Welcome

Hello there. I rant about things that I find interesting. I think that both men and women need to have their voices heard and simply claiming that only one side gets to discuss their issues is something I am strictly against. I don't consider myself to be anti-feminist, but like any rational person, I don't quite agree with the versions found on tumblr. If you're a radfem, you won't like what I have to say. I mostly spend time pointing out the stupidity of social justice warriors and similar types of people on tumblr, but I'll occasionally reblog things I find relevant to this blog. Good day to you all.

[mixedmeds]

Katy Perry is a Feminist Now, Still Doesn't Understand Feminism

Oh, Katy.  I was excited to see that you had finally changed your mind and embraced feminism, seeing as you’re an influential public figure and someone who deals with sexism often as a pop star in the music industry.  Unfortunately, during an interview with Karl Stefanovic of The Today Show in Australia, you still couldn’t quite get a grip of the word’s meaning:

"I used to not really understand what that word meant but now that I do, it just means that I love myself as a female and I also love men."

Not quite.  It’s great that you love yourself, sure, but I’d like to take a second of your time and actually define feminism for you.  Actually, other celebrities who have announced themselves as non-feminists should listen in as well (I’m looking at you, Lady Gaga and Kelly Clarkson).

According to Merriam-Webster, feminism is defined as “the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.”  Not clear enough?  Here’s another definition: “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.”  Get it now?

Let’s educate ourselves in the future before making claims about something we’re clueless on.  Katy, I don’t doubt that, by definition, you’d be a feminist, but please stop spreading false information around.

Roar once if yes, twice if no.

[womenagainstfeminism-blog]

So you’re offended that she included “loving men” as a part of her feminism?

Now see, this is what I am opposed to. Who placed you in charge as The Feminist Police to tell other women what they can and can’t do?

Why do you quote the dictionary like it’s some unquestionable Bible? Does that mean you are the preacher who cannot be questioned? Anyone can quote a dictionary.

And one more thing, what qualifies you to be the sole authority on what feminism is? Who appointed you the guardian over Katy Perry’s life, or any other woman for that matter?

This is what I can’t stand about feminists. They immediately place themselves in charge of other women and then project all their insecurities and issues with men onto you.

No thanks. I don’t need to be told what to wear, how to think, what music I am allowed to enjoy.

[the-unpopular-opinions]

People think that the LGBT-community is a nice, non-discriminating community. This is true if you are L or G. I don’t know about T, maybe they are accepted, maybe they are not, but me and my boyfriend are bi-sexual and L & G’s are not accepting of that at all. Being discriminated against doesn’t make them less discriminating towards us.

I don’t feel accepted in the LGBT-community and feel WAY more accepted in the cis-community. In the LGBT-community they are constantly doubting me and my boyfriend’s sexuality.

At almost every social LGBT-gathering I go to where it is known that we’re bisexual, I get told by a gay guy that there’s no such thing as a bisexual man and that’s my boyfriend is just a closeted gay. There is also always a lesbian coming up to me telling me one of the following: “I’m a traitor to the lesbian community.”, “Girls can’t be bisexual because that means you are half lesbian and lesbians don’t like dick.” or “I’m just a straight girl that wants to please her boyfriend with treesome’s.”. Not to mention the let’s-ask-insulting-questions-time. “Are you bisexual because you aren’t monogamous (I’M NOT POLY)?” “When do you think you are going to break this off for a girl, because bisexuals can’t commit to one gender?” …

The cis-community has their bigot’s and I’ve met those aswell, but if a bigot says something like that to me in cis-public, people give them an ugly stare or even defend me without knowing me. If a gay or lesbian says something like that to me during an LGBT-meeting, they get nods and gay friends will ignore it and tell me they are wrong in privet.

I’m not saying all lesbians and gays are like that. Most of the gathering doesn’t do it or nod at that. A gathering is also filled with a special type of LGBT-people, but do not say that the community is unable to discriminate because they get discriminated against isn’t true.

[rorynneee]

Id like to add that EVERY lesbian that ive met irl has either told me that bisexuals were disgusting, and would never date one, or have said we dont exist. i even have had one TRY to be nice (im assuming) And told me NOT to call myself bisexual if i wanted a girlfriend because lebsbians dont date bisexuals because “they cheat, and end up breaking girls hearts by leaving them for men” Never have i ever met someone that was a lesbian that was accepting of my sexuality.

I cant  say anything about gay men, because ive never personally met a gay man off line and im talking about personal real life experience here. But if i were to include online interactions. Most gay and lesbian people that ive talked to are unfortuantely very biphobic, But theres thankfully still alot that are great people and arent biphobic at all.

[micdotcom]

Photos show side of Afghan women Americans don’t typically see

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[geekygothgirl]

So cool!

[sailorsoldiersofjustice]

Definitely cool!

~Pluto

[rigelorionis]

people who call skinny girls ‘disgusting’ thinking thats a good way to show they support larger bodies

[beaconsoftomorrow]

You're Not Helping v.23

When you say, “I’m not a feminist but…” I hear, “I’m a terrible person.” That was the opening salvo by feminist blogger Anisha Ahuja of Feminspire. She describes an incident at a fundraiser involvi...

Another feminist trying to give the ultimatum of "If you're not a feminist, you're a bigot."

[ughsocialjustice]

[colddayinheck]

SJW privilege is expecting two year olds to understand complex concepts like colonisation, rape culture, fetishising, and racism.

SJW privilege is thinking it’s totally reasonable to tell toddlers that they are rapists.

SJW Culture is being angry that there are white children in a preschool for underprivileged kids and figuring that they are more likely there to further some sort of agenda than because they come from some sort of underprivileged background.

This is SJW Culture.

[nietzschesghost-deactivated2014]

………

[surfcommiesmustdie-deactivated2]

This is SJW culture should be a tag.

[slytherho-deactivated20171229]

This blog doesn’t exist anymore after they said an actor can’t be a character unless their race matches them. I call troll.

[beaconsoftomorrow]

Please be a troll...

[missanddry]

Friendly reminder that anti-cheating is pro-slut shaming (◕‿◕✿)

[redwhiteandblueliberty-deactiva]

[judal-is-my-spirit-animal-deact]

On feminism in general, excluding TERFs and radfems

I realize not all feminists are man-haters, but the ones that aren’t generally tend to do a piss-poor job of calling out the ones that are, which is one of the reasons I don’t want to call myself a feminist. 

[dennys]

r u single?

we are a restaurant 

[notkatniss]

Oh god

[antiandrogen]

The irony is that these are all white cis women who really have very little reason not to be feminists since that movement has always catered to them

[tran-syl-vania]

Ummm “that’s too strong”? How ridiculous that all these women are rejecting the concept of feminism because it has a “negative connotation”. Like sorry but feminism isn’t for your reputation, it’s for the whole of womankind.

[tachicomaing-deactivated2019081]

From what I can tell, these are three wealthy white cis het women who fit western beauty standards. It’s unsurprising that their nearly negligible amount of oppression can’t outweigh their selfishness. 

[poppypicklesticks-blog]

And these self righteous, obnoxious harpies wonder why no one wants to be considered a feminist anymore.

[nostlenne]

>Response to non-feminists is to bash them for not being feminists

That will certainly bring them into the fold.

[femboy-fever]

It’s funny that they bring up cishet white women not needing the movement, because that’s pretty much all the movement is made up of in America.

Cishet, middle-class/upper-class white women.

Feminism is so incredibly exclusionary of people belonging to the GSRM community, people who are not white, and people below the poverty line that I cannot believe any of these ignorant ham sandwiches have the audacity to claim that feminism is for non-straight, non-cis, non-white, non-wealthy individuals.

It’s not.

It’s really, really not, even though it probably should be.

[ladyforloveandjustice]

Wow, what a total shock that some women don’t want to be feminists! I mean, it’s not like some feminists gang up on and insult non-feminist women while trying to make them look selfish and stupid for not “needing” feminism OH WAIT.

If you’re mad at people rejecting the feminist label because it has so many negative connotations, then maybe you should, I dunno, do something to fix those connotations? By looking down on and insulting non-feminist women, all you’re doing is pushing them further away, not to mention anyone else who’s on the fence about feminism.

This really is a perfect portrait of Tumblr feminism. 

~Mod Silvermoon424 

[beaconsoftomorrow]

Feminism is about women making their own choices unless they disagree with feminism.

[beaconsoftomorrow]

My follower count keeps going up and down.

[creepy--babe-deactivated2017031]

This is so ridiculous. I’m not sorry if this offends, but this is my opinion. 

Actually, I don’t. 

Last time I checked, I chose how to run my life. 

No one is forcing me to stay home and feed a baby. I can have a career and chose to have a child when I’m ready. I can still work even after I have a baby. 

I know men that love to cook for their girls. I also know couples who like to cook for each other equally. Most men value their women and don’t see them as a sex object. 

I’ve written very opinionated arguments and have had them read by several groups of people. My opinion was valued and not seen as a “dumb-over emotional” women. 

People who blame rape on the victim are ignorant and aren’t looking at the rapist. Though there are a lot of people in this world who hate rapists and would want the rapist to fry. 

Pretty sure abortion still exists for women. Also, it’s not just for women who were raped. Women who can’t afford a baby, don’t want a baby, or a young teenager, it’s option for them as well. It’s not just men who try to take away abortion rights, there are women as well. 

You pretty much already said that. But again, a lot of men are great listeners and do give a shit about your feelings. Most of the closest people to me have been men.

I don’t need feminism to teach my daughter or son that their body is fine the way it is. I can do that from my own personal feelings, experiences, and my own way of parenting. Whether my child has a vagina or penis, BOTH genders should be taught to love their bodies. 

Of course no one is forcing me, these lists of reasons you created are why I’m not. 

I’m sure some feminists are going to get mad and send me hate, but I could honestly care less because this is my opinion. I don’t need to follow the old ways of doing things, and it’s not just men who contribute to these issues. Women do it to. There are women who shame someones body for not being “skinny” enough, some women want to abolish abortion, some women think a girl should stay home with the baby, etc.

Women contribute too, not just men. There are men who want women to have rights. Stop generalizing and degrading men. 

[checkmateyourprivilege-deactiva]

"i punched a guy because he was telling rape jokes" or you probably just stood there and passive-aggressively blogged about it when you went home

[hanniballecters]

[ananarchat-deactivated20151214]

A serious question on misandry. Doesn't having misandry wreck a feminist's ethos? Saying that you want to be treated fairly and not be judged on your gender yet simultaneously not doing the same to others will probably make one seem hypocritical and that they haven't thought their views through. To be clear, I know misogyny does more damage than misandry, but still I felt this question was worth asking.

Nah, dude. It’s not that misogyny does more damage than misandry, it’s that misandry simply doesn’t exist, because men, as the group in power, aren’t oppressed on the basis of their gender. Anyone who thinks that feminists who make misandry jokes as a response to misogyny are hypocritical clearly has no understanding of systematic oppression. I have spent years thinking about my views. I went through a nice feminist stage where I was all about equality, and now that I’m older I am so far past that. Advocating for egalitarian treatment is the most unproductive thing a person can do while still calling themselves pro-social justice. Calling attention to inequality and male privilege, including through misandry jokes and the “generalizations” of men that everyone gets so up in arms about, is more radical and, well, more useful.

There’s a tone of condescension in this message. What you did here was you took what’s clearly a pretty superficial understanding of feminism and used it to come up with a message that basically says “have you considered that being harsh towards men is unproductive to your cause?” which is a level 101 question that every feminist who doesn’t cater to men has already been asked a million times. If I didn’t know who sent this ask, I would say you were implying that you have a better understanding than I do of how feminism should be done. Lucky for you, I know who you are, and I know that’s not how you meant it. Still, if this is a question you’re actually interested in, I suggest you do some research on feminist theory before you start questioning the legitimacy of my approach.

[talking-fedora]

Did you know that deliberately redefining misandry and moving the goalposts to say that it doesn’t exist makes you look really dishonest?

Misandry is hatred of men and you cannot say that doesn’t exist.

[ananarchat-deactivated20151214]

I care so little about how dishonest I look to you, Mr. Talking Fedora. I care so, so little about your opinion of me. I give like a negative number of fucks.

[talking-fedora]

Oh, I didn’t mean just to me. You look dishonest. Period. Because you are dishonest. Moving goalposts and ad hominems are not good strategies.

[ananarchat-deactivated20151214]

You’ve accomplished nothing besides convincing me that you have no clue what an ad hominem actually is.

[talking-fedora]

Well you did bring up my sidebar and Tumblr name as if they were relevant to the discussion, perhaps I only assumed that you were attacking them as well.

But yes, you’re right, you’re not being dishonest, you actually don’t care about equality. Carry on :)

[beaconsoftomorrow]

Love it when feminists are honest about their movement.

[infinitimatti]

people will nitpick and generalize all they can to justify their hatred of egalitarianism,  but if you point out something bad a feminist did, its “not feminism”

[beaconsoftomorrow]

I've seen this happen first-hand...

smh

[myprettyuniverse]

Mullerthal falls, Luxembourg by Baltramaitis on 500px