whisper things to him about how much sperm he has built up. Last night I was whispering to him to imagine if I was to give him a BJ, how much sperm would fill my mouth if he came..

Pretty Panties

J always gets up before I do, we both work out of the house these days but J starts 90 minutes before I do. He always has a quick shower and then puts on a shirt and his panties. I’ve noticed lately when I watch him, there isn’t even any hesitation any more when he grabs for his panties. I’ve been laying out some really sexy ones for him the last few days, lots of lace and decorations on the front panel. It really accentuates the bump from his cage. J always gives me a good morning kiss before he heads off to work, and I often run my hands over his panty covered cage, my pussy usually starts warming up about then!

Group Chat Followup

After our group chat on r/ChastityCouples, I wanted to clarify a few things based on my experience.

Go Slow!

You can’t just start put the strap-on on day 1 and go to town, you need to get your guy used to the new world of anal play. So these steps are how I did it, hopefully you will find some value in my experiences

1. Get things clean, give your man an enema, wash him out till the water comes out clean

2. Get him somewhere comfy and in a doggy position

3. Have baby wipes handy and wipe down his taint and his anus

4. If you want, wear gloves. If you have nails WEAR GLOVES, you can put cotton balls in the tips of the fingers so your nails won’t pierce the glove

5. Start by massaging his bum, relax him.

6. Massage his anus, put lube or massage oil on your hands and massage his anus, I love doing this! Play with his pucker, massage all around it. Take your time!

7. When he seems relaxed, apply lots of lube to your finger and his anus, TALK to your man, tell him you are about to penetrate him and start pressing your finger against his opening, eventually his anus will suck in your fingertip! You are now INSIDE your man!

8. Keep massaging, now you can massage the inside and outside of his anus

9. Work your finger all the way inside, feel how warm it is in there! I love to feel his pulse and his warmth and softness!

10. Close your finger once it’s all the way in, move your finger in a reverse “come here” motion, you will feel his pelvic wall, feel down towards his cock and see if you can find his prostate

11. At this point it’s all about exploration; feel around get to know where things are. If your man is relaxed see if you can get a 2nd finger in, things get easier the more fingers you have inside him.

The above should be your total goal for the first few times you explore your man’s ass. This isn’t porn, you aren’t going to peg him with a huge dildo right off the bat and give him a huge orgasm. Little steps! Do the above a few times a week for the first few weeks. Once he can accommodate a few of your fingers and you can locate his prostate you can start massaging it. You will quickly work out the right way to massage it based on his feedback.

(Part two coming…)

Thank You J

I thought I would write a little thank you to J for becoming such a lovely husband since we locked up his cock. There have been so many positive changes since his chastity day. Some small, some large.

- SO MANY compliments! My self-esteem is on such a rocket ride!

- So many kisses, and cuddles and touches

- Weekly massages!

- So many orgasms! My pussy is SO very happy these days!

- No more shaving! I haven’t touched a razor in months

- Hand holding outside!

- Kisses outside!

- Never leaving the toilet seat up, or pee on the toilet seat

- Always having a clean toilet now! I only have to mention it needs a clean and its done

- Never having to wash a dish! I love to cook, and going from messy kitchen to clean is great!

- Always having clean panties! We will have to learn how to wash bras next

- Not having to deal with “Aunt-Flo” by myself

- Not a single argument since lockup!

I’m sure I will expand on the list above, that’s just the items that pop into my head. There are so many others. Some day to day things now, such as watching J at the sink in his sexy panties doing dishes, he often has another task after that now! J Having J ask me if I can finger him so he can have a gentle emission (Yum!). The excitement that J’s weekly fuck day is approaching, and having him help me on with the strapon harness and hearing him ask if its ok to have a strong orgasm if he can while being fucked (He hasn’t been able to yet, but we are working on it).

Fun List

Teases:

- Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.

- Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.

- Have him address You as ‘Mistress’

- Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass.

- Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please.

- Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching

-Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.

-Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about his actions.

-Squat above his face, make him breath in the scent of your panty crotch …

- Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You.

- Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach.

- Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator. Make him lick the dildo clean.

- Put your well-worn panties over his head so he can smell your odour.

List of Humiliations:

- Make him wear panties or lingerie.

- Make him do housework naked or dressed in panties/lingerie.

- Have him pamper You, have him:

- give You a foot/back/full body massage

- give You a pedicure/manicure,

- paint Your finger/toe nails.

- bathe You/shave your legs.

- cook and serve You a nice dinner.

- Make him hand wash Your panties and lingerie.

- Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog.

- Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that.

- Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.

- Dress him up in lingerie, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it and be fucked by you.

- Make him wear panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when you both go out so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.

- Make him earn his rewards; for example:

- Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done.

Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum.

- Always make him lick You clean after you orgasm.

- Lock two padlocks around his balls.

- Give him a golden shower.

- Make him drink a glass of your pee.

- Get an enema syringe an inject your pee into his ass and then make him lick you to orgasm before he can expel it.

List of Punishments:

- Spank him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…)

- In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.

- Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.

- Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.

- Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.

- Enema. Make him hold it till he begins to cramp.

- Have him lick You clean after you pee.

- Drip candle wax on him.

- Take him shopping for his own panties/lingerie

Anal Exploration

I got asked on r/ChastityCouples by a few members why I enjoy fingering J’s ass so much. I had to think about it for a little while, but I think I love doing it for similar reasons why guys like to finger us. I love the feeling of his warm, soft and vulnerable insides…. I can feel his pulse and the fact that I am inside his body is such a turn on! Another turn on is the enormous vote of confidence from husband for even letting me (and my sharp fingernails) get inside him. And all of that is before the fact that massaging his prostate causes him so much pleasure, so it’s a win for both of us. If you can just get your guy to relax, they will enjoy it so much! Even just a nice soothing external massage of the anus is so nice, J just moans quietly when I do that, and I love seeing his little rosebud spasm in and out as he feels the pleasure of it all.

Dilators

I’ve had a few inquires on r/ChastityCouples about using dilators to get J used to anal penetration. YES by all means use them! I bought a set of 5 off amazon that ranged from 28mm/1.1inch to 56mm/2.2inch, I simply started with the smallest and inserted it into J’s anus in the morning and he wore them most of the day, I then simply worked my way up when he could easily accept the dilator he was on. J is currently on the 41mm dilator. Gradually stretching him is definitely the way to go! The dildo we currently use is 38mm wide so the 41mm dilator is perfect to train him with. We don’t want to injure our guys after all! Please order a set of dilators and use them, you will both appreciate it!

These are the ones I have: https://tinyurl.com/y4nlvfyp

Teasing

Little tease session for J tonight, I asked him to come look at panties online, we looked and he found some he said I would look good in. Lots of lace accents, fancy patterns. So we picked three, and then I asked him what size he is! J You should have seen the look! Yes I said, these are for you silly, not for me! And we ordered them.

If only people understood the REAL meaning of his shirt!!!! Nobody probably suspected he was in lace panties, a cock cage and a heavy ball weight ring! And LOVING every minute of it!

Surprise

I had a surprise for J this morning. When J is home I like him to be naked so that I can see his cage, when he does the dishes he puts on a red apron I got for him, I think its looks domestically sexy! This morning when he started the breakfast dishes, I went into the washroom and put on my strap on under my housecoat and went back out into the kitchen. I went up behind him and kissed him on the neck a few times which he obviously liked... Then I pushed him down on the counter, and opened my housecoat up! He obviously knew what was coming when I ran my girl-cock up and down the crack of his ass! I lubed him up and in I went! Between his moans and groans and my egg vibe buzzing away, I came after about 5 minutes! Once I had my fun, I pulled out and left the room. Poor J was just a mess, an open and very wet ass and a dripping cage.

Pegging

Mistress Janie is preparing a wonderful write up on beginning pegging, I’ve read the first draft and its so wonderfully detailed! Stay tuned, you will want to read it!

Panties

Between the weight of J’s full balls and his cage it was obvious he needed some sort of support, especially when we went out. Up until this point J had been wearing boxers, but they were never designed to handle swollen balls and a chastity cage. When we were getting dressed for our last outing I presented J with a gift, a pair of black lace hipster panties in his size. I told him I wanted him to wear them today when we went out and that I thought they would offer much better support for his ‘problem’. There was some minor commotion, but in the end J put on the panties. And Ladies, I have to admit, he looked fine and sexy in them! The pair I had bought had a wide gusset which I thought would be ideal and it was. I will admit, they aroused me almost as much as J! J was shocked at how comfortable they were and completely supported his swollen balls and his cage. I would highly recommend you begin a discussion with your own husband about wearing panties when you go out, or just do as I did and buy some for him to wear.

Gentle Emission

I’ve been reading the discussion between Mistress O and Mistress Janie on r/ChastityCouples with a lot of interest. For those not on r/ChastityCouples, the idea of naming things properly arose, and Mistress O mentions that she was never a fan of calling the release of pre cum our guys give during edging a dribble, or a drip etc... Based on the group voting, I will try to now always call it:

“A Gentle Emission”

I think that does a wonderful job of describing it, a gentle emission of his pre cum during edging or milking, not a full on orgasm. Now I can tell J how much I am looking forward to his gentle emission, and how disappointed I would be if he had a strong orgasm instead.

I especially enjoy Mistress Janie’s idea to ALWAYS ask our guys to tell us how much it means to them to please us by promising to do their best to achieve a gentle emission for us. I think anything that can reinforce the idea that WE own their cocks and their cum is a win!

2 Months? So soon?

Dec 5th Is fast approaching! That will mark J’s 2 month anniversary of being caged. So far he’s doing quite well with it all. His balls have swollen a fair bit (as was expected). His cage is small enough that he can’t really get any sort of erection, so that hasn’t been a problem at all. He’s almost constantly leaking his pre cum now. He’s been incredibly helpful and polite these past two months. He’s much more like the man I started dating all those years ago. We are currently discussing when his cum days should be in 2021, he’s obviously in favor of having more of them than I think he should have. More on that later!

Experiment (followup 2)

Today is 2 weeks of applying the skin softener to J’s cock and it has totally done what I wanted it to do! J’s cock head is incredibly sensitive now! I uncaged J to shave his pubes and occasionally brushed J’s cock head and the moaning and squirming was wonderful! J had to stop me from touching the glans or he said he would have cum! I don’t think you have to use the products I used, I’m sure any decent skin softener will do. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!

The problems with chastity

(Taken from Chrissy B’s blog, but worth repeating!!!)

If you are into male chastity, it isn’t hard to find lists upon lists of the benefits of male chastity. As someone who loves the game of chastity there are some very serious side effects of chastity that some men experience that they don’t tell you about on those lists. Instead of a fun and kinky game, it can get dark and bitter FAST. This happens when chastity is done wrong. What I say won’t apply to every situation or person. But if you are new to key holding, this might help you.

But first some highlights of the proven benefits of male chastity:

1. His desire for you will skyrocket

2. His libido doesn’t crash

3. Male masturbation is evil and this stops it

4. He’ll stay faithful to you

5. He’ll be more helpful around the house

This is the top 5 but you can easily find more. But we are here to mainly discuss the basis of every problem with chastity right now.

IGNORING HIM RUINS EVERYTHING

Yep. If you want chastity to work it means a lot more sex. A LOT more! But it isn’t the traditional type of sex. It is talking and tasks and receptive sex on his part. If as the key holder chastity is some kind of sexual oubliette where you throw your partner and forget about them then you are begging for problems and pain. The benefits of chastity only happen when you replace what you have taken away from him, with something more enticing than orgasms. And remember, that for most guys, they are biologically wired to do almost anything to cum! Mother Nature dedicates whole parts of the brain to sex and desire (for most all people) so you are working with some strong bio-magic. Be aware of what you are getting into. It has the power to raise sexual skyscrapers you didn’t know were possible but it can also ruin and destroy people and relationships. You know the phrase…. “With great power there must also come – great responsibility”.

So on to how we make those benefits a reality.

If you lock up his dick and then expect him to just start doing more house work you are a fool. Taking away a joy in life isn’t going to make someone more helpful. And it is just an abuse of the kinky relationship. Kink is about fun, house work is about necessity;

Now, how to do it right.

If you are in a male chastity relationship, make it part of the fun. Be explicit about what you expect and why. And tell him often…. more than that…. even more than that… Yes, daily, hourly. Whisper it in his ear, text him, email him, phone him at work….You get the idea. And then give him reasons to do more chores that relate to chastity. Trade time out or release for the floor waxed. Or he doesn’t remember the dishes and it is a ruined orgasm for you. You get the idea. Whatever your style looks like, use it. But for the sake of all that is kinky, play with it! Don’t ignore it. Don’t make them wait in silence for a someday. Follow through on what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it. And if that is more than 24 hours away, you are doing it wrong. An inconsistent or forgetful key holder is a bad key holder. And bad key holders make very bad chastity boys.

Now, how to do it right.

Use your words. Make a role-playing game out of it. Talk to him, often (see above) about how you love the power over his orgasms he’s given up, Talk to him about his poor denied cock or how you look forward to your next pegging session! You know your man and what buttons to push to make him excited. Use it. And use it often. If he isn’t getting to play with his dick then you need to play with his head. And far more often than he ever played with his dick. Whatever you do, help him remember why he made a vow to you and why you are worth the chastity.

How to fix this?

Welcome to the reoccurring theme of a fun, positive and kinky replacement. You are locking him up and taking away the right of orgasm. And like anytime someone locks up a natural animal you become responsible for their care and maintenance. You get to control when, AND HOW, he releases. It could be never. In that case, you have to find a suitable replacement that is applied at least as often as what you are taking away (i.e. masturbation… which can be multiple times a day for some guys). This replacement could be submissive acts, kinky words, edging, pegging, etc. And then the occasional ruined orgasm or miliking or prostate release. Whatever you do, make it fun (even in an evil way) and make it very frequent. And if it doesn’t result in frequent releases (kinky talk, submissive tasks, etc.) then it has to be as frequent as his normal masturbation schedule (if not more so).

DO NOT IGNORE HIM. Don’t forget him. Absence DOES NOT MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER. Constant teasing and torture and playing and edging and whatever other fun kinky things you do will. If it is done often it WILL make his libido skyrocket and bring out the fun, kinky side of him. He may get super submissive. He may beg. Plead. Claim he’s dying. :-) But he won’t be mad, depressed, and violent or feel forgotten. He will feel loved, owned and played with.

In the end, chastity is an awesome game so long as the key holder doesn’t take a fire and forget approach, or the ‘absence will make the heart grow fonder so if I forget to play with him one day, two days, a week, two weeks, he’ll really be ready to play when I do finally grace him with the merest crumb of play time’ approach. If you do that, it will backfire spectacularly. Chastity can do all those wonderful things the blogs say it can. It can make your man feel, and be, much more submissive. He can find a renewed spark in you. He can feel loved, cared for and not shamed for wanting to play with the person he loved. So long as you don’t ignore your role and don’t forget to play more often than the activity you are replacing (his desire to orgasm) then it will work beautifully and you will have a husband others only dream of!

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