Being Unbeautiful

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I've been ugly and beautiful and the difference is depressing | IMAGE.ie

It's a sad fact that beauty is still currency for many. But beware, writes Sophie White, for it's a false economy

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I'm Not Really Attracted To My Girlfriend - What Do I Do?

We're all pushed to date hotter and hotter people. Is that the sane thing to do?

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Women in Sudan: what the 'ugly' debate tells us about society

Sara Elhassan caused a social media storm after addressing sexist comments in a spoken word performance. She tells African Arguments what it was like

“Firstly, the level of beauty has gone down, i.e. most of them [Sudanese women] are ugly, very much so. An ugly women creates distress in a person, I mean me personally, it makes me feverish, I suffer a lot,”

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Survival of the prettiest: The strange power of attractive people

From picking mates to picking politicians, new research says society's bias toward attractiveness has ugly results

Only in the 1960s, though, did psychological research reveal the sad truth: basically, we persuade ourselves of their greatness, projecting virtues onto the beautiful without the slightest knowledge of whether they possess them. 

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You are your looks: that’s what society tells girls. No wonder they’re depressed | Natasha Devon

Children as young as seven believe that they are valued more for their appearance than for their character. It’s time to break down these stereotypes, says author and children’s campaigner Natasha Devon

A study published by Girlguiding this week has revealed that half of girls feel stifled by gender stereotyping, with children as young as seven believing they are valued more for their appearance than for their achievements or character.

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The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.

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I believe very strongly that when it comes to desire, when it comes to attraction, that things are never black and white, things are very much shades of grey.

Brian Molko (via thelovejournals)

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You know when, sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later, they’re as dull as a brick? Then there’s other people, and you meet them and you think, ‘Not bad; they’re okay.’ And then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality is written all over it. And they just turn into something so beautiful.

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How Our Brains Turn Women Into Objects

There is, it turns out, more than one kind of "objectification"

“So, objectification might not lead to perceptions of women as inanimate objects but as different kinds of humans—ones that are capable of feeling but not thinking.”

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According to models of objectification, viewing someone as a body induces de-mentalization, stripping away their psychological traits.

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If Men Like Only Hot Women, Where Does That Leave an Average Woman Like Me?

Dating experts try to sell products by connecting with readers’ basest wishes. And for men, the holy grail is to be able to get the hot girl. What these men

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There is no beauty without some strangeness.

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Researchers have worked out what men really think of intelligent women

Men are not attracted to intelligent women unless they are good looking, a study has found. New research has confirmed the commonly held notion that the smarter a woman is, the less likely it is a man will fancy her. Men are actively turned-off by cleverness, and the only exception to this is if the woman is highly attractive, a study by the Warsaw School of Economics found.

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The Mathematics Of Beauty

How you can use your flaws to your advantage

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I'm a mid-20s guy in America, for background. I didn't even know about this phenomenon until yesterday. About 15 of my acquaintances and I were...

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Not Everyone Is Beautiful

Every two or three days, I see an article or Tumblr post or forwarded inspirational quote about beauty in my Facebook newsfeed. It's usually something af...

“But in our culture, women are pretty much a one-note instrument. Society says either you’ve got it, or you’re not it. Looks affect your choice of mate, the friends you have, and even your job. And this factor that affects every part of your life is something you have next to no control over.

This, of course, is a horrible thing to say, and society knows better than to tell this to your face. Because if we acknowledge that physical appearance is your primary scale of value, we have to acknowledge that this is an unfair and unreasonable way to run things. So society reassures you that: Everyone Is Beautiful.”

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"You Are Unattractive:" The Message That May Finally Be The Nail In The Coffin Of My OKCupid Account

That romantic in me? The one who tempered her reasonable expectations about dating with the odd lingering fondness for kismet and destiny? She was killed by online dating.