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So Steph gives us the meaning of the spiral tattoo. I can't help but find it ironic that Sam got a matching tattoo that promotes being fully yourself. Notwithstanding the infamous line tattoo that he also copied from her. It seems to me that's more like loosing yourself in the other, than becoming uniquely you. And based on her behaviour with Sam and what I've read from when she was with her two husbands, she's also a chameleon and doesn't really know who she is.
The video is private now 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Gosh and we were just admiring her previous work!
Hi Steph! Are you enjoying what you are reading here?
Not directly related to Sam, but Wentworth Miller has an interesting post on his Instagram today about actors being in the business of sales and branding.
A very sincere thank you to the Anon who sent me this. 😘
This is gold. Truly. And Mr Miller explains the whole mechanism far better than most fandom essays ever could.
If anything, these are the takeaways worth keeping in mind:
Not everything that looks personal is private. Not everything that's shown is meant to remain visible. Not everything that looks authentic is free from performance.
And once you apply that lens to what we’ve been watching here for months, quite a few pieces start sitting exactly where they belong.
Yes to all of this, although I would add that in Sam's case, he often doesn't know what he's selling and what the brand is.
Inevitability and bad choices
With Diana taking her sweet time finishing the story and the enormous amount of loose ends and non-answered questions she's leaving up in the air while doing so, the show had to steer away from the story as she has written it to conclude the show. This was inevitable. In fact, in a previous post, I expressed my surprise at how little the show had deviated from Bees in the early episodes of this last season. So, I'm not surprised, nor do I care, that they chose to sacrifice Fergus, no matter how much I liked the character. People die all the time. I can be sad about it, but not angry, it's inevitable. In fact, I'd much rather have this important character present in this last season, even in his demise, than not present at all, like in season 7. What I have a really hard time with is the Faith storyline, but maybe not for the same reasons as most people in an uproar over it. It's true the story doesn't make any sense, not only from the book's perspective, but from the show's perspective neither. Yes, it denies what we've seen in season 2, the amount of time Claire held her dead daughter, the fact that master Raymond sees Claire on her visit to see the king and says nothing about her daughter. The whole thing is ridiculous. But even harder to swallow from my perspective, and a terrible choice imo, is the amount of air time they have dedicated to that storyline, which, if you think about it, doesn't add much to the overall OL story, especially the way it was told. Here's what I want to know (in no particular order): - What exactly did Frank know, when? - When and where do Jamie and Claire die? - Do William and Jamie ever reconcile? - What about Rob Cameron? Does he ever make his way back in time? - What about the Fraser prophecy? What is that all about? And everyone's favorite: - What's the explanation behind Jamie's ghost in the first episode? There is only 3 episodes left, so I'm not holding my breath, but these questions are the reasons why I'm angry they chose to spend time on what they did. What would you like answers to?
Anyone else not enjoying the new series? It feels a lacklustre ‘paint by numbers affair’ . I’m really not interested in all the revolutionary war stuff. It feels like a docu drama on occasion. Every episode has left me feeling frustrated about wasted time, lack of character driven development and a really damped down feel to everything. I know they’re trying but it really has over run its course.
When I heard they were doing a season 8, I wondered how they were going to manage it, not because Diana had not yet written the ending, but because what she had written left so many loose ends suspended in mid air. To me, Bees felt like a patchwork of storylines loosely connected, but with no real story arch holding the pieces together. I thought the only way they could manage bringing the story to a satisfying end was to steer away from the book. I know they have done it in the past, and not always judiciously, but in this case, I was ready to forgive them, because I thought the source material was really not doing justice to its own epic story. To my dismay, so far, the show is doing the opposite, with the exception of the Faith storyline. And I'm afraid they'll just slap on a "wouldn't it be fun if" type of ending to what Diana wrote, leaving us with more questions than answers. I wish the story would have ended with: "Hello the house!"
He looks so excited! 🤣
I can’t believe anyone is comparing Steph to Karina, Gia, Georgia, and the others. After MM, Sam was with them just for fun and sex—and only for a short time. Do you really think that if it had been RR’s wedding and he was dating any of them, he would have taken them there or even to the distillery? Come on.
Look, if you see their relationship that way, it’s no wonder every little thing shocks you. You’re completely misreading it. Here ’s the real question: If this relationship were like all his others, why did BC react so differently this time? She’s smart. she realized almost immediately that this time is completely different. If she thought it was just like his previous relationships, she never would have reacted the way she did. Just think about it.
Well first of all he’s taken all of them to a lot of places. Traveled all over the world to meet them. I don’t have the time or energy to rehash the love bombing. They’ve all met his friends and family. Even the production assistant hookups got introductions lol. So sorry you can’t just drop in and try to convince everyone here she’s special. You think he took Steph to Rik’s wedding because he knew two weeks after taking another woman on a trip, she was the one? Forgive us if we’re a little slow on the excitement around here.
If they end up together that’s fine lol. I’m sure he won’t ask us. But I still fall in the category of Miss Right Now instead of Miss Right. The thing is nobody knows for sure.
Second I won’t speak for @bcacstuff . But did you ever think that a lot of the pull back from bloggers is because we’ve come across things about Steph that make our stomachs turn? Things she’s done that look very bad? And then there’s a young child involved. Front and center. It’s like they’ve lost their damn minds. So yes, she’s very smart to leave it alone if she wishes.
What is it with people trying to shove this women down our throats? Why do people feel such a need for her to be “the one”? Do matching tattoos have such an impact? Some people need to remember that he hasn’t acknowledged her in any way yet, which is no different than what he did with any of his other relationships. And I stand with @gotraveltheworldluv : I believe she’s just Miss Right for Now, and maybe not even that anymore. Time will tell, but please stop trying to convince us this is a fairytale.
The Mommy Bubble
How a fan-blown ecosystem keeps him afloat, and quietly sinks him. Let’s name the thing everyone keeps dancing around.
The Mommies, the ultra-loyal, always-clapping, always-buying, always-defending contingent, aren’t just fans. They’re an ecosystem. A self-contained little weather system that follows him around and makes sure the forecast is always flattering.
And yes, in the short term, it works. They cushion. They spend. They cheer. They shield. But here’s the part people keep missing. A cushion is not a foundation.
A foundation is boring. It’s wide. It’s stable. It’s the unglamorous mass of long-term viewers who don’t scream, don’t fight, don’t worship, but who stay. The ones who might raise an eyebrow, offer critique, step back for a week, and come back if the vibe improves. That’s the base you build careers on.
The Mommies are not the base. They’re the balloon. And balloons don’t build. They float.
Why the bubble feels like success, when it’s actually just noise
Overfans are brilliant at one thing: keeping the machine running even when the machine is running badly. They don’t merely support. They manage perception. They do the PR labour in real time. They police comments, they massage the narrative, they perform loyalty as a public service.
If the public mood shifts, they don’t adapt. They don’t ask why. They don’t adjust the standard. They attack the standard. And that creates a very specific kind of comfort. The kind that teaches you you’re untouchable.
The trap: they remove the only feedback that matters
A healthy fandom has friction. Not toxicity. Friction. People who can say they love the work but hate the choice. People who can say this isn’t landing. People who can say you’re losing the room. That isn’t hate. That’s quality control.
The Mommy ecosystem can’t do quality control because it isn’t there to assess. It’s there to defend. So every correction gets slapped down. Every critical voice gets labelled a hater. Every nuanced conversation gets drowned in moral posturing. And the long-term fans with standards get shoved toward the exit. They call it protecting him.
It’s not protection. It’s quarantine.
What happens when you only listen to the bubble
This is where it becomes a career problem, not a fandom problem. Because the feedback loop changes.
He stops optimising for broad appeal, the kind that holds up over time, and starts optimising for the small, loud, paying surface. He learns that as long as he presses the right buttons, he wins. So he presses them.
He feeds the loudest supporters. He reposts the most obedient praise. He keeps the format that delivers applause with the least pushback. He avoids clarity, accountability, and anything that might puncture the fantasy.
And when people ask whether he sees what’s happening, I think he does. He’s just seeing the bubble, because the bubble is shouting. The foundation doesn’t shout. The foundation leaves.
How it ends, and it rarely ends with a scandal
This doesn’t end with one big cancellation moment. It ends with erosion. It looks like fewer invitations, fewer serious collaborations, less cultural relevance, less organic enthusiasm, and less goodwill.
Not because haters won. Because the wider audience simply stops caring. And the bubble can’t fix that, because a bubble can only amplify what’s inside it. It can’t rebuild what’s outside it.
The image that explains the whole thing
Picture it.
The Mommy ecosystem is a big shiny bubble floating above the ground. Reflective, noisy, convincing from the inside. Underneath it is the boring part, the foundation. The broad, stable crowd that doesn’t worship, but sustains.
Here’s the problem. The bubble doesn’t rest on the foundation. It hovers above it, and it pretends it doesn’t need it. So when the foundation starts crumbling quietly, politely, without drama, the bubble keeps floating for a while and everyone inside it thinks it’s fine.
Until the air runs out. Because eventually the bubble isn’t floating on talent or goodwill anymore. It’s floating on forced applause and loyalty as performance.
That isn’t lift. That’s hot air.
Why this is the most dangerous kind of support
Because it makes course correction almost impossible.
If he pivots, the bubble hates it. If he apologises, the bubble calls it weakness. If he sets boundaries, the bubble feels betrayed. If he tells the truth, the bubble loses the fantasy.
So he stays in the safest lane. Vague. Curated. Deniable. Managed. Shallow enough to keep the cheering consistent. And while he’s busy feeding the bubble, the foundation keeps slipping away. Not loudly. Decisively.
Cold conclusion
The Mommy ecosystem is a brilliant short-term strategy and a catastrophic long-term one. It keeps him afloat while quietly removing every mechanism that would keep him good, and every audience segment that would keep him relevant.
You can’t build a lasting career on a bubble. Not because bubbles are evil. Because bubbles are fragile. And careers don’t end when people get angry. They end when people get tired.
So yes, enjoy the float. Enjoy the noise. Enjoy the illusion of universal support. Just don’t act surprised when the foundation is gone and the bubble pops.
Yes to everything in this piece. I would add one dangerous side effect of the bubble, the impact it has not only on regular fans, but on the decision makers of the industry, the entertainment journalists, the guilds and academies responsible for awards. Because mommies don't only attack other fans, they are vocal towards industry decision makers and influencers as well, for anything from not mentioning his name in an article, to not nominating him for an award, or not being chosen for a project. They will attack other actors that dare to have a project with any remote ressemblance to his. They'll even throw his co-stars under the bus. They do this because they think they're protecting him, but in reality they're making him look juvenile and shallow - and some of us know he doesn't need any help on that front - and someone to stay away from because of the toxicity and disrespect surrounding him. And Sam has not helped himself either by never calling out the crazies and by sometimes reposting their publications for good measure.
More of the same
This latest video is cringe, don't get me wrong, but I don't really get why many react to it as if this was a new side to Sam, as if, somehow he had lost himself. Some even hint a certain widow was maybe to blame, or Alex, or his "team". To me, it's just more of the same, and it's all Sam. The only difference is that it was done in a "professional" setting. If you see the video differently, maybe it's because you've finally opened your eyes to see what's been there all along. If you don't believe me, try to remember the IG live MPC Gala during COVID. This gives me exactly the same vibe.
I would love to get a glimpse of the bts.
Low IG live numbers, low sales, very few fan pics in the wild, no industry invites, no jobs (easiest would have been to cast him in the Spartacus miniseries).
What is his management and his agency telling him? Is there crisis management? And I am not even basing this on the girlfriend situation because I think it's very irrelevant outside of Tumblr and is really blown out of proportion.
His MPC engagement is a joke and he should have given it to Valbo years ago. How can you take it seriously when he posts about booze first thing in the morning? When have we seen him working out beyond a short clip running? Where is he showing off his genuine interest in fitness and healthy eating and mental health?
Where is his engagement for the distillery?
It's all very performative and he's stagnating badly.
These are great questions but I’m not the best person to answer them. @theheughanobserver or @bcacstuff would definitely know more. I’d love to know what’s going on too.
Where’s Alex? Besides getting pushed aside for a prettier travel companion…shouldn’t he be front and center in the business…since Sam actually had an acting job these past months? Speaking of Macbeth, I think he blew that opportunity. I think he was very good, but aside from a couple mentions, what did he say about it? As a fan I will just remember he pouted about a bad review…as a tumblr blogger all I will remember is the girlfriend relationship mess front and center. This wasn’t the outcome I think his agents and team were hoping for.
The booze is so old I can’t even go there. It’s nauseating to be honest. He just reposts the reposts of the other accounts that repost the same posts. He should keep it to one account and mention it only occasionally on his main page. It’s terrible promotion and turns people off.
MPC is a tax write off. Full stop. I’ve said this for years. It’s simply a way to get expenses deducted for travel or whatever. One meeting or video with a week in LA and done. It’s never been about anything more than that. If people subscribe that’s great but know it’s not important to him and there are much better programs out there.
The distillery is fine. I think it gives him away to control his product and produce more. But I think for the diehard fans a one time visit is probably enough. It’s too far south to interest many who, like me, visit Scotland for the big cities or isles. There’s a distillery every few miles anyway.
@gotraveltheworldluv Cheers for the tag. Also: apologies, because I’m about to politely derail your post for a moment.
Anon, I get you. I’d love a glimpse of the BTS too, because from the outside it’s giving low momentum and a whole lot of autopilot.
I’m going to split this into two parts. First the straight, observable bits. Then my own personal read at the end. Nothing inside-baseball, just what’s visible and what that tends to produce.
The real question is whether they’re treating it as a problem or as the new normal. We can’t see behind the curtain, but we can see what makes it to the stage. And if there is any crisis management happening, it isn’t showing up in the outputs. Not in the messaging. Not in the boundaries. Not in the consistency.
Because crisis management isn’t a secret meeting. It shows up in basics. A clear line. Cleaner signals. Fewer mixed messages. Boundaries that actually stick. Right now it reads scattered. Not deliberate. Not contained. Just reactive.
If you want a simple tell, look at the pattern shift over time:
Acting used to have more regular movement, mostly within the Outlander orbit. Recently, outside Macbeth, the on-screen work looks thinner and farther apart. Partnerships used to look like proper campaigns. Now it’s more occasional, more DIY, more story-post than industry push. MPC used to feel hands-on. Now it reads like set-and-forget reposting with the odd fitness clip as proof of life. Even Macbeth, which could have been a content gift, barely existed online.
None of this proves what’s happening privately. But it does explain why people are asking whether there’s any steering at all. If you don’t shape the narrative, the narrative shapes you. If you don’t set boundaries, the audience will follow whatever trail keeps being left.
And now the personal part, purely my opinion. The fatal thing is that it looks like it’s failing on every level at once. Not just one lane. Acting, brand, fitness, business, messaging. And what’s startling is that nothing seems to counterbalance it. If his team are course-correcting, it isn’t visible. If business partners are steering, it isn’t landing. The machine isn’t tightening. It’s loosening.
So instead of things settling, they keep getting messier and more confusing. And when that happens, the public-facing version of him doesn’t come off as private. He comes off as unsteady. And more people are starting to clock it.
And yes, I wish I could answer the why. Why it’s being handled like this, why it keeps escalating, why nobody seems to course-correct. I can’t. I’m in the same spot as the rest of you. I’m just trying to hold the frame steady so we don’t all get spun by the noise.
I agree with most observations above, except I believe there’s no real “team” behind him trying to steer his career, his image or his business. Just as he started believing his own hype acting wise, I think Sam started to believe he could do it all by himself. I think AN is the only person he lets have a say in whatever he does. And I’m not even sure of that anymore.
The contradictions we see are all Sam. Because who is the real Sam? I’ve long said he doesn’t really know. He’s whoever he thinks people want him to be most of the time, with snippets of his real interests mixed in. So we get a booze-loving and cigar-smoking fitness guru, a business owner in his mid-forties who acts like a petulant teenager, and an actor who is more often selling himself or his wares then doing any acting, which is supposed to be his first love.
If we don’t see any crisis-management strategy, it’s because there isn’t one. I’m not sure he sees the need for it, because he’s still in his OL bubble, believing he can do no wrong. Reality will be brutal when it hits him.
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To hate or not to hate
Why do people think that because we see, name and laugh at SH's faults, it must mean we hate him? I'm pretty sure that not many people here do, or we wouldn't be here in the first place. Why do so many people think in black and white? It's not because this group doesn't adore Sam to the point of worship, that we hate him. It's also not because you don't like a particular thing that he did that you must dislike everything about him. It's the same in politics these days, you're either left or right, and somehow the other side is supposed to be your sworn enemy. What happened to using your judgement, to seeing people with their qualities and their faults, and welcoming and respecting the differences that make this world so rich and interesting?
It looks more and more like Macbeth was mostly attended by his hordes of OTT fans who bought the majority of tickets in order to attend multiple times. This for a 200 seats venue. No other cast member had people waiting outside for autographs, especially Lia who is more famous than Sam. No regular attendees broke the no cameras rule but his obsessed fans. While critics' reviews were mixed, the ones from his fans were nauseatingly OTT.
This Macbeth has become a playground for OL Sam only fans. He could have agreed to sign autographs for the first performance only considering that the rest of the cast was ignored by his fans. Instead he made himself the poster child of insane women who didn't even care for the play but travelled from across the globe to see him.
I don't think it will help him career wise, knowing that even some critics were snarky about all this.
Where do I start with this Anon? Of course, there were a lot of OL fans at the play, but they didn't fill the seats for all performances. As is custom, a number of these seats were made available to regular patrons of the RSC. And critics were mostly very favorable. Yes, some fans brake the no photograph rules, and they wait at the door for autographs every night, but honestly, I was afraid it was going to be a lot worse. So Sam is a people pleaser and signs autographs every night. Big deal! He's not responsible for his fans' ignoring other cast members and their behaviour in the theatre. The only thing I find really tacky about the entire affair is the placement of his booze at the theatre. All this to say that I'm not sure why you have your nickers in a twist.
Bonjour B,
J'aimerai bien avoir ta lumière sur la fameuse romance de "Steph et Sam" et aussi par rapport a son ig qui est de nouveau privé après quelques heures ? 🤔 Merci .
Hi B,
I really appreciate your insight into the famous 'Steph and Sam' romance and also regarding her instagram account which is private again after a few hours? 🤔 Merci .
Thanks for asking. I turned off the Anon option since this whole circus started so didn't have to deal with all kind of speculations, crap and nonsense. Nevertheless received the information I showed you all, be it with some reluctance. And it's with the same reluctance I start to write an answer to your ask.
But I struggle hard with how or what to say. I have said in the last few posts I have mixed feelings about it all. I tried to keep an open mind about it all. But the truth is, the more I see the more it turns into some sort of soap. I don't like soaps as most of the time they are boringly predictable with badly cheap scripts.
And yes, I could choose as well not to answer you at all. Just keep my silence and stay out of it all. And that's the dilemma I sort of struggle with, already for weeks and maybe even longer. Part of me wants to write a long post with all that I saw, heard, considered. Just to get it all out of my system and out here. Part of me, and so far a louder voice tells me, it's so not worth it, all the energy all the efforts. And at the end of the day people start to shoot the messenger, will always question the 'source' something comes from, start to speculate, argue and even fight about the silliest things. And all that for what exactly?
Just consider this, the wedding, then the launch and a name got dropped in all inboxes. Yes I know what is said on other blogs, people believing in PR plants or that kind of conspiracy stuff, (I lost count how many times I've been labeled like that). But I know where it comes from and I say this much, it is not PR plants.
The point I'm trying to make though is, if this name wasn't dropped nobody at the play in Stratford would have known who or what to look for. Otherwise, nobody would have looked for it! Right? And you see, the ones that sent me their pics were not PR plants or some shady accounts like some bloggers do want you to believe. They knew what to look for, that's all. I showed you the way I showed it. And from there I hoped if he was so serious about it, he would own it.
And exactly that feeling got stronger after Saturday night. Own it! Just a simple post, look at Jennifer Aniston. Henry Cavil. They're even bigger names than him. Simply post a pic and be done with it. They can, because they are authentic, they have style, they don't hide or play games. Well a game of chess perhaps to get the news out and prevent further idiocy.
Henry Cavil IG
So this whole charade we are presented about her IG being public for a number of hours is completely unnecessary. Be private, stay private or go public and stay public. But don't open up your IG just to get back to private again a couple of hours later. Just when the whole chatter started to slow down. Just to show a glimpse, some body parts or some sugar coated presented romance. The only thing achieved with this action is that it detracts from any credibility.
And no, in no way this was some accident or glitch or whatever. It was carefully prepped all day. I've seen how the number of posts went down and up again and down again. I went to sleep somewhere between 2 and 3am my time and it was still private. An hour later or so I woke up to pee and had a look on my phone with a half eye, and had DMs of people telling how she was public. So I took a look and posted what I posted.
Only to wake up and see how she went private again, he didn't own it and kept silent all day. I'm sorry, but I have no good word for that. The only words I have for it, I don't want to say out loud on here. It turns me off big time. It only creates the drama we've seen over the past years more than once, and who is to blame for that? With behaviour like that you're asking for it. I can only see how this will turn off more people than just me. It's tiring, it's childish, it's stupid, it's a circus I rather don't want to be part of at all. And that's my honest answer.
Here are my thoughts on this going public thing:
Sam knows this fandom and how intrusive some of its members are. Hell, he wrote a whole rant on it. He knew that having Steph and her child in that photo of the distillery opening, would create a search for their identity. He also knew that they would be identified because they always are.
Since she’s been following him for a while, she also knew this fandom and what she was exposing herself and her child to. She didn’t go private for no reason.
The question is why? Why go public if you didn’t want to own it afterwards? And for that matter, why go public at all if you wanted to keep your private life private?
The opening of her page for a short time is even more bizarre. If they wanted to go public, it seems to me it should have come from him as the known figure of the two, something like what Henry Cavill did.
Some say that she may need her page to be public for her therapy services or her jewelry. Well then, don’t post anything private pointing to the relationship that you have with a certain actor with intrusive fans.
I don’t like to point fingers, but in this case, they are both to blame. Him for half (or 1/4, or even 1/8) owning up to a relationship. Who does that to someone you care about? If he didn’t want to own it, she shouldn’t have been in that picture. As for her, she clearly wanted it out there, or she wouldn’t have made her account public, or post what she did.
It seems to me they’re both playing some type of game. God only knows why.
After reading the 5 reviews, both the play and his performance have received lukewarm reviews. If he wants to be taken seriously as an actor he must focus on polishing his craft. Take remedial classes to speed up the process and pick solid roles, not necessarily leads as he lacks the gravitas needed for memorable impressions, and don't rely on his physique.
I’ve read a number of reviews and I don’t think they’re making him the worst thing about the play. In fact I imagine he’ll be happy enough.
I think the staging, in particular the lighting, is more of an issue than the actors.
Some purists are mildly unhappy with the text, the amalgamation of characters and the change in their motivation.
Seems to me the reviews are mostly positive, especially about the acting, including Sam’s. The adaptation and staging is where the play mostly falls short in the reviews I’ve read.
Overall, it’s seems to be a good comeback to the stage for him. Better than I thought he would do, and I’m happy to say so.
