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32 (they/them he/him) in an incredibly difficult and stressful situation.

My roommate (A) was suddenly taken to the hospital by paramedics 5 days ago, I don't know why, and I haven't heard from them since. All I was told was that their family had called in a wellness check for them. I don't know when, and god forbid if they'll come back.

My other roommate (B) ghosted in April without a peep, or a trace of where they went. They didn't do the paperwork to get their name off of the lease. A and I have been paying 50% more for rent and bills to cover what they aren't paying. It's a massive ordeal to try and have B's name taken off the lease without their signature, and until they're off of it we can't move someone in to replace them without their signature. I have a civil case open to get them to do the paperwork and pay the rent they owe me, but they've blocked my phone number, blocked my email, deleted their social media, and gone completely blank. I don't know an address to mail to, or a location to deliver to. I don't know any of their friends or family to contact. I can't serve them with the paperwork, and if I can't serve them with the paperwork the case closes and I'm left with nothing.

The tribunal has denied my requests for help with serving the papers. I have looked into process serving and skip tracing services and none of them respond to my emails or phone calls. The only potential option I have is a private investigator that said they can locate them and serve the paperwork for $525 + extra costs. I can't afford anything like that right now.

I'm fortunate to be on permanent disability assistance, and to have some work to do for an extra $200 a month. With neither of my roommates here though, I have to pay the entire apartment's rent which alone consumes my entire disability cheque. $200 can cover either groceries or electricity, but not both. My internet bill is also $95 monthly and without that I won't be able to work at all. I have savings but those won't last through to the new year at this rate.

If you've read this far, thank you. If you can offer some support, every little bit counts, but don't feel obligated or expected in any way. Especially don't offer me anything if you're in a difficult place yourself. I just don't know what to do at this point, and this is the only void I can scream into, and just hope that the right eyes find it.

I don't really have anything useful to offer in exchange. I can do some really basic video editing, writing, and I can do some basic voice things too. Feel free to ask for anything else you might find reasonable in exchange, and I'll see what I can accommodate for you.

Again, thank you for reading this. I'm sorry for the wall of text. I hope that you and yours have been safe and well during these chaotic times.

bearsncats

Update: November 30th 2021

I hadn’t heard from A yet, but I heard from her family today. The most important thing is that she is alive, and I’m extremely thankful for that. Unfortunately, the bad news is that she had a stroke and, from the sounds of it, a pretty bad brain bleed. She’s been in intensive care, and while she’s cognitive and still herself from what I understand, it’s not 100% clear sailing.

Her and her family told me that her side of rent should still be coming through, at least for now. They’re not sure if she’s going to be able to completely take care of herself from here forward though, and it’s sounding like the ideal scenario is for A to live with them so they can look after her.

For now, not having to pay 100% of rent and utilities this month is a huge weight off my shoulders. I don’t know how many months that will continue for, but one is better than none. That, combined with the extremely gracious support I’ve gotten from posting this (A huge thank you to you, you guys know who you are and I have no idea how to thank you properly), I was able to enlist the PI to help with the B situation. So far we’ve only been able to find out some family names, and based on what we’ve gotten from looking into them, it’s entirely possible that B is hiding with family somewhere off of paperwork and we won’t reasonably be able to find them, as the only thing that will come back from looking them up is my address since B never signed off of the lease and still technically lives here.

I have one more “reasonable” avenue left after this that I can think of, and it’s not one I really want to be made to take. Essentially, B is also on disability assistance, and I’ll have to go through that system and “tattle” on B for getting assistance and not paying rent on a place they live, and just hope they figure something out for me. I don’t know if that would lead to them sending me the money B owes me by cutting it from their support, or finding them to serve the paperwork, or whatever else. Beyond that... I don’t know. Reach out to B’s family and hope they’re cooperative?

Again and again, thank you for those that offered support, likes reblogs and donations alike. If there’s ever anything I can do to repay your kindness, please say the word. Message me, send an ask, or let me know where I should reach out to you.

And for you that sent me a message on Discord the other day, I’m holding up. I’ll be trying to find some spoons to respond properly. 💙 I’m sorry for the wait